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Terri.
tho i have not been in that situation i have been in a similar one regarding emotional blackmail such as you are going through
it's a tough call
but for your sanity i would reckon dont go there if you really love him, because he sounds totally detached from you now sexually.. and this will reverberate on other levels too obviously... but you're not convinced he's not getting it somewhere else
if he is, then he's bad news honey and all that crap he is telling you is just cowardly way of getting out of telling you he wants his cake and eat it too.. not sure if you are the cake or not..

you will end up frustrated, broken hearted and mad as hell if you dont do something definite about it soon..
your friend being there will help you

would love to be able to say it'll all be ok in the end.. well. actually it WILL all be ok in the end, but what i cant promise is that he'll still be in your picture.. hopefully it'll be becuase you decided you are better than that!!.. nobody deserves that treatment, whether he's having 'difficulties' or not, surely he can see how he messes you about..

also i'm not gonna say LEAVE HIM ... HE'S BAD NEWS.... the ones that are bad news unfortunately are the ones we fall for..
it's your call. and you will eventually make the right decision.. just try to stay sane and try to find out where his head is.... perhaps a little 'zero tolerance' would shock him into seeing what he really can lose.. if he has become complacent that you'll always want him no matter how badly he behaves then he'll just get worse....you could try the 'you dont want this...(flash relevant sexual part at him) you dont get anything else neither'....

sorry.. i'm off on one of me rants.. ignore me

Dildo all.... Not sure what to say about that one either... Ooo where abouts in France is that? Medivial town

Owning a sporty car cos you like doing them up and repairing engines and what not is an admirable hobby.

Owning one just cos you think it's a babe magnet is a different mind set.

RJR your collection of vehicles sound really interesting! (And while I may shout abuse at Porsche drivers I would never deliberately damage one, that's just childish )

I know you would'ent damage one, and thank you! it is a abmirable Hobby and also my missus likes it only when the project is finished

its a way of owning something thats different too and if you pick clever it don't cost you an arm and a leg!

hello.. talk of cars boring. its just a manner of getting from a to b...as long as vehicle is safe and reliable thats all that counts....our corsa died on us a couple of months ago...[rip]

we bought a fiesta zetec, he seems happy with it...luckily he agrees with me on buying smaller cars.. we live in a very congested city, smaller cars are more sensible here...

our neighbour gets disability cars so whats her latest? a bloody great huge monster truck...well a big 4 wheel thing... i have to clamber into it, pull my self up...[only a short ar*e].. but we live in a city?

why does any city dweller need a 4 by 4.....rant rage..

anyway terri have to agree with aye bee.. this is not a good relationship... i think he'll continue this behaviour because he knows you will keep forgiving him.... seriously hun this is so bad for yourself.... you deserve better treatment..

you say he has mental problems.. so tell him to go and get help. only he can help himself...but keep your distance until he does.... you don't have to take on all his problems, that is his problem, not yours...

i spent/wasted 14 yrs on a tosser like this... damn i'm a hard bitch now but i won't take any cr*p from my 2nd hubby and he knows it...as i always say i'd rather be single again than in a terrible relationship...

you need to get out and socialise..are you isolated where you are? part of this could be your own insecurity about being alone? understandable as you are after all in another country... you concentrate on building yourself up.. then you can deal with the man problem..

we're all behind you.. deep breathing and the mantra for today is... i am worth more....

Seeing as Ive got houses going up on all four sides ,n I hate it, then I will say the land with all the creatures living on it ,is worth saving.

Dildo peeps: ooh; i am hoping the entire willy thread descends upon me; with or without their cars!!!

Aye Be that made lots of sense, thank you. Also flakey lady back up

Te he; funnily enough; i did the "flash parts" thing; nothing like having a pair ofup yer nostrils to concentrate the mind!What really wipes him out though is when i do my impression of " Ze last time when you make ze mad passionate lurve with ze ozzer wumman"

Er....i am told i should be on the stage; i have been told this before. I am a sit down comedienne; vagina monologues & all that. If i can make a terminally depressed French man i reckon their bloody National Health Service should employ me for gods sake!

Anyway; he has once more been booted out & will no doubt suffer agonies of wondering if his willy has been replaced by a pussy....jolly good; let him wonder away; rather than wander away.

zdt

Terri GOOD FOR U

it's not a nice time of year for this to be going on, but then again no time is good. thing is it's a hurdle you have to get over, get him into a section in your head marked 'rainy day man' and get on with your life. fill it with stuff that is important to you.. (yes by all means explore your lesbian leanings with Cat if that's your fancy... Flakey and I will do our utmost to keep the peni thread males and their cameras away from your house if you do.. )

Like Flakey says he has to do this himself. he has to sort his head and think about what he wants..
and unfortunatly that means probably total cut off from you while he decides
he cant decide what he wants while he knows at the back of his head he can just behave like neandethal man and you'll only be mildy vexed at him.. and if you can make him laugh at his worst times, then you will be the haven for him in times of extreme grumpiness. and lets face it who wants that arriving back at the door

you want him only to be with you at his sunniest times, let him go elsewhere and bury his head when he's grumpy..
sounds harsh but it's your quality of life too. it's not all about him


jesus.. will someone shut me up..

ok peni-ers..

what's new with y'all this morning

Dildo all,

Terri , I agree with Aye bee - especially the bit about this being your life and your quality of life too.... Sure relationships involve helping each other out sometimes, but this *has* to work both ways otherwise one partner is just using the other. It isn't all about him, and one day he should realise that, either with your help or without it. You shouldn't destroy yourself to save him.

Not much other news.... I have major PMT at the moment, that's about all.

Don't think I can get to France over Christmas, shame as we could have one heckuva party .

Rains..
have you tried evening primrose oil. i mean mega doses of it and gallons of water..

works for me. i take 3 times the rda and try to drink about 3 ltrs a day of water the week before i'm due, funny you dont retain water when you drink loads of it.. so you dont get that bloated feeling and for some reason the terrible tightrope tension is not half as bad...


alright fellas.. womens problems.. get back to your 'willy extensions'.. nothing you can do here.. and whatever you do.. WHATEVER YOU DO, dont say..''well i see that you're unreasonable, grumpy and easily upset today dear, must be your pmt coming on..'' unless of course you like having your balls in a vice grips..... (two legs exempted from commenting)

I know when not to comment cus i live with someone who has one or two occasions been a bit OTT just before that "time" and i never get into the car during the build up "approx 5 days before" cus i get scared big time. she can be a little scary at the best of times

Will have to try the evening primrose oil, definitely....

Dave just keeps his mouth shut, usually I know when I'm going off on one because he hasn't said anything for ten minutes . He can just about cope as he knows it isn't his fault, but he does spend lots of time doing things like painting the house and tinkering with the car where he isn't under my feet.

well done that man!

out from under "her in doors" is a "good thing", tinkering with a car "good thing" being overly sentive and a "new man" not a "good thing" down the pub "really good thing" being a male "twat" an exelent thing, you gets to hide for hours!

I really don't pity men at all, for having to put up with the other side of PMT! Just wait till we hit the menopause .

There are good sides for him - I tend to get increedibly randy this time of the month, and some things, shall we say, get more sensitive in a good way .

I always get randy when I'm ovulating

I don't have a car yet but I do have a peugot vivacity compact, nice little scooter.

yeah i allways get randy when i'm ovulating too!

I'm such a lust-bucket I make ovules randy. Ooh, there are some now, all a quiver...

roymondo. are you a bigger slapper than 2 legs? is it possible??. surely not!!

I think it's a close run thing. Anyway, he's gone all monogomous now - somebody's got to keep the slapper flag flying.

well i'm proud of you for taking it over.. we will want reports though.. and evidence..

standards must be kept to the usual hi level