h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Okay, my turn:
I was 18 and had been partying for days. I must confess dope was involved. I have to mention this because the dope gave me the ability to carry on for hours - without having an orgasm. She had fun - I had fun. But it wasn't really what I had expected.(She had fun because she knew what to do, BTW, she was several years older than me).

I don't know about first times in general - I only had one. All I know is: Don't get too focused on the first time. It may be great (I hear it seldom is), but it is only the first time. There's always a next time. So relax!

I do know this: Sex is one thing, love is another. Some of the girls here seem to understand. I love that.

Mind you: Love beats everything - including sex.

I guess if my brother walked in on me having sex, he would only be relieved. He (and my mother as well) is convinced I am gay.

Oh well.

Virginity.
I'm a virgin. It doesn't bother me. I've never had a girlfriend. Slightly more bothered. The few girls I have been in love with have all (there have been three) stabbed me in my back. The first one used a poisoned dagger. The last one stabbed me over and over. The one in the middle never knew. I'm still friends with her. She's wonderfull.

My point?

(my brother is a father at the age of 23, but I'm still) JAR

I'm not telling when and where (my son reads my postings) but my first time was great and most of the many subsequent times have been too.
Lucky woman

Even if you did tell, would your lad belive it anyway

Yes; one of my childraising rules (qv) is/was "Never lie to your children"

Pierce, my brother was not mad about me having sex, he was angry that it was with his friend. He saw it as his friend had betrayed him by sleeping with his little sister. He was 16 and very protective of me. My brother didn't hurt him bad it was only a punch or two and my brother took a few punches also.

I agree with Mina, I am having a lot more fun not being in love than I did when I was in love.

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Funnily enough, my parents or rather my father, are very prude and would never stand naked in front of each other.

But my father was always very open to me about his opinions on sex and stuff and I'm not even sure that didn't lead to my attitude turning out to be what some people could call immoral. He basically does not oppose sex before marriage, but he is paradoxically dead against people living together, or having children outside marriage.

He gave me my first - very long - talk on the subject when I was 12, before I went off on holiday on my own for the first time (to a girls' camp). I had no idea what he was talking about as neither at school nor from home did we ever have it explained to us.

And when I did finally produce the first grandson, he said "Fancy you being able to have a baby!"

Parents!

oh, dear. Does it matter? Parents are human, and all humans have faults. I am divorced, I brought my kids up alone, not the life plan I had in mind for myself at 19, I can assure you. People change, some grow together, others grow apart. Sometimes couples stay together for the sake of their children, but have affairs behind their partners back. Which is better? Split up so you're not living a lie? Stay together but be miserable? Either option seems to be harmful to someone....

But you DO see the paradox, don't you: His little sister had sex (which is basically good, as in natural - I mean you were not raped or anything like that) and his friend had sex. So: Your brother should be happy for the both of you, right?

Instead he acted violently - trying to protect you. From what? From indulging in one of the normallest urges known to woman/man - next to eating, sleeping and the like.

Allright, allright, I understand. But only in the sense that I have seen this behaviour-pattern so often.

BTW: If I accidentally caught my baby sister in bed with a guy who wasn't wearing a condom then i WOULD interfere. But that is quite another story.

About the love thing: Yes, sex without love can be a very great thing - far more uncomplicated and thus "liberated" than sex with a loved partner. But that's another story too.

Love & peace and massive sex to all!

Failing the massive sex, love & peace would suit me!

In the words of Dire Straits: Yuo're too far away from me...

I also agree he was out of line, but we got it all straightened out. I think if people were more open and honest about sex, especially parents and kids, there would be less confusion.
Neithern me or my brother ever got the sex talk. Everything we learned was from friend and school.

Same here - and now I'm in the position that I don't know how to tell MY kids...

I'm relaxed though. You see, I never heard of anyone really satisfied with "sex talks". Why? Because it's YOUR first time. Noone around to tell you exactly how to succeed.

Maybe there is a connection with the first time not being what you wanted it to be? Blame it on the sex talks, the parents, the school etc.

Why this obsession with the first time anyway? Was the first step you took in life good for you. Me? I fell and hit my head on a radiator...

Was the first thing I ever wrote a huge succes? Of course not. I was LEARNING for pity's sake.

Yes I know - I'll stop here...

For me, the sexual urge and the urge to eat are usually the same thing....

I know, I know. I once licked whipped cream off a beautiful babe. Got me a nasty colesterol-poisoning. She was - well, er... rather BIG, you see?

BTW: Did you ever come across this graffiti: "No, no, no - cunilingus is NOT an irish airline company..."

Okay, okay - I'm definitely leaving now...

*grins*
That joke's a favourite of my grandfather's
Well, this is certainly turning into an education...
Ugh- it's this horrible paradox really, isn't it? You just want to get it over with and do it, but you don't want to be stupid and rush it either. Aaargh!
I know it's pointless to stress, but it's so damned stressful.
Y'know, I'm gonna have a heart attack by the time I'm 30, the way I'm going...

LOL, but at least it's not asking which in which Shakespeare play you find fellatio

Lok you are only ment to be getting stressed out when you are about therty, devorced, an emochanal wreck, know Mike personally, and therer lots of other things. alls I am trying to say is relax it happens when it happens dont go out looking for it dont aviod it just let it happen.

*grins*
Ah, can't be avoided, I'm a masochist.
A 16 year old masochist. I should just give up now and have myself committed.
I hear they do straitjackets in a whole range of colours these days...