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Dai

Your just a tight-wad really.

Just bookmarking really!

Regarding tantric sex, I haven't done any formal trantric sex but I have done integrated yoga, (a fairly 'spiritual' form of yoga, with a lot of emphasis on breathing, internal observation and meditation), and I have played with self-control in sex. I don't mean repressing a reaction, but I do mean controlling it. Now that its been mentioned, I think it is something I would like to try more of. So far it has been a matter of taking conscious control over speach, or noises, or breathing, or movement, all of which seem to delay and intensify the orgasm in different ways. Some of them have been so intense as to be almost painful.

There are other headspace things I'd like to do, but it remains to be seen what my devious mind thinks up.

Ben

Alpha.... welcome aboard.

Is that a wooden leg or are you just pleased to see me??

Ok my post luncheon question is this:

Is there still a 'times per night' boast that people make? or has lurve makin become so complicatedly intricate and interesting nowadays that 1 time for some could be soooo much better and longer than 4 times for others, which could be described as...'oh average'.....

Control. Now there's an interesting one. Personally, i can control my orgasm, what i mean is I can with-hold it for a certain amount of time.
My fella has to calm things down & keep still when he gets carried away too early for my liking.
Is it the same for all men?? Can you control or stop yourselves cuming with only mind-control or do you have to physically stop the thrusting??

Mind Control

Physicaly stop.

Interesting question. I used to find little bruises on one of my shoulders and when I asked my then lover about them he said "ah... yes... that's were I bite you when I am trying to stop myself coming"

I missed them when we split up.

Ben

Mind control to Major Tom...

going back to the male g.spot(the prostate gland),for the squeamish guy who doesnt fancy a finger up their bum,i hear its also possible to stimulate it externally by firmly massaging the perineum..ive yet to try it though

Fingers up bums??? Really?? In the words of Ali G "Me exit hole will always be me exit hole!!!!!"

Aye Bee

I think the times per night is still very much a boasting thing and really irrelevent compared to the actual time spent with the right person, I'd think more of the hours, minutes instead of times.

Does that make sense?

Serephina got it right...

Well there does seem to be a real male thing about "exit only" when it comes to that paticular part of the anatomy, never heard or tried the external stimulating thing but it's never too late to learn I say and thats the whole point of this thread.

little miss....
dont knock it till you've tried it!!
speaking from both the side of myself and the odd male partner that rather liked it....

though i have developed a sensual massage technique that aims at, but studiously avoids the area just behind the balls....(is this the perenium) in a teasing manner....then one lightly touches it ....the effect, in my case is rather like what one would get if using a cow poke, the electric kind..and my boyfriend thinks he's died an gone to heaven usually... even more effective when you know it's coming but not quite sure when......or whether it will be with hand, tongue or whatever......

sorry....too much info??

.. that technique sounds like better news on the fingernail front, too.

Ok one more question before i go. Well it's more a curiosity thing really. The finger up the bum thing.....isn't it, like messy? Don't you get "stuff" under your nails & all?
Ok i'm turning my own stomach here!!!
>>>>>Off to make the tea!! Ohh, goody....chilli tonight.....



Lynsey

Groobe

I can confirm that the effect you mention is very much spectacular, I was fortunate to experience it with a partner and died and gone to heaven just about describes it.

Little Miss, the question of the stuf under the fingernails, never found it a problem but I would always wash my hands or whatever afterwards

Doh, maybe that's not the best choice of emotion for this subject

Ben:
<< I don't mean repressing a reaction, but I do mean controlling it.>>

What do you mean?

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Oooh yes. As boyf says: "the most powerful sexual organ is the brain"

What sort of stuff would you like to do?

I've been reading more about this tantric sex thing and would love to try it although it seems that one needs a lot of time. Where ther's a will there's a way though eh?

Alex

Difference between suppressing and controlling? Hard to describe, but here goes: one can take conscious control over ones breathing, or just let your diaphragm do it for you. I don't do the equivalent of trying not to breathe I do the equivalent of - say - the kind of breathing you have to do when you swim or when you sing.

It's a bit like the amount of control one needs to take over one's movements when doing Tai Chi or Yoga. In fact, thinking about it, what I am doing is in some ways a meditation: "The mindfullness of sex"! - I am working at being fully and consciously aware of my responses, and at taking full and conscious control over what I do, how fast I breathe, how much noise I make, what noises I make, and so on.

What I try to control is not my orgasm, but my reactions to stimuli. I do occasionally try not to react, not to come, but the danger there is that one can be all too successful!

This works well in a transactional situation: "if you don't come for 15 minutes I'll reward you by feeding you ice-cream afterwards" say. Suitable rewards at your lover's discreation.

I'll get back to you on the 'other stuff'.

Ben

I aways remember reading in Tle Lancet or the British Medical Journal the items that s have had to extricate from male a*ses. These include (obviously) dildos and even electric light bulbs. There was a graphic description of a guy who lost his grip on his battery powered dildo and it 'burrowed north like an invading ! This had to be surgically removed under anaesthetic.

On another occasion, there was a series of letters of accidents involving males and vacuum cleaners. Apparently there was a a variety that had a rotating impellor blade just inside the dust entrance hole. The funniest thing was the excuses various men had for sustaining their injuries. One, that I recall, involved a railway signalman who said he had just been to the loo and on his return, decided to vacuum the stairs to his signal box. "Well, I must have forgotten to do my flies up and all of a sudden my penis got sucked into the vacuum cleaner and was macerated by the impellor"