h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Apparently you wouldn't believe the number of people who "fall over in the shower" and "just landing on it". Why they have a cucumber in the shower is no explained.

And then there was Michael Hutchence, not to mention that poor bloke who was a Tory MP.

Hmmm. Erotic apoxia is not on my list.

Ben

Just got through reading the b-log and in just over a day - 169 postings! Wooohooo - this really IS a fun thread (spread too - of ideas that is! )

So B, I'm not offended at all - you think about whatever you like girlfriend! Brings up an interesting question for me though - so honestly now - how many men really DO think of other women during sex/lovemaking?? And girls? what thoughts do you play with that you dont nescessarily tell your partner about?

Pedro had an interesting point about the hand-job issue - one of my first lovers told me the same thing and went to great lengths (yes, scuse the pun - and with his length it was appropriate!) to show me just what to do and how. Now I go nowhere withuot KY (yes serephina - isn't it great!) and have since been complimented on the hand-job. Quite proud of that - thanks to that first bloke who took the time.

Alpha - you're a scream! I'd forgotten that TP quote -

Someone asked if its ok to grab a woman's head - for me that's SUCH a no-no! If anyone did I'd stop and go home. Honest, there's nothing that pushes my buttons more!

Men seemed to be threateded by some things - ok sure depends on the guy. But I almost always have to "help things along" during sex for myself (I'm quite ok with that). But chaps seem to take it as an insult. Some others however find it kinky so I guess there's no general rule but it would be nice if guys wouldn't take things like that personally - sometimes we just know what works for us and get it done.

As to orgasms - I never suppress. I think most women have multiple-orgasms and I find they just get better and better. Sometimes though I'd like a chap not to try to get me to 15 in a row and just get on with it! Enthusiasm is great - but a great shorter session is still better than a few hours of bone-breaking work!

So glad there's so many out there willing to share info on all this. While it isn't a manual, I think readers might have their minds opened a bit and perhaps exposed to concepts they may not have concidered before. Its like a mission to imporve the sex-life of as many people as we can reach!


Kosh

Picking up Pirate Wenches thread:

It's not the hours that matter; Its the moments..

I have had an unsolicited written testimonial about my handjobs and blowjobs.

Somewhere I have a nauseating but useful American book called something like "How to Please a Man in Bed". Nauseating because it says things like "this one will really get him going, girls" or "ladies, if you learn to [x y z] then he'll never forget you". But once you get past the tupperware-sales-conference feel of the thing it is full of good advice and diagrams, and clear instructions for mind-blowing (and testimonal-worthy!) handjobs. Among other things.

Thinking about the 'times a night' thing versus qality and time I have a slightly different slant on it, and one that might be nearer to Az's comments.

I tend to think about the quality of the sexual space I share with someone. Of course one can share sexual spaces with people other than partners, the bloke you flirt with at work (or on the internet ), or the girlfriends you compare notes with.

But if the sexual space is good, then all sorts of everyday things get swept up into it, like having a bath, or watching tv, and so on. I like random acts of affection.

Ben

Welcome home, you African Viking, You. Nice to have you back

id like to try the tantric stuff myself but i doubt id have the patience!
also as a witch sex in a circle is quite an appealing thought

i cant keep up with this thread.

Keeping up is a common problem. Wanna talk about it?

sorry, but its not a problem i know about...

ha ha ha.

Touche

talking about cant keeping it up....

is there anyone who has suffered from this problem mid encounter?

i have know someone who is on a cocktail of drugs for various medical reasons and it affects his perfomance. sometimes it works, sometimes it doesnt.
what are womens views on this?.
personally. if it happens, it happens, there is no point having a tantrum. its not going to grow any more after youve thrown your rattle out of the pram. just live with it for that moment and find other things to do to please each other.

Nice to see the group holding together on one of the most informative sites to date. anybody want to kick off the day's proceedings ?

Ben: <>

Hmm, sounds interesting. I think I'll have a little experiment. I'm used to controlling breathing for yoga and singing.

<< I have a nauseating but useful American book called something like "How to Please a Man in Bed". >>

Can I borrow it? I have had tuition from a gay guy and he had some truly invaluable information. Also open to improvement though.


Koshana: <>

But if they love it so.....well it can be horny, if you're in the right mind set.

Ben:
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This is a very interesting take on things. I expect some people feel uncomfortable about sexual space with people other than partners or the fact that there is sexual stuff going on between best friends. Blokes especially, would have trouble with the latter.

When you say having a bath, watching TV etc., do you mean with that person or on your own. I'm assuming you mean with them.

To all:

Do you think that some people just aren't very sexual or is it that they are ignoring feelings due to a busy lifestyle, stuff that has happened to them in the past, upbringing....etc etc?

Good Morning ALEX.

There's nothing in that book you need. I read it (don't ask)and it's male propaganda- minimal information. Flick through it in a book shop, but it's not worth buying. I'd guess you already know most of it to begin with.
grabbing a lady's head definitly depends on the moment, and a degree of prearangement- don't just grab, it can ruin the atmosphere if she is taken by surprise.

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Oh definitely. And even then she might not be in the mood for it. Role play helps, then you each know what 'roles' you are in. Ie. who is submissive etc.

Mind you, unexpected things can happen......

agreed. gentle men, a startled lady with your pride and joy in such a precarious place is to be considered !

i have encountered that prob serenity,though usually through them being over excited which i find quite complimentary

Greetings all!

We've had lots of questions approached/asked/answered here but no-one, i don't think, has asked this one?

Whats everyones opinion on inviting a third party into the bedroom??

I personally couldn't handle seeing my bloke with another woman & i certainly wouldn't & couldn't imagine myself with another bloke whilst my fella watched on.

Has anyone ever experienced/experimented with this in a bid to try to spice up the bedroom behaviour??





Lynsey

I have. Has to be carefully thought out, otherwise the effect can be disasterous later (cold light of day, etc.) What I have noticed, though, is the effect is best with 2 women and a single male. Two males tend to become competetive and can forget about the lady, turning the whole thing into a macho stand off kind of cobblers. as i say, needs some consideration before you start.