h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

I am very concerned about Zappgirl, as from what she said, she is supposedly staying put for Christmas and therefore there is no obvious reason for her lack of communication. I am surprised that she hasn't posted to say she is ok. It has passed my mind that 'HE' may have read some of the e-mails we sent her (I did tell her to delete them) and went beserk with her/the computer, either of which would result in her lack of communication, but could also be very serious.

If you can read this Zappgirl, please do let us know you are ok.

Best Wishes

RAINBOW

Hey Zapp,
I really hope you have been too busy celebrating the festive season to log on to your computer, I am missing you here - I don't like it when my friends disappear for too long and we haven't heard from you in a while. I hope you can see how much the people here care about you and will let us know that you are safe, we miss you!

Kelli
x

has anyone heard from zapgirl yet? i emailed her myself a couple of days back and didn't get a response either. i do hope everything is ok but am still worried.
Monsy

Hi Zappgirl. Just checking in to wish you happy Christmas. Please post something on this thread just to let us know you are alright. OK?

Hello everybody, im back! The holidays was ok, spent them together with my boyfriend and his grandparents who live in the same state as us. It was ok, but as we say in sweden, no dance on roses either... Sorry if some of you got worried, and for you who have sent me e-mail the last week, i havent read them cause for some reason i cant get into that e-mail account.

I have told all of this s**t to my mom now, i really was about to pop. So i did and now of course she is worried. But it still feel better to be honest and be able to talk to her about whats really the deal with me. No i havent gone home yet... i guess you all think i stupid not to, but what can i say. He has got some kind of hold on me and i cannot get out, at least not at the time. He is not making me happy thou, so i keep asking myself why i am with him, i get no answer. My mother told me it sounds just like my father when i talk about him, maybe thats why...

Maybe I am the freak, to stay with him...
We had a lot of fun over christmas, except from that he cant take his eyes of other girls sometimes. And he is totally open about it. So i guess maybe he just wants my attention or something... who knows. I mean dont get me wrong, he is crazy about me to, same thing. I just feel confused still, trying to figure out if other guys are like that, cause i have been with young guys before you know, and i cant remember they did that. He is manipulating right... maybe he feels like i care when i act jealous. I realized when i dont care about his silly comments and stuff, he is getting quiet and down.

Anyways. Life still goes on, have a nice rest of the holidays, and a happy new year!

Hi Zappgirl,

Good to hear from you again. Is that email addy permanently out of order? Do you have another one? I can re-send mine if you like.

Also very good to know that you had fun at Christmas. And REALLY good to know you have told your mother.

In the meantime - why not check out prices for a return ticket to Sevrige? Go home for AT LEAST 6 weeks, with the let-out clause that you can go back to the US if you want to. But by then you may find you don't. That is what happened to me. Once I was able to think by myself, I found I could think for myself.

Keep in touch honey.

Love

Ben

Geez...

OK, so nobody in this community ever heard of me before, chances are that I won´t be here much, at least not with this nick... (but it was the first thing in sight and I had to register.)

I stumbled upon h2g2 just two hours ago... And started to read this thread... I just had to say something...

I don´t have the experience (I am barely older than you, Zapp), or the background knowledge the others, who are in email-contact with you, have, but I just read all your postings in one sitting.

Try using this thread as a diary... and start to read it. Just read your stuff, the others just keep saying the same over and over. Read just how you started and where you are heading...

You´ve come a long, long way justifying this relationship... not before us, but yourself...

You are so much into protecting him, that you have even started to feel guilty => I reckon thats what he wanted in the first place. Just like a spoiled brat does with his mom. (

read, think, learn and then RUN, RUN, RUN...

Go home, go anywhere else, do whatever, but get away from him.

I don´t know if this makes any sense to you, or if its just the same as all rest have written. But please read the backlog.

LuckyStrike (I just hate this nick)

P.S. If you need yet another person to E-Mail to => [email protected] (please be patient... I will be back online next tuesday)

P.P.S. Cheers, to all the rest of you guys out there. I have never seen such a comforting and honest online-community... I really am deeply impressed...

We all came together because of this amazing guy who has left us for the great reading room in the sky, the late great Douglas Adams.

Alji

zapgirl,
glad to see you are still around. please do take the advise of these researchers. i know some people seem very sweet and kind most of the time and only mean part of the time. trust me that this is a big warning sign. if i had it to do over again i wish i had done more than i did to keep my little girl safe.
Monsy

Hi Zappgirl,

dont worry about not recognising me, just another nosey researcher who has keeping an eye on you over the past months and worrying from a distance with no actual help to offer.

But I'd like to say three things:

Well done for telling your mother

You are not a freak

Happy New Year.








take care of your self.

FABT

That's four things.

*lurking*

Heh...hey you guys, and welcome to the club you who just entered the conversation. I know most of you think i should be on the other side of the planet right now, i dont have any excuse... Its also nice to hear from somebody who not just tells me to GO GO GO, hello FABT! And i thought i was a strong person. Life is so odd at the time, i had a lot of fun at new years eve, surprisingly, we had a bit to much of everything! I have been reading throu this whole thread once, i know what you are saying, but all i could think of was how worried i am that he will find this community and read this... but i guess im just paranoid. Yesterday i think i was close to learn how to fly, since i was standing on a chair scrubbing off a stain in the ceiling, i dint even realize i was falling until my man catched me... i mean that must be almost the same thing as beeing distracted and missing the ground, meaning, if he wouldnt have catched me maybe i would have missed?? sorry, i am not making any sense here.....!!

Take care, love to hear from all of you soon!

hello again, i just opened up my e-mail for the first time in a while, its been unavailable for a bit....to all you who sent me e-mail, ill answer soon ok! and belated happy new years to all you angels out there!

You very own Zapp

Happy 2002, Zappgirl. So pleased you are back and sounding well.

Nice to hear from you again Zappgirl.
Take care.
Wish you well for 2002 and beyond.
Om

Zappgirl, we are getting worried about you again. No news is bad news in your situation.

Remember - it is NEVER ok for a man to hit a woman, and no matter how many times he says 'Sorry - I love you really' it is ONLY true at the time he says it. Later on, he'll do it again.

I have some friends who had to fly from Sweden to Seattle to go to his father's funeral. The cheapest option that got them there on time cost them either $600 or $800 (I can't remember which) and they went via the UK. They went from Stockholm to London Stanstead using Ryanair, and then from London Heathrow to Chicago and Seattle using another carrier. If you can be flexible on dates it may be cheaper still.

It isn't $2000 any more.

Don't let a lack of cash stand in your way. Ask for help. You will get help if you ask for it, I promise you.

Keep us posted, and get the hell out of there.

Love

Ben

hey again. I am sorry to hear you are worried, i would probably be to. But i realze i havent been writing because everything has been ok for a while now. (a week or so). Yes he slaped me in my face, and if i would be him i would be deeply ashamed, i think he is for real. The thing is that i have been hitting him real bad a couple of times (ooops...), far more serious than he did to me .

I get so furious at him sometimes and all anger is just collecting into one big thing, so i attack him every once in a while, and he is taking a beat, he tells me he is surprised how strong i am. Well anyways enough about my violent life...

At this time i have not in plan to leave the country or him, but who knows maybe tomorrow i will feel different. We are planning to move to another state in 2 months, further south, more sun is better. We have alot of fun sometimes, alot of times. I know the next time i feel bad about something i will hear an "i told you..." in my head, refering to all you guys who tells me to get the hell out. But how can i go when i love him? i will feel empty like i did the last time i was away from him... man. Life is a bitch!!

(and then you die)

hi sweetie, glad you're still in one bit. i hope this year is a better one for you than the last has evidently been.

be selfish, YOU are the most important person in your life. you cant get away from your self, you have to live with whatever decisions you make. dont forget why you get up every day.....for YOU. no body else. you are a beautiful person, make a life worthy of that fact. you don't owe anything to anybody, including us. if you want to get out then do, if you want to leave, then leave. what ever is right for YOU. You are the only one who can decide.


thinking of you

FABT

i also meant to add

"if you want to stay, stay"

but my fingers mutineed.

the whole speech doesn't make sense with out the missing line, but maybe there is a reason my fingers wouldnt type it....creepy hah? haunted fingers.

FABT