h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Zappgirl. Stay cool and stay calm. read the posts from your friends above. There are people here who really care for you and are praying for you and who want to see you get through this. Listen to Ben and Rainbow's advice. Act on it.
The moment that threat of violence was made, your relationship with this person has changed forever. It is not healthy and you should remove yourself from it, for his sake as well as yours. Go home to your mother, quietly and quickly.
Om

Listen honey. Ommigosh is right. You have email addresses - use them.

What city are you in in the US? This is a website with about 4000 active users. Lots of them are in the US. There may well be a sofa you can sleep on somewhere very near. I found out I live only 5 miles from one researcher and that I went to the same school as another. The world is only this wide >| |<.

Tell us where you are, and use those email addresses. Contact us - me - us any way you can.

Ben

oh zapgirl.

get the F*ck out of there. You cannae live in fear for the rest of your life (which might be considerably shorter if he does what he's threatened) There's nothing really stopping you: you've got no kids, you're a beautiful, educated, strong women - you can get another job anywhere. You've no reason to stay and be abused by him.

take care, we're all thinking about you.

You have heard all that we have said all through the thread and every so often you say things are actually getting better and we're not to worry, then a few days later something else happens. We 'are' worried. He is never ever ever going to change and is getting worse. Go to your family ASAP and as it's been said do it quietly without telling him. Think of the relief of not having to put up with his moods and living for yourself. No one is worth this much unhappiness when you should be having the time of your life at your age. People who are married with children (far more ties than you) manage to get away from such situations and live to tell the tale, thankful that they have realised what a nightmare they were living. We won't believe any more emails persuading us he's not that bad really when clearly he is a monster ! Start organising today to ensure you have a Happy Christmas rather than a miserable one with him. Go for it and good luck.

hello everybody. First of all you all who worry about me, dont, i have understood i can not get mad or question anything about "this man". Supposed to be my friend but no more. He thinks that i am the one who is making him threaten me and he is not responsible for any actions. As time goes by i have also realized that he has not taken responibility for anything before either. Why do i want to be with him? i dont know, i guess i think i love him, but recently my feeling are getting tired, when i realize i can not be an emotional person with him, not beeing able to show anger, also keeps me from showing love... there is no way for me to get home before christmas unles i want to pay $2000 for a ticket, i dont have that. And its not like i could ask him. Maybe he would help me with it, but then he would do everything to stop me in his own way. You see, the hard thing is, that spite of his hot temperament, he can also be the nicest loving man... well again, dont worry, ill figure something out.

If anyone of you are in the states, or just feel like sending a hello: [email protected]

Hey again. I just want to thank you all for your concern and for you who has e-mailed me, LOVE for you! I cryed when i was reading that, thinking that people who doesnt have a clue of who i am, care more for me than my own boyfriend. Thank you from Zapp

Check out flights for after Christmas, eh? Take good care of yourself, my dear.

Love

Ben

Hey Zapp

Sounds like you need a few of those. "I don't want to do this, it's not my fault, you're making me do this" This is such a tired and dangerous old excuse you know. However often you say don't worry - we will if you're being subjected to this level of manipulation and control. Take care of yourself girl, and whatever you decide to do know that we're all thinking about you and wishing you safe and happy.
Best of luck
MC

Just a suggestion. If you need $2,000 why not get yourself a credit card? (With most card providers, they'll give you that kind of limit for just for having a pulse.) Then once you are home and if you decide to stay there - which has been *strongly* suggested in this thread. Well, just flip them off, they aren't going to chase you half way around the world for a measly aeroplane ticket.

Or slightly more legally, pick one with a low interest rate and just pay them back at the minimum amount per month...

Could you ask your family to help you get a ticket? I am sure they would be delighted to have you back home.

What ever you do, take care of yourself,


k

This thread might interest you... http://www.bbc.co.uk/h2g2/guide/F10338?thread=156574&post=1556429#p1556429 ...now stay safe. OK?

Just followed that link. Speechless.
Zappgirl, I think it's important you read that thread.
Take care

MC

Well done, GreyDesk, I just came here to give her the exact same link.

Great minds, eh?

Stay safe, as well.

Zappgirl, I notice you haven't posted for 3 days. Please write something just to let us know you're alright.

Hi, it's me again. Please post something so that we know you're ok.

Hi Zappgirl, let us know how you are. People are worried.

You have some email addresses - so please do use them. Give us news, even if it is bad. We want to help. I am away for a week, but Rainbow is around all over Christmas, and has my phone number.

Take care, and keep in touch.

Love

Ben

Zappgirl hasn't posted in over a week. Has anyone been in touch with her?

I don't think anyone has heard from her. Ommigosh, Rainbow and I have *sent* her emails, but I am pretty sure that none of us have received a reply.

I was concernd not to spam her, but I am beginning to think a little spam might do some good.

She posted her email in post 125 above.

It is [email protected]

So I'll send her another today, but from this afternoon onwards I am out of electronic reach till the 28th.

*passing the baton*

Ben

ben...hopefully she does not mind spamming because after i followed this link from my forum i emailed her quite a long email. i don't know if she will read it or not but i am hoping for the best. from what i have read she seems like a very sweet caring person who has become trapped by a manipulative man. no good can come from this relationship. hopefully she takes everyone's advice before it is too late.
Monsy

for Monsy, for Zappgirl, s for everyone.

B