h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Uneventful New Years, yep mine was very quiet. A traditional family gathering until during the journey home the exhaust half dropped off my car and ended up dangling in a muddy puddle in the gateway of a field whilst is was p***ing it down with rain at silly o'clock in the morning.

i thought it would be more typical that you would not fall in love with a girl at all, going by the 'it is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all quote' hummm, I camnt believe you guys didnt think that this years new year, was the greatest, every year it just gets better and better, maybe its juat a me thang, oh well celebrations over guys, monday today, hell working takes it out of you, socialising for 2 weeks was just too easy, Xantic, do you socialise enough> there are lots of friendly girls you could meet that way, through friends etc, i'm, sure u'll find a gr8 girl soon enough

You know what they say - it is better to have loved a short man, than never to have loved a tall....

ooops, sorry Xan

France.

ho ho ho, yeah but dont they flucking speak french? guess u dont have that barrier, they maybe so 'friendly' u dont even notice u cant understand a word! look they are everywhere, nice girls are all around but if u dont seek u shalt not find

I think a part of my problem is I don't socialize enough. I don't really have much in the way of friends. And travelling around hasn't helped that much, I'm not staying in one place long enough to make friends.

Remember I mentioned there was a girl from a hostel who was saying some stuff in Malaysian to me sometimes. I didn't know if she was flirting or mocking me or what. In any case I'm back at that hostel and her and the manager just returned from their honeymoon

ohhhh hunny, its kewl, how long will you be travelling for, you will find someone for sure, soon enough, i socialise all the time but thats becuase i have a huge network of friends, socialising really does you good, are you confident? i guess from your post that your not, but all i can say is be yourself and someone will come along soon, and the feelings will be mutual sorry if i cant spell, i basically write in my own language, Kellynese

Okay... a post about my percieved ineptness...

What I find tends to happen, is that every so often through random chance I will get invited to a party or gig or something... Then, knowing that I'm a complete social loser I'll take ages to psyche myself up and generally try to prepare for talking to people.

During the evening I'll find I have more difficulty understanding what people say than most, and that my confidence is inversely proportional to the number of people in my vicinity. Despite this I'll still sometimes manage to come across as funny, and occassionally, even charming.

At the end of the evening or whatever I'll come back home and think it over, and usually congratulate myself on how well it went, how normal I seemed and for talking to other people.

But thats it... I often won't see the people I met ever again, and until I go to something else I'm right back at square one...

The only people I seem to make lasting friendships with are those I see often, generally through my uni, or those who I can talk to on the Internet...

=> I've decided the only way past this barrier is to try getting girls' numbers...
Would I sound stupid to ask for ICQ/instant messaging program numbers?
I tend to come across better that way than on the phone.

*still, I have my music *
Huffers - an eternally hopeful fool

Hi Huffers. Sticking around people you see often is not a bad thing at all. You don't just walk into a bar and strike up a relationship. These things take time to grow. Please excuse my presuming but I have advised Xanatic to do the following, and it my help you. When you're talking to someone in a social situation, remember that they, too, are probably quite self-conscious. Look at yourself from their point of view and imagine what they might be thinking. It's more likely to be "Is my skirt rucked up at the back and do I look a jerk with it like that" "I hope my mascara's not smudged" "I wish I could think of a wittier way to say this" "Oh God, I'm boring this guy". They will NOT be thinking "This bloke's a twit", "He ought to clean his shoes", "does he know he's got fluff on his trousers".

Now take a look at your post above and count the number of "I"s. When talking to someone, remember that this is a word to avoid where possible. Just think "you". And just talk "you". And take it from there.

Report back in a couple of weeks......

PS That was all very presumptuous and I'm about that but ...

20 "I"s...
is that a record or something?

presuming excused... for the reply!

I'll report back later then,
Huffers out

I never get invited to parties. And if I do go to one I end up being very self-conscious. I just can't relax and don't know what to do, so I end up just being very boring. Which is again why I don't get invited to parties. And seeing how well everybody else is doing just makes me sad, and I end up being suicidal at the end of the evening.

Xantic, ahhh bless ya honey, 2003 is great for partys, i think i have been invited too about 12, either that or i have forgotten the rest, that may sound like a really small amount to some people but these are not your average going out days, ok i will stop trying to justofy the fact that i dont go to a huge amount of parties, but for me 12 is huge because once apon a time ago i used to get invited to 0 parties, and there are only 4 weeks in the average month, so 12 is good for me, anyway... the reason that i have been invited to what i think is a lot of birthdays is because when i meet people i am totally myself, if i am feeling happy i will show it, generally i am a really positive confident girl becuase you have just got to give the best to life that you have got in order to get the best out, you will find that if you always smile and try to get positive with your attitude it will work well, for example instead of thinking, 'this sucks' think, i wanna go and dance and i will do that, all by myself iif neccessary then i will pull some friends up and juts do whatever i want, becuase it makes me happy, and if it makes me happy then there is a good chance it will make someone else happy too, wow, this is long, sorry if you cant be bothered to read it

this is my sad story
i know a lovly nice fiendly and frankly darn good to google at girl and on the subject of partys i went to a grand new years bash. now for me to link those 2 half senatnces to make a tale worthy of chronicals. the lovly nice friendly girl was at this party but unfourtunatlly so was several thousand (at the last count) bottles of champagne. to leap back in time to the 23rd of december when i went to a party to celebrate the upcoming festivitys. my best frind told me (in the clasic school yard fahion) that the best frind of the lovly nice friendly girl quite fancied me to say i was happy was quite correct. back again to the 31st of december which i may of mentioned that she was there and that also was some champagne. to cut a long story (im boring myself with it) short i ended up making an unsuccseful pass at her. its now the 22nd if you dont know and i havent spoken to her for more than 2 minutes so i can say that alchol and lovly (sober) nice friendly girls dont mix and you should avoid if you want to speak to them

Speak to them again, apologise for your state and blame nerves. Sometimes works

drawing out my horrible tale i have discovered i have a worse, more embarssing, more sordid and frankly equally as boring tale involving a new years party this was the change from 2001-2002 party. interesting it starts on the 23rd of december aswell (am i cursed) i met a new girl and we clicked instantly and she became the one for me in under a day. she didnt go to this party. other girls did. so did a bottle of tia maria, bailys and whiskey. after downing 12 b52s in 30 mins and clutching the whisky bottle as if were a child i was incredibally pissed. i cant remeber the rest but from what other partygoes said i cheated on my new girlfriend 3 times was sick over 1 of the girls 1 of the girls was the hosts girlfriend so he hasnt spoken to me since. it ended with me colapsed in a pile of sick on a crossing island in the A4 still clutching the bottle of whisky. my girlfriend left me own the 14th of feb (good timing) becuase she couldnt trust me and frankly she extended my point.
1 alchol and lovly (sober) nice friendly (single) girls dont mix
2 alchol and any girl that isnt the lovly nice friendly girl you love

Maybe it's more a case of you and alcohol don't mix?

interesting theory. but alchol takes away the sacrs of my youth do you sugest i become a happy t-totaler or a happy wino

Tough choice

there is a third way!
i can become responsible and drink only in moderation benifits are i will hopfully be luckyer in love and still be able to unwind and enjoy myself.

Easier said than done