A Conversation for Teenage Issues
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Courtney Patron Saint of Social Embarassment Started conversation Jun 22, 2000
Here's my rant... Teenagers and preteens today are becoming sexually active at disturbing ages. They are rushing into something that they think they understand, or they are being pressured into it by friend. I am not saying that they shouldn't have sex, I myself was in my early teen my first time, but a lot of (not all) teenagers today have only a vague idea of the concequeces that can arise from running head first into it. There is pregnance, and STD's because you may feel embarssed about buying condoms, and not knowing how to use them. Well as I said there was my rant...
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Ioreth (on hiatus) Posted Jun 22, 2000
Teenagers today understand the conqequences better than ever, actually. Teenage pregnancy is way down, which would mean condom use is way up, which means stds do not spread as quickly. The news is actually quite encouraging.
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Courtney Patron Saint of Social Embarassment Posted Jun 22, 2000
Maybe for highschool teens, but I'm mostly refering to younger teen 12-15, they are having sex and not usually being careful. Jst my opinion.
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Martin Harper Posted Jun 22, 2000
You should take a long term view... ten thousand years ago, people were having sex at eight on a regular basis... and no protection, either...
MyRedDice - "but I bet their sex education was a lot better"
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Archangel Tweetie (01/06/02...) Posted Jun 22, 2000
Fun facts to know and tell- I live in the worst area in the whole of *Europe* for teen pregnancies. There are lots of reasons for this, but lack of sex ed and extreme peer pressure are the most significant.
Kinda of a scary thing to find out- especially when you've always considered your town to be a nice, quiet little place...
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Mike A (snowblind) Posted Jun 22, 2000
I'd love to get using a johnny (sp!) on someone, but who the hell's gonna tell me how?!
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Demon Drawer Posted Jun 22, 2000
1) Go buy one, they are available in chemists and all good gents' toilets.
2) Open packet.
3) Remove clothing.
4) 2 and 3 are reversible in order.
5) Take Johnny out of individually hygenically sealed wrapper, checking that:
a) it hasn't exceeded the use by date
b) you are at least getting a hard on
6) Carefully roll Johnny over the little soldier who should by now be standing to attention, alternatively get the other person to do this for you.
7) You are now dressed ready for action, pull the person you love close and insert point A into hole B if this is you first time after approx. 20 seconds extract point A from point B and do not ask was that good. Good only come with practise and the use of foreplay and afterplay.
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Mike A (snowblind) Posted Jun 22, 2000
Ok, I'd sussed that, but is there anhthing to putting it on that one should bear in mind, for fear of breakages? Or just generally roll the tosser down over your member?
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Demon Drawer Posted Jun 22, 2000
Notice I used the word carefully. Practise on a frozen sausage or something first if you're not sure. Or use the let the other person do it method. They will be careful to check for breakages as they will be trying not to have your fluids enter them upon entry.
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Yrth Posted Jun 23, 2000
In all fairness, Courtney, humans have historically engaged in reproductive relationships at the age of 12. This is nothing new. In fact, females are capable of sexual activity probably from birth (I've never seen anything earlier than age 5), and males are capable of sexual activity probably from prepubescence (I've never seen anything earlier than age 8).
Our current culture defines sexuality from the ages of 14 and on, but those arbitrary age limits have nothing to do with sexuality. Sexuality is a biological function, and it is not restricted by age. The problem is not sexual activity. The problem is *denying* sexual activity.
A couple is probably not emotionally capable of caring for a child until they are in their early teens. I won't even contest that. I consider it to be an axiomatic truth. That is the age that a couple is *capable* of caring for an infant. However, a female is physically capable of caring for an infant if she is physically capable of bearing it, and a male is physically capable of caring for an infant when he is physically capable of it. That is not the same as when either person is capable of being sexually active, and it has nothing to do with when either is recognised in law as being able to do either.
Strangely enough, women mature sexually earlier than men do, however our culture requires women to *repress* their sexuality longer than it requires men to. That is a cultural bias. There isn't actually anything wrong with the whole system, but for one thing. We require our children to be ashamed and embarassed about their sexuality.
Ask yourself this: If I am a male, why would I be embarassed to buy a condom? By buying one, am I not at least suggesting that I expect to have sex? Why is that something to be embrassassed about? That is a normal, healthy function. If we ceased to perform that function, the species would cease to exist. Why should that embarass me? It embarasses me because my culture regards sex as sinful. If I am a female, why would I be embarassed to buy a condom? The same reasons apply. The only reason a woman would be embarrassed to do so is because she felt that sex was sinful.
So, when God said, "Go forth and multiply", what part of that statement suggested that human beings should be embarrassed about sex?
The solution is simply not socially acceptable. We teach "sex education", and in doing so, we teach a class in human physiology. God forbid that we should teach our children about actual sex. Why, when we teach our children about sex, do we teach them about Anatomy and Physiology, rather than teaching them about sex? Why don't we show them 'pornographic' movies that actually *show* them how people have sex? Why don't we teach them the basic *mechanics* of copulation? Why don't we show them movies that show them *precisely how* to put a condom on, or to insert a diaphragm, or to use a female condom? Why don't we tell them *outright* how pregancy occurs, in all it's detail? We don't do it because we consider sexuality embarrassing and sinful *ourselves*, and we pass that on to our children. Along with that, we pass on the taboos against being open and honest about prophylaxis. We pass on our taboos against masturbation and self-gratification.
If you want teens to hold off on their sexual activiity, start with telling them that masturbation is OK. Let your sons know that masturbation is OK. When your daughters come of age, have their hymen surgically snipped, and buy them a d***o or vibrator. *SUPPLY THEM* with pronographic videos. As long as your children are masturbating themselves with your knowledge and consent, they are not having sex with each other. If they don't feel compelled to have sex with each other because masturbation is a Sin, then they will refrain from sexual activity until such time as they actually fall in Love with somebody, and have sex for the *right* reason. Because they are in Love, and want to have children.
If you plant your hope in the idea that you can keep your children from exploring their sexuality simply because it's "proper", you know that won't work. It didn't work for you. It didn't work for me. It has never worked for anybody, not even a priest.
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Ioreth (on hiatus) Posted Jun 23, 2000
In my high school (which is private, but I believe they do this in public schools also) "Planned Parenthood" comes in and demonstrates putting a condom on a banana. We also did the "condom process" lineup where several people were given steps and we had to line up in the correct order. Much giggling, but highly informative.
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Mike A (snowblind) Posted Jun 23, 2000
The trouble with practising on 'nanas and things is that these johnnys are bloody expensive! Guess yer bird doesn't need to know we're you've been putting the thing beforehand....nothing wrong with the banana anyway (but who'd eat it afterwards?)
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Peta Posted Jun 23, 2000
Condoms. We've got an entry on this. This page http://www.h2g2.com/A330571 tells you how to buy a condom and how to put it on. It also give you some interesting alternative uses for a condom, though perhaps none will be quite as *interesting* as it's intended use...
You might also check out this entry on Durex condoms. It tells you about the different types you can buy.
http://www.h2g2.com/A330553.
Durex condoms
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Clelba Posted Jun 23, 2000
I'm 14 and I haven't had sex yet. That could be cos I go to a girl's school and never get out, but that doesn't stop the other sluts. Sorry if this offends anyone, just thinking of something almost irrelevant to say
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Will Jenkins (Dead) Posted Jun 23, 2000
I go to the Boy's school down the road. Who are these sluts?
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Archangel Tweetie (01/06/02...) Posted Jun 23, 2000
I dunno about anyone else, but as far as I'm concerned, having sex when you're still trying to figure out what the heck to do with your life seems a little soon. Not that I'm saying wait until you're 30 before you have sex (as if) but you should be sure of what you want, before you decide *who* you want.
Check it out- eloquence
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Mike A (snowblind) Posted Jun 23, 2000
Well, impatient dude that I am, I'll all out for trying it as soon as poss *^_^*. When you've got a real nice girl with you, whom you know v well, nice friend...is it just me, or do you want to just get down a f**k her stupid? Just me then *^_^*
The only prollem I'm thinking of is getting on with a bird who's gonna know that it'd be a first time, and she's being, effectively, experimented on. How many would want to go through with that then? But, I guess, if you're really in with whoever you're doing it with, this matter becomes irrelevant. Ok, problem sorted
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- 1: Courtney Patron Saint of Social Embarassment (Jun 22, 2000)
- 2: Ioreth (on hiatus) (Jun 22, 2000)
- 3: Courtney Patron Saint of Social Embarassment (Jun 22, 2000)
- 4: Martin Harper (Jun 22, 2000)
- 5: Archangel Tweetie (01/06/02...) (Jun 22, 2000)
- 6: Demon Drawer (Jun 22, 2000)
- 7: Mike A (snowblind) (Jun 22, 2000)
- 8: Demon Drawer (Jun 22, 2000)
- 9: Mike A (snowblind) (Jun 22, 2000)
- 10: Demon Drawer (Jun 22, 2000)
- 11: Yrth (Jun 23, 2000)
- 12: Ioreth (on hiatus) (Jun 23, 2000)
- 13: Mike A (snowblind) (Jun 23, 2000)
- 14: Peta (Jun 23, 2000)
- 15: Mike A (snowblind) (Jun 23, 2000)
- 16: Shergar (Jun 23, 2000)
- 17: Clelba (Jun 23, 2000)
- 18: Will Jenkins (Dead) (Jun 23, 2000)
- 19: Archangel Tweetie (01/06/02...) (Jun 23, 2000)
- 20: Mike A (snowblind) (Jun 23, 2000)
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