h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Sorry, since i kept hearing you refer to Dublin, i assumed you were Irish.
You're from Denmark originally aren't you?

Yeah, I come from Denmark so naturally I have a London accent. Yes, people get quite confused. I need to regain my Danish accent, so I can sound exotic.

Your accent's cute kiddo, but it don't beat my Belfast brogue

wanna try a dutch accent?

Heh, dutch accents are funny.

Well I am meant to have a Manchester accent and lost it when I lived in Leicester for awhile and after I moved back people thought I was from nottingham **

Personally I think when it comes to voices like I jokingly said before I think being able to understand what the person says is important... unless you take the nod your head in agreement on whatever was said approach.... does not always work especially if they ask an indepth question...









** Please will people from Nottingham not take offence but it is a Manc thing as I am a Manc through and through despite spending a few years in Leicester

Still officially single... oh the fun of new potential relationships!

Had Milky up from London again this weekend, he's finding it quite difficult there, and is quite lonely, poor thing. Has yet to find a crowd of friends to go out with and thus meet more friends and NFGs.

Officially maybe, but you are with that fuzzy guy.

Hmmm, yeah can be difficult when you´re in a new place. Good luck to him.

Yeah, still 'single', but wouldn't go snogging a bloke in a pub.

I feel this will take quite a while yet..

Well, I can´t figure it out anymore

The Cork University has about 14000 students. That must mean about 7000 girls. So hopefully there´s a chance I might meet a girl who likes me

A question about ex-NFG's...

So I've been seeing a NFG, J for a month now and it's all going well and happy until now...

On Sunday my ex-NFG, C phoned and said he was in London and would I like to go for with him. I agreed and off we went to a lovely matey lunch. Definately no funny business, just as pals. Whilst we were having lunch C mentioned that he will be in London next weekend and hadn't managed to find someone to stay with. I offered him my sofa without even thinking about it, as we're still friends.

The problem comes when I spoke to J in the evening and I told him all about my day, including meeting C for some lunch. This really didn't go down too well with J, and things got even worse when I said that I had offered C a sofa at the weekend.

So I throw the question to the combined brain of the NFG thread - who should I give preference to here? Should I not see my ex in preference to my new NFG or should it be the other way around. Do any of you have experience of a NFG still being pals with their ex? How do you compromise over this?

I'm really worried that I've stuffed it up with J, but I'm not sure that I can be Nice and Friendly with a person that can't trust me to be mates with my ex.

Any advice appreciated guys. I'm a bit about all of this. Tch! Men eh!?



QB

Xan, there's a NFG out there for you, Just take a sample of the 7000 girls until you find one that suits you!

Well, what exactly is it he doesn´t trust you to do? For example it might be that he thinks you would have a quick fling with the old bf when he sleeps over. It wouldn´t be too good if he doesn´t trust you with that. But it could also be that he´s worried you will go back in a relationsship with him. And it does seem fair enough, women do go back to ex-boyfriends.

If it was me, I´d also be rather mad if an ex-bf was staying over at my gf´s.

Lol! Xan, I completely agree, I would be royally pi$$ed if J's ex stayed with him for the weekend! I'd try to accept it though, as I trust him and you can't have a relationship without that basic trust.

I think I need to convince J that I seriously wouldn't ever go back to C. It's kind of hard to persuade him of it as he's already so hostile to the idea.

It's a weird one, I know I'd be annoyed but I also want him to accept it and then trust me. Complicated one!

Any practical advice?

hmm... a tricky situation QB

You just explain to J that you're just friends with C, that it doesn't mean anything, you're not secretly getting back together and that C just needed somewhere to stay.

Maybe you could introduce them to each other?

Though I admit if I had a girl who was still seeing ex-boyfriends even though it was just as friends, i probably would get annoyed. I think it's a bloke thing, sorry QB.




Xan, I'm sure you'll fiind someone amongst that 7000, though if you have luck like mine she'll already have a boyfriend.

Well, maybe you could have J over in the bed while C is on the couch. Then he´ll know nothing is happening.

Hmmm, I think introducing them could lead to violence... J is very upset on my behalf of the way that C treated me at the end of the relationship.

I think I'll just have to join a convent instead.

Or not have him over.

I remember we had a discussion at my last job about staying friends. I think in Denmark you don´t usually stay friends with an ex, when it´s over it´s over. Whereas in Ireland that is more common.

In my view J still has to learn that women are temperamental, irrational creatures who will do something completely controversial like invite an ex-boyfriend over without giving it a second thought. He will learn not to argue in time.

B

try telling J that the other will sleep on the couch and that you will baricade the bedroom door, trow out all the afrodisiacs and train your and the neighbour's pets to kill everyone who tries to enter at night...

I wouldn't have him stay. It's nice that you're friends and stuff, but if he treated you badly at the end of your relationship he can find somewhere else to bed down! Otherwise, have J stay over, on the understanding that he'll be good. Or he just has to trust you, which means you'll have to drum into him how uninterested you are in your ex. Tell him you split up with your ex for a reason, cuz you weren't right for each other, and that's not gonna change.