h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Too many black eyes, you get used to treading softly. Or finding yourself a man who's a big pussy cat! I think holding the door oopen for people is just courtesy, but a lot of women now don't scream equality about things like that, its just women, statistically, get paid less than men in the same salaried jobs, thats feminism!

Men with tempers, black eyes, treading softly...
We shouldn't know about these things in the 21st Century. Why are they still with us?

And the pay thing...

I'm not sexist, you get battered husbands too. I just crumble if I'm in love with a guy and he raises his hand to me. I turn into uber-housewife! I think I'm safe in saying the doctor never would.

Oh, as long as there are battered husbands too then that's ok then

No, its not OK, but noone can accuse us of sexism then!

It shouldn't happen. Full Stop. I feel quite strongly about this, because my sister has been at the sharp end of it. She left her husband 6 months ago, because of it. And because of what I almost did.
I have only ever been tempted once to want to hit a woman (actually more along the lines of pick the silly girl up and shake her senseless, but ammounts to the same thing). I hit a globe light instead and smashed my hand. I have never hit a woman. I also have never had that feeling again. i was in a bad way at the time, and what she did was the final straw. However, when i saw what I was capable of, I learnt a very valuable lesson. Never, ever let anything get as far out of hand as that again. back off. difuse the situation.
Calm down, think rationally and work it out.
I haven't really explained it properly and there will be many people who read this and think the worst of me. Sorry. I can't change the facts, but I have recognised the problem and come to terms with it, and dealt with it.

hey I threatened my Mum's boyfriend with a spade! Rage happens to all of us.

Mind you he was blocking my only way out of the house and he had split my Mum and my stepfather up so I kind of felt justified for showing him how angry I felt about what he had done. Plus he told me in a really patronising way to "Get out of my sight!" - as he was blocking the door I couldn't and so I grabbed the spade.

Though it may be in some ways a fine line between raising a hand and saying 'Oooh - I could just...', and actually hitting someone, it's fortunately still a line that most people recognise, and don't cross.

In the circumstances, turning aside and venting your anger on some small piece of property should be applauded. After all, the overstereotyped female plate-and-vase throwing wouldn't be interpreted by most men as 'S**t - she nearly hit me'.
What stopping shows you're capable of is that you're capable of knowing when to stop, and that you'll probably recognise the warning signs earlier the next time. In the right (wrong?) circumstances, virtually all men are *capable* of violence, or conscripted servicemen wouldn't be much use in a war.

Oh, I agree that both sexes are capable of violence.
I hit my youngest child's father when I found out why my teenage daughter left home.
A right stinger, with enough force to knock his head off.
I shocked myself that I was capable of it, but I don't regret it.
If he hadn't rushed off & packed his belongings & got out of my house, I'd have thrown him out.
I missed something off my earlier list.
"Respect your partner's children"

Whatever Ami's got, she's obviously got it in spades!

*makes mental note for British English thread*

And good for you, GB - way to go!

Hey Babel-17 - the point is that you DIDN'T hit or shake the girl!

I've got more respect for people who want to do something and resist the urge, than for people who never felt that way in the first place. You have proved that you DO have self-control in tough situations, and you have learned how to avoid those situations in the future.

Much better to be around someone like you, than someone who has never been tried or tested, if you ask me.

(How long are your eyelashes, btw?)

agcB

GB can you point that out to my mum's partner?

Actually after the adrenalin wore off I was shaking and really distressed at the time.

Now I am really civil to him, which puts me in a good light and really confuses the hell out of him!

Personally, I like a man with a hairy chest. Think Sean Connery, not Roger Moore.

Thanks, all, for understanding.

agcB, my eyelashes are very long and full and soft.
However, I am already taken.

you sound like a prize heiffer!

*starts to worry about virtual foot & mouth *

better looking than that Abi

Blimey - are you sure you are taken?

I just dropped in to read any messages (I'm actually taking a break from h2g2), and read some of all the backlog over here. I can't help thinking :"Those women are hiding something!"
During my research on the question "is h2g2 toxic tp one's sex-life" I recently made a strange discovery about "what women look for in a man", but I won't post it here, because the women will deny it anyway (they want to keep it a secret). Sorry, ladies, your secret is out, but I won't tell it to just anyone, don't worry, I'm a perfect gentleman.

So, to Hooloovoo: being a "nice" guy and just waiting for something to happen, you'll be a LOT older than 30 before anything happens. Sorry, but that's the way it is.
On the other hand, if you want to know my "discovery", feel free to cantact me and I'll share it with you, like I already did with others (male h2g2-researchers are usually NOT just anyone, ladies).

BTW, I fit Kaeori's standards, but less hairy, without facial hair, AND with extremely long eyelashes and impeccable dress-sense, but it's only since my "discovery" that I'm able to "pull" with the greatest of ease.
I always stay the perfect gentleman, though: I completely agree with what has been said about respect.

Dear Dr K, what can I say? How can we put your claims to the test?

'Pull with the greatest of ease'? To paraphrase your words, female h2g2-researchers are usually NOT just anyone.