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Child decisions
Posted Aug 30, 2004
My son, Chris, wants to move in with his mother. This causes a bit of a dilemma as I, and his teacher, am always telling him he needs to make some decisions on his own. However, I wasn't expecting him to think that this is a decision for him to make. His reasons make sense, from a 7 year old's point of view.
If I say no, this causes a problem as neither his mother nor I have legal custody and I look bad in his eyes. It also looks to his mother like I don't want her to have him, which is partially true. If this were to go in front of a judge, the judge would likely ask him, because of how old he is, where he wanted to live.
I really don't know what to do with this. If allow him to make this decision, what do I do if Athena wants to go to her mother as well? That, right there, is my biggest fear.
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Relocation
Posted Jul 9, 2004
It was announced a week ago that one of our competitors bought us out. Not really a bad thing considering the way we have been treated the last week. The new company really bends over backwards for its employees.
The bad thing is that in 4 months, none of us has a job unless we relocate to Kansas City, Missouri or Colorado Springs, Colorado.
I have been looking at the relocation option and, the more I think about, the more I like it.
There is really just one thing standing in the way of relocating, custody of my kids is still unresolved. I do expect that things will go my way, I just hope it happens before the option of relocating is taken away.
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RUSH
Posted Jul 1, 2004
Went to see Rush, with the Associate Pastor of my church, in concert tonight. Let me tell you, it was awesome! They were playing medley of songs all music, no vocals, when we got there as a warm-up. The concert opened with Red Barchetta, an awesome song. After an hour they took a short break. When they cam back they played Tom Sawyer, probably their most well known song. They ended with Working Man, can't begin to describe how good Working Man is. All in all, the concert was awesome. Would definitely see them again.
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What?
Posted Jun 7, 2004
As I enter the last week of having my children with me before they go to spend the summer break with their egg-donor, I have many "what" questions. The most notable of these questions are: "What is the egg-donor going to try during the time they are with her?" and "What am I going to do without my children present all the time?"
It's no secret to those who know me that I do not trust the woman I once called my wife. In fact, I completely distrust her and I nearly hate her. The agreement we have currently states that the children will stay with me during the school year and with her for the summer break. This is the first cycle and I just know that she is going to try something. Whether it is trying to keep the kids at the end of break, or just plain attempting to poison them against me, I can't say. I expect one or the other though.
As for what am I going to do without them for six weeks: I'll be honest, I'm afraid to be without my children. I enjoy all the small things: tucking them in at night, drying their hair after a bath, tickling them, hugging them, the sounds of their voices when I pick them up from daycare, so many that I cannot possibly list them all.
Hanging out with my friends just is not the same. My friends don't rely on me for their every need; I am not responsible for their lives and safety. I am responsible for those of my children and I cannot possibly do that without my children present.
Am I just being selfish? I really don't know. What I do know is that the egg-donor is NOT a capable parent. She looks at the children as a status symbol. In fact, every time the children return from a visit to her, my son tells me "mommy didn't spend anytime with me". What am I to do about that? If I had the money to do it, I would be suing her for full custody with very limited visitation.
Anyway, my thoughts are becoming too disjointed, time to stop.
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Wlcome Single Parenthood
Posted Apr 2, 2004
So, I get a call this morning from my sister. The pressure of raising 3 kids that are not hers has gotten to her and she does not feel it is in her family's best interest to continue to have my children staying with her. So, my son and daughter will be coming to live with me and my stepson will be going to live with his mother. I have very mixed feelings about this.
1) Severely upset. At my children's behaviour, the behaviour she is describing to me doesn't happen when the kids are with me. I am not calling my sister a liar, quite the contrary, my niece used to be fairly well behaved and is now, and has been, exhibiting behaviour I didn't think possible for her. Her behaviour has gotten steadily worse over the last 9 or 10 months because her life has been so disrupted by the moving-in of my kids.
2) Concerned. About the well-being of my stepson. His mother, I like to think of her as the egg-donor, is not a good a mom. She can think of nothing but herself and has only seen the kids on MAYBE a half-dozen occasions since June 1st last year. She rarely calls any of the kids. The school that stepson will be transferring to is not a very good school, he has attended there before and did not do very well.
3) Ecstatic. I finally get to have my kids with me! Nothing more need be said about that.
I do not think I am ready for this, I really don't know that I can do this. Probably fear talking to me.
Advice is appreciated, especially from single parents.
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Latest reply: Apr 2, 2004
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