h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Sorry SIS.

Domesticity is sooo time consuming.

Well are you missing him?

I cant hang around for long but I'll try to drop in for a chat tomorrow some time. I should be doing something else *now*, but I cant walk past a puter without just a sneaky peek.

Damn my hootoo addiction.

How are you then SIS?

Everything is mayhen and turmoil.

Ive had a really crap week and I need to seriously destress this weekend which is something I rarely needed to do in the past.

As well as learning the new job Im began a qualification in it this week. My brain feels well and truly fried.

Ive had a major incident at youth club a group of older youths 17-18 freinds of someone Id barred for bullying came down to threaten some of the kids who'd been bullied. They thought they could rush past me by force of numbers one of them kicked me and I got veryI went for them they backed off when I showed them I meant business. The police had to be called and its been reported to my bosses they may suspend or move me for the members/my own safety.

Liz has tried to be supportive but wont hea that I just need space and time and tries to help more but only gets in my hair more and this makes me too.

So Im taking it out here till I can get rid of some on the pitch.

Not the best week of my life but Ive lived through worse.

Accept Liz's help, even if you feel it isn't exactly what you need. At least accept some of it. Don't block her out totallly because you are going through something you think she can't understand. Trust me, it will be good for her and also for you. Let her help you.

It sounds like it was a very unfortunate situation at the youth club and it would be a shame if you got suspended. But perhaps you have learned a valuable lesson - to next time call for back-up before things get out of hand. I mean, any one of those kids could have been carrying knives or worse, blicky. Anyhow, at least you and the kids are okay.

Meanwhile, yes, I am missing him a lot. Just five more sleeps and then he'll be home again.

I'm also still missing Lua a lot. Whodda thought that little cranky ball of fur would have got into my heart and under my skin so? I find it comes in waves, so I take it in that manner.

Anyhow, de-stress in healthy ways (maybe even make an effort and do something nice for Liz - distraction therapy) and come for a chat this weekend any time you like.

kisses,
SIS

How are things going, little bro? Feeling any better?

I'm getting quite excited - just two more sleeps till P gets back.




sis

Things were strained to say the least.

Liz was trying to help, but I didnt understand or feel like or able to talk about what was troubling me. I spent the night with family just to give myself space and that has really seemed to clear the air Sunday was a lot more pleasant though I doubt the storm is totally over.

Thanks for the advice and encouragement.

Dearest darling little brother, I repeat - don't shut Liz out. Help her to understand if you feel she isn't. Help her to let her help you.

She is the best thing you have going.

But okay, I guess I understand needing to take some time away to sort things out for yourself first.

Still, communication is what makes relationships strong. And I know you can communicate. If it's too hard face-to-face at times, then try writing a letter. Just don't push her away. I know how I'd feel if I were her in that situation, and I wouldn't be feeling very good about it. And I don't think you'd like it either if the situation were reversed.

Anyhow, feel free to send an email if you want to talk about anything that might be too personal for here.

love you,
SIS

Thanks for the support and advice and generally being there to listen and talk

When I didnt want to talk to anyone.

Im pleased that things are going well with you and Peterits nice to see nice peole being nice to each other

My only wish is that you never have the need for me to return the favour, but if you ever do you know where I am

Thanks little bro

Life being what it is I may need to take you up on your kind offer at some point. No relationship is ever *easy*. And often talking things out with a 'disinterested party' can help a lot.

How are things going now with you and Liz?

And what happened with 'the problem' at work?


big SIS

I wassort of suspended, well the club was suspended but I cant help feeling it was partially a personal punishment. Im not one formisplaced guilt but I do know what I did wrong in that situation.

The worst part is the member of staff who I didnt want to work with again because she didnt follow instructions about calling the police immediately did not have her contract severed till yesterday

No that's not the worst, the worst is that she asked another member of staff about calling the police, it turns, out and he said dont bother we can deal with it!

It made me mad when I found out because it was him who said that the group at the centre of the trouble should be banned and convinced me to ban them rather than waste anymore time trying to get them to behave. The rreasoning I thought we had agreed on was that we as a team could concentrate on the club make it better for those who do behave and that seeing how good the club could be the others would ask to come back and be part of it.

So not only did he undermine me he acted contray to a plan we had all agreed on and he himself suggested

He's a good worker otherwise but I cant work with him anymore, a team cant work like that.

I have taken a voluntary demotion and might leave altogether if they dont replace him. I like the work but in that situation its more stress than enjoyment for me and I dont deliver my best work for the members. Besides the pressures of my new job and the course attached to it will also put more pressure on me.

Other than that things are OK, things are better with me and Liz they could be better but atlest htey arent worse

Thanks for taking an interest it helped remind me of somethings when I was only seeing bad things and at my most disilusioned.

You are a perfect bigSIS always there but not too indulgent of my cranky moods.

Basically, it's crap that you weren't backed up by your workmates.

Regardless of whether using some 'physical force' to get rid of the bullies was unwarranted they must realize that these situations DO come up from time to time. And in the moment you reacted, you actually did stop any further damage being done. You should at least be acknowledged for that.

I mean, part of being a team is that you must feel confident that all team members are working towards a similar goal. They *should* have backed you up, imo.

Meanwhile, I think it is important to remember that you should not be taking work problems home with you (other than talking about them). As much as you would never take home problems to work with you.

It isn't Liz's fault that all of this sh*t is going on at work and it sounds like she is trying to help. As I said before - let her help, honey. Don't tell her she doesn't understand, don't push her away. Just let her help in any way she can. Anyhow, it isn't her 'job' to make things better in your workplace, but I reckon she wants to help make things better at home. Let her try and give her the chance. And you might also give some thought to making up for being such a self-centred and angry b*stard recently? Just a thought.

You admire me for not indulging your cranky moods. But Liz *has* been indulging them, or at least putting up with them. I think she deserves more thanks than I do.

Anyhow, think about it.

love you,
SIS

btw, have you seen this?

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az

Yes I have and I had a lovely invite from Z to the mini meet in Brum but I cant make either

Are you planing to go?

We're thinking about it. Flights then are quite cheap - about 100€ return. But we will have to find cheap accommodation as well, which might be impossible. Anyhow, Blues Shark is checking out possible places for us.

You won't be able to go?


az

Good morning SIS,

How are you today?

(Ignoring world news as I like to here) I hope you have woken upto a nice day.

I am bogged down with youth club monitoring forms, coaching, a course for my new job, and the new job so my presence here is stil a bit hit and run. O ther than that though Im feeling fine and losing weight allegedly Im not sure as I rarely bother with scales. People just keep asking "are you dieting"?

Maybe they are sugessting


Did you get sorted for the London meet?

Take care and Hi to Noggin.

hi darling!

You're losing weight??? Tell me how!

Yes, we've been sorting out the London meet thing. Turns out a friend of mine who lives in Kensington might be able to put us up for three nights, which would be wonderful.

Are you *sure* you can't come???

If we can also convince Hoo to come we could get a photo taken of the Unholy Trinity!


SIS

Probably cant make it to London. Shame me, you and Hoo round a couldron might have made a nice photo

Hope you are well and looking after Noggin. I havent seen him around lately.

Well winter is really starting to creep in here cold winds and the suddenly darker nights are making it more and more appealing to be in next to the fire but I keep ending up working evenings and running round in the mud. No rest for the wicked. Still it means I am getting slimmer and eat more

hi sweetie,

Looking after Noggin??? I keep telling him that he's supposed to be looking after ME! In the end we trade off - seems to be working.

Did you read that he has chickenpox? It showed up during the trip-from-hell-almost-going-to-Gibraltar last weekend. Anyhow, he is on the mend but can't drink which means tonight (we've been invited to a friend's house for dinner) well, basically, more for Lisa and me!!!

Meanwhile, stop losing weight already! Bl**dy show off.


sis

No postings on this page for a week!

Oh well hope you are happy as well as busy.

I was on a course to day this quote was in one of the handouts and it made me think of you on the God thread in waht seems like the old days.

Reason must have an
adequate emotional
base for education to
perform its function.

Plato.

take care

How are you keeping, my most special little brother?

Are you okay?

I've been on a bit of an emotional rollercoaster ride here with P, but it all seems to be working out.

Nothing is ever easy, is it?

Well, nothing that is worth fighting for, anyhow.

Stay in touch, okay? I've been missing you.


big SIS