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Hi bigSIS.

Hmm still having ups and downs though

Still hope springs eternal as such Im sure you will find yourselves adjusting to the kind treatment happiness and affection you give each other. I know for myself its not easy coming from being practically and emotionaly self reliant to letting someone in, but we are human and built to live in groups afterall.

Letting go is scary I know but I guess we both have to trust that we are going to have to trust in someone who is there for us.

No, letting go isn't scary - it's ABSOLUTELY TERRIFYING!!!

On the other hand, what have you got to lose? Hey, you afraid of *living* or what???

I think if you bear in mind that this is probably not any easier for Liz than it is for you, then both of you can start from that point. Talking about absolutely everything that scares you both. I think that constant *verbal* communication about this stuff is extremely important myself (though perhaps this is because I'm such a big-mouthed kind of babe).

You are both starting off on a very new adventure together. If I can offer any advice at all it is to KEEP TALKING. Don't let wonky feelings build up inside of you - let them out. Talk about them. And no, this doesn't always have to end up in *heavy discussions*. In fact, the easier you get about just saying how you are feeling at any particular time will probably 'clear the air' so fast that any big-time discussion won't be necessary at all.

Liz isn't a mind-reader. And neither are you. You need to talk. And talk and talk and talk. You know? Talk until words are no longer necessary.

You know how much I love you and want the best for you. And knowing you, I can only assume that you have chosen Liz to share your life with because she is very special to you - you *want* it to work. And it will work. Heck, if you didn't have any ups and downs to begin with then I would doubt that you were with the right person.

I mean, let's face it, Liz has to be quite strong to put up with the likes of you! So you have to deal with it. That she *is* willing to go the whole way but she might not always make it easy for you. Take her challenges in the sense of how much she loves you. Because I doubt she would bother otherwise.


big SIS

btw, thanks for totally blowing off the 'Class' thread by saying I had nothing to say since I'm not British (though thanking me for my 'outsider's opinion')

Ick.


az

SIS
You should know me better than that I wasnt doing that. It wasnt my intention amyway.

Im very much an egalitarian person and was just saying that although the atmosphere you mention might be more apparent to an outsider it was not how a large number of Brits thought and acted. I was thanking you because you did have something important to add.

Sorry if it came across wrong

Yeah okay, I guess I did know that but thought I'd give you sh*t anyhow - keep you on your toes.

Though it *did* sound a bit patronizing . . .

Anyhow, don't really care. Though in future you might say if a certain thread is meant to be UK-centric or not, so I don't waste my time.

How are things going on the homefront? Things here are quite a rollercoaster ride at times, but we both hang on for dear life and hope for the best. Though I have to say that we are having the most wonderful time. Never a dull moment!

lots of kisses,
SIS

kisses!....ooh I like kisses

The thread wasnt meant to be UK centric at all Im just aware that I can only see the UK from an insiders point of view and unlike ou havent spent long enough to put in my personal perceptions of other places' class distinctions.

Life at home is peachy at the moment and hopefully will stay that way.

Good to hear the two of you are having fun.

The new job is bewildering and confusing I havent really *done* anything yet hopefully when the new management structure is sorted we will find out a little more about what we are supposed to be doing when, who with and when etc....

That sounds so typical with a new job situation, honey. It just takes a bit of time but you'll soon feel totally at home there, I'm sure.

And I am very happy to hear that things are peachy at home.

*more* kisses,
SIS

Wow SIS its been like a year since we started chatting on this thread

Still glad I *met* you obviously and lifted by the all the nice things you've said and hopefully a little wiser for the little "telling-off's

Just dropping by to say Hi bored at work and looking forward to the weekend already. Been helpin lots of kids so far but it was my first case to get my teeth into today which was good but also daunting. want to help but dont want to create a depedancy

The 'tellings-off' are only cos I love you and you know it!

Imagine how boring it would be if we agreed on absolutely everything!

Yes, I can see how you need to tread a fine line between helping and becoming someone that a kid develops a 'personal need' for. But as you are aware of this possibility - and since *you* are the grown-up guy and in charge - I know you will find your own way.

I think the hardest thing might be knowing when to stop overtly helping and help push kids into helping themselves? Which will always be a hard call to make. Depends on each individual.

Sounds like you have your work cut out for you, honey. But I am sure you'll do just fine. I mean, your heart is definitely in the right place. And hey, if you make a few mistakes along the way, you have to realize the good you still managed to do. We are none of us perfect, which can also be a good lesson for these kids to learn. That it is also okay to make mistakes from time to time. Just try to teach them to take responsibility for their actions - I think that is one of the best things you can do and also one of the most 'real' lessons they also need to learn.

Live and learn, eh?

SIS

Living and learning sums it up entirely. ive been working hard and learnt a lot this week (weel i hope it has sunk in anyway)

Im off to do a little living now

I hope to drop by for more of a chat soon and trust that things are going well with you and Peter.

Off to get my glad rags on.

Take care

Oh, you young folk! Out and about on a Saturday night!

P and I have just finished a wicked scrabble game and we're all tuckered out now. No doubt we'll be propped up in bed with our books - with P wearing his very cute reading glasses that make him look like a proper intellectual, and me wearing next to nothing and also those pesky cats climbing all over us - while you are out painting the town red.

Ah, youf!

Totally wasted on the young.

SIS

Further to what you said about me 'bending over backwards' to be friends with Della, I really don't see it that way.

We have a chat thread going and we sometimes talk about what is going on with hootoo, other times we just talk about what is going on in our lives.

It isn't difficult for me to do this, in fact I quite enjoy it.

I guess I just see Della as a more 'complete person' than others give her credit for. Yeah sure, we disagree on many things. But there are other things we can find a common ground on and have a chat about.

And I think this is a good thing.

az

Your modesty does you even more credit SIS

I know what you do is a very simple act of friendship, but even after the way she has previously tore into you you still held onto your principles even when other people might have snapped and gone after Della.

This shows a flexibilty to deal with people who are rude to you that I reserve soley for children and those who seem to deserve it.

Della maintains she is the high minded one out of she and i yet she lies name calls for no good reason and takes joy in petty acts of spite. Sad to say I have lost my cool with her on several occasions and as such have great admiration for someone who it seems at no point ever really closed her mind to Della.

Hats off to you

On our chat thread Della is always very pleasant. Yes, I've seen her take pokes at me recently on a couple of other threads, linking me to you and Hoo, etc as being 'the enemy'. *sigh* I think she will eventually get over doing this - maybe?

I'm not convinced she takes joy out of petty acts of spite. Rather, it seems a very defensive tactic. And we have all been there.

No, I haven't closed my mind to Della because I very seldom close my mind to anybody. And this isn't because I am being 'whatever'. It's mostly because I strongly believe in 'doing unto others . . .' So hey, does this make me a Christian?


az

Wassup?


SIS

Hi SIS how are you lot doing?

Just about ready to go home.

Working week is over and lots to do next week. Life does it never stop?

Apart from that things are dandy Im busy with things I like which I keep reminding myself is a blessing but Im just as knackered.

So you and P sharing a bed now eh?

Blimey how things move and ontly a few months ago you starting that quirky alone thread. Mind, I doubt you will *ever* stop being quirky.


"....cant stop addicted to the shin-dig...."

Never a truer word sang.

Well its washing, sport and dreinking with an old friend back on leave from the navy tomorrow.



"....dont say a prayer for me now, save it till the morning after..."

Hope you have a good weekend

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Perish the thought!

Well, you ol' dog-washer, have a great weekend and hope to hear from you again soon.

much lurve,
SIS

Needing company please! P is back in Wales for two weeks, well, for twelve more sleeps anyhow.

What's new and interesting with you? (make it up if you have to! )


az

hello?


az