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Well said, Kaz

It is wrong of us to call her the names we have all been doing, and I'm ashamed.

Oh AGB, we all do it and maybe she isn't the nicest person! But of course maybe she thinks Bilbo is someone to look upto, and would be a good advisor! I know I have often flirted with men, with no intentions, but just because sometimes its appreciated. Like with the poor guys who have turned up to deal with a blocked smelly sewer, I am so grateful that the least I can do is boost their ego with a little flirt!! Is that a respectful way to act though?

And when are you going to read the BB thread you started and have a gossip with me?

Done, sorry!

So many thread, so little time

Hey Bils ..



That's not a true statement as such, what about those single people that have been sucked into an affair, and are wracked with guilt about the whole thing, and sometimes never recover to trust ever again?

What about those wo/men that have so been in loved with married person, that have damaged their careers and friends as a result?

I tend to think that the damage works both ways for the single person and the married one. AND that the single person doesn't have it easy in an affair at all.

Then there are people out for kicks n' things - those are the ones that rarely suffer. Power to em I say, as long as other parties don't have to suffer their consequences.

Sorry to bring this all back up folks but I did finally give in to temptation and have been seeing the young lady for a while now. She no longer works here as it was only a placement.felt guilty at first but no longer, well maybe a little.

Well I hope things work out well for all involved.

My favourite thing about this thread is that it always makes me hum "temptation" by New Order" when i see it in my convos list.

Be good and if you cant be good....

"seeing" means what, exactly, in this context?

Ben

Having a relationship with. with all that entails.

ALL.

Well do you spend the night with her? Go for days out? Plan for the future?

I often cook for or go out for food with women Im in relationships with, do you do this?

Gifts: do you buy cards for birthdays and anniverseries do you buy stuff for her parents and siblings too?

Sex obviously is one of the things you mentioned before, but where do you do this your place hers somewhere else?

All the things we do impact on the rest of our lifves and they are fairly easy to notice, although not always interpret correctly, by the people who are near us.

Like is said if you cant be good...then you should be very, very careful.

Is this for real this time, or are we playing games again?

To be honest, I neither know nor care.

I feel exceptionally sorry for Mrs bilbobilbo, and I hope she takes him for every sorry penny he's got. She will, if she's got a half-decent lawyer.

Truly, most men can only think with one organ at a time.

*sigh*

Do you know the really sad thing about all this? (Apart from Mrs bilbobilbo, which is beyond sad.) The really sad thing is that affairs, conducted well, are wonderful, but that bb has shown absolutely no sign that this will be anything other than a complete bloody disaster.

Ben

*too lazy to look back*

Didn't Bilbo say before he had made all this up?

So now he is having an imaginary affair?


az

Well, you can't give *yourself* the clap with that ol'e one hand clapping.

B

az

I, too, am too jaded to care.

so I never have to think about this person again

Im sorry but I dont really care if people care or not. I had some feelings for this girl and the fact is, they didn't go away.Therefore they must be strong and so I acted upon them. I only get one life on this earth and its not a rehearsal.As nobody knows about my dalliance, I am not hurting anyone and Im sure that it will run its course and end eventually.she will meet someone she wants to stay with and that will be that. bilbobilbo.

>> As nobody knows about my dalliance,

Yet...

>> I am not hurting anyone

Yet...

My judgement is not a moral one, I am in no position to throw stones. I just don't see any signs that you can manage a painless affair. I know how it is done, what is involved and what it takes, and your affair is showing all the wrong signs and none of the right signs.

Ben

We see each other about once a week for a day or night out, thats all. we both get pleasure out of each others company and occasional intimacy,and we are careful where we go so as not to be seen by anyone I know. She is single so it does'nt matter if anyone she Knows sees us together.Can't see us getting found out so we are both happy.Perhaps you should give me a few tips Ben if you know the score about these things. bilbobilbo.

Happiness is no protection. Quite the reverse.

A878204

You are breaking just about every single one of the rules put in there, and those rules were learned through pain.

B

Bilbo, I used to have affairs, before I settled down. I understand the urge and the need sometimes to be faithful to your own feelings and not someones elses.

The biggest problems I found were keeping the secret, when I was with one, I wanted to be with the other. I realise in hindsight that my behaviour did change, its difficult not to look forward to meeting the other person. If behaviour changes then secrets may not last.

You also may start to resent your partner for the time you have to spend with them, when you would rather be with the new person.

Its difficult and I am happy to talk to you of any worries or strange feeling you may have to deal with. Be truthful to yourself, but do not do that at the expense of the happiness of others. Its a fine edge you haev to try to tread!