h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

just throwing an idea out for consideration and no doubt immediate rejection, but something to think about.

With all your travel and shifting countries, going places and doing things as well as your opinions you seem like quite a self sufficient, independent person. Social culture has a very strong stereotype of partnership in adulthood which is constantly forced on us from a very young age and made explicit through peer and social pressure (this is good/normal/expected). It is strongly associated in wider society with success, both personally and socially.

So are you sure *you* actually need/want such a relationship? For yourself, for its own sake? Not so you can prove something to yourself or society at large? Or is it just something that you have internalised from those around you/society in general. Deep down, is it really what you are looking for? Cos there's plenty that aren't. It isn't unusual.

I'm not saying either way, only you can know that. And I ain't expecting a reply, just a point for thought.

So far I'm not particularly interested in the whole white picket fences thing. I also don't feel I'm some kind of half person looking for another half, I'm not missing any parts. However I did want a relationship to prove myself, which is now moot. Also I'm quite tired of not having anyone. It can be quite nice to have someone to do coupley stuff with, judging by the few tastes of it I've had. It would be good to meet someone who would make me feel something again.

My turn to be asking for advice...

If I express my liking for a particular type of woman and a friend tells me "you might like so-and-so" and gives me a link to their Farcebook page and I really do rather like the look of her should I then make subtle enquiries as to the woman's "relationship status" and whether she might be interested in overweight polyamorous married men with musical tastes that I suspect are somewhat at odds with hers... or just leave it alone?

Seriously, this kind of thing has *never* happened to me before so I don't know what the etiquette of the situation is.

>>should I then make subtle enquiries as to the woman's "relationship status"

From your friend? Why not.

But at the moment all you've got is a picture on Facebook of a stranger with a mutual acquaintance, haven't you? It's not much to go on, you can't judge a book by its cover.

True... she looks nice (very nice) but might have a personality that's completely incompatible with mine.

Would your friend give you a link saying that to someone who isn't single? Why not contact her, and ask her out? Though I have no idea how you normally proceed with the whole married/polyamorous thing.

TBH I don't know whether he'd provide a link to someone who wasn't available... as I said this is literally the first time something like this has happened to me!

"Why not contact her, and ask her out?"

Partly because the arrangement with Mrs. D is that I have to discuss it with her first. Mostly because I'm a great big scaredy cat.

>>this is literally the first time something like this has happened to me

I must be missing something, what exactly has happened? On the face of it, you've simply seen a girl you like on Facebook.

Well yes, that is the basis of it. And I'm rubbish at that too.

I mean the specific situation of someone saying "oh you might like so-and-so"... no idea what to do there; do I ask for more info? Do I assume it was rhetorical?

Why not start out by showing her to your wife and ask permission. Then contact her and go "Hi, I'm a married guy who think's you're pretty and wants to sleep with you" though not in those exact words.

It's all moot now as her Facebook page seems to have vanished so no pics and no means of contacting her (I'm not going to ask for her email or phone number because then I risk just seeming a bit creepy).

TransylvaniaChick likes TedTalk. I like that in a woman.

The other day I picked up a baby at Rent-A-Baby and took it around town. Pushing it around in the pram and such. Seemed nobody cared, I thought babies were meant to attract women. I was in a few clothes stores and nobody even wanted to come look at the baby. Maybe I should get a puppy next time.


Okay so I didn't actually rent a baby, my sister was in town with my niece.

You had me worried there, Xan. The puppy is certainly a safer bet. Or even cheaper and less bother: you can get plenty of tips from Mina and her entries on dog training - maybe you can then pass them on to nubile girls struggling with their dogs and win their hearts that way.

I'd rather skip the middleman and see if I can use Mina's dog training tricks on women. How to get them to roll onto their back and whatnot.

First rule is: women like subtlety. Dogs like it straight out. So both rules are obeyed if you use that middleman. Or middledog.

I like subtlety too, but it seems lost on most women.

If you're going to generalise do it properly... subtlety is lost on most *humans*.

Ahh, but I don't try to get it on with half of those humans, so I don't care as much.

Okay look at it this way: generalising about women only is sexist, even if you think it isn't.