h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

You already look more than half decent. We'll do the rest.

are we planning a makeover?! oooh!!! oooh!!!

As long as you're talking clothes and style and all that, might you post a few notes on the subject here, so Hooloovoo isn't the only beneficiary of your wisdom? Me, I consider myself clothing-competent (the shirt and pants match, for example), but improving on that can't hurt.

This is pretty difficult. I don't think there's anything in this world that can beat a black T shirt and a pair of blue jeans.

Well I'm normally found in a black t-shirt, and black jeans.

Actually, now I come to think of it, my whole wardrobe is black....

Hooloovoo

I don't think we can really improve on that. So it must be down to technique?

Sounds about right......

I might be getting that long black leather jacket tomorrow

Hooloovoo

My daughter would go for that! Especially if you grew your hair slightly longer and wore eyeliner!!!

I wanted to grow my hair once, but it just looked silly and I had to get it cut.

I have been known to wear eyeliner and black nail polish...... (don't ask, I went through a goth stage a couple of years ago).

Hooloovoo

To change the subject (almost) entirely, how do various women researchers feel about dishonesty, (for example, some guy passing off someone else's work as their own.)
Would that be a real passion-killer, or do some women actually find deceit exciting?

I was just remembering one place I used to work, where a really talented artist friend of mine had a supposed friend who he later learned had used copies of part of the good artist's portfolio to get a job with another company (not that he lasted there very long). Would anyone actually think that was daring or exciing, or just seriously offputting?

Honesty is a big virtue. I really would rather two people were brutally straight with one another than telling fibs or playing silly games. life, IMHO is too short.

pj

awful! awful! dishonesty isn't exciting!!!

personally, i go for a WHITE t-shirt and jeans....

If Hooloovoo's "problem" isn't his wardrobe, maybe it's the body-language? Here, it's all those tiny details that count: having a firm handshake, no slumping, no crossing of legs or arms, etc...

Piercing eyes are a definite plus.

Dishonesty is a total minus.

Body language can be a tricky one - it's possible to get distracted by wondering whether you're making the right impression, or consciously trying to analyze the other's movements. Though at the extremes, it can be accurate, I think the boundary between interested (friendly) and interested (interested) is often quite vague for one-on-one meetings
Comparing how the same person responds to you and to other people at larger social gatherings may give the best feedback. (Though I must admit I'm not the world's most perceptive guy.)

Dis-honesty is a COMPLETE turn-off, I really cannot handle it at all. But as I get older my standards change, and now I think that secrecy is different from dis-honesty. It isn't really, it just suits me to think so. Oh well. Knocked off my pedestle (in more ways than one).

Piercing eyes - maybe.

What about body-piercing? I like one off piercings in eyebrows for example, and I serciously fancied a bloke with a gold tongue-stud once. But masses and masses of silver studs in brows, lips, ears etc - yukkk! I quite like the little earings in the little flap in the middle of the ear - know where I mean?

Some people do seem to get addicted to piercings, but I think it may be just another manifestation of a reasonably common low-level obsession with collecting things, albeit more immediately visible than a stamp collection, or a house-full of cute ornaments.

I suppose piercings can be quite an ice-breaker, but if someone was obsessed to the point of piercing being their major topic of conversation, that would be quite a turn-off.

Dishonesty - NO! But being totally straight is something few of us ever achieve. And it can be disconcerting for those involved in games too. It would be nice to find someone who wasn't wrapped up in ego in some way or other. Haven't managed to remove ego from my own behaviour yet!!

What is really sexy? Enthusiasm! Few girls want to listen to a load of complaints.

Especially for someone (like me) who isn't terribly good at reading reactions, I'm often unsure when being enthusiastic, passionate, or interested in something can be percieved as being a little obsessive.