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i met these sisters the other night and we all planned to meet up again and its friendly and they're both cute

i don't know which one to come onto

help!

i have a hungry snake!

it needs their help!

If you can't decide then let them decide instead.

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Oh, for crying out loud.

Try treating them as people, rather than as bits of meat.

Thank you, Ivan! I wasn't going to say it, but...

*takes a bow*

i am treating them as people

i'm just exorcising my inner love snake in order to be...more disciplined?

See if there's anything ore than physical attraction, and try not to view every female as a potential partner..

Can I ask you a question?

How do you tell the difference between a woma who is being friendly and a woman who wants to sleep with you?

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God, if I knew the answer to that my life would be *so* much better.

It's a funny thing, cos it's a damned complex answer and I dont think there's any rules as such, but when you meet a chap who tends to go all out over the smallest sign of friendship for a woman it can be a useful steadying influence. Double check, ask yourself which it is and how you will find out... Because women are capable of wanting friendship with men but often get put off by men automatically thinking they must be after, or open to, more!

I don't think women get to complain about that sort of thing until they learn to make the first move.

Fisrtly, it wasn't a complaint. Secondly, it's a perfectly valid question to ask yourself, no matter what you think of women and their likelihood to make your life easier for you.

Perhaps you're looking too hard for the signals you expect and not seeing the signals that are being offered?

>>> "How do you tell the difference between a woma who is being friendly and a woman who wants to sleep with you?" <<<

I'd say finding her hand on ones penis would be a-bit-of-a-clue. Apart from that, just how often are women friendly? I've found women only speak to 'score a point', well in their mind anyway.

... apart from thecases where you have established a frindship with a woman, but that's different, you've moved past the bit where they either are seeking approval, or are just naturaly great people anyway that you'd want them as a mate.

The point was in regard to this:
"often get put off by men automatically thinking they must be after, or open to, more!"

If you want a woman, you have to make the attempt, because they're very unlikely to.

If women expect to be chased, as most seem to, then sometimes people they don't fancy are going to come on to them.

Er. Yes, that's a given, Bouncy. But I like to try and encourage people to change their attitudes towards other people that make them into objects. i.e. This 'deciding' which woman to come on to. Surely looking at it as 'Ooh, I hope I fancy one of them and she fancies me back!' is a far more healthy way to look at relationships with people than 'which one do I decide to go for?' It's not a box of chocolates or a sandwich bar. They are people. And maybe they dont want to be chosen between but would rather be picked out of a crowd for their own unique charm and personality by someone who is genuinely attracted to them.

It's about respect, really.

Your words have reminded me a friend of mine. He told me that a truly friendship between man and woman can´t be unless it is clear as soon as possible if there will be sex or not. I agree with that in some cases.

It is not so difficult to discern whether someone is just being friendly or if that behavior is a way to get sex. In any case, what's wrong? If I don´t want sex, I will make clear. What is more, any can tell if there is sex in the air and accept it or refuse it without any direct statement.


I met my husband when I was 17. Next 11th Sept I will be 42!!!

Our relationship wasn´t romantic at all. Where and how to have sex was what only mattered. Then we knew each other better, and it seems that we liked . Obviously, there have also been lapsus or emotional limboes, but we overcame them. It seems that we love each other, hardly ever we say I love you, no need for it. We know it.
Conclusion: start a relationship having sex it's not bad. It could be even advisable.

Im with Effers about not refraining because she has boyfriend. A bit messy, but, what if you were made for each other like Catherine and Heathcliff? The conventions, the morals can spoil a genuine passional love. K'mon boy, attack her!
If it's worthwhile...

I have never had a relationship last longer than six months, and I don't like that.

On the other hand, every time I had sex its never been with a female friend or with someone I fancied that was a friend. I've been asked for purely sexual relationships and decided to stop that a while ago, but they were my longest relationships.

Man, one time a girl was going out with a friend of mine and she asked me over to their flat regularly, alone and I had to find ways to make the atmosphere as unsexual as possible, because I cared about that friend.

I lost that friend and now that couple are practically engaged.

So don't get all piece of meat, because women know men are pieces of meat too, just u can get them cheaper.

looked back at this cos i thought i did a massive rant up there

I have to thank the Br.

"maybe they dont want to be chosen between but would rather be picked out of a crowd for their own unique charm and personality by someone who is genuinely attracted to them"

Right on! And it works both ways...except a washout like me can just get SNAPPED up by Venus...no more of that methinks.

We are BOTH in charge of ourselves.

Well, you won't exactly be making yourself popular by alternately putting yourself down and treating them as interchangeable... For Venus-snapping to commence, you need a different approach

Would you care to think of a different metaphor than Venus snapping? All I can think of is this - and it's not pleasant given the context:

http://www.abc.net.au/tasmania/stories/The_Venus_m724986.jpg