h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Probably because I have a hopeless memory, unless it is a visual thing. I expect there is some scientific thingy for it. Either that or I'm just dim!

IIEM, black coffee for me. Thanks.

Why the long face, dear?

Well, a little less than a year ago, I was angry with my mom for some reason or another, and to deal with it, I wrote down exactly what I was feeling on my computer, and forgot to delete it. She's wiping the hard drive, and she comes across it, and I made her cry. I have to talk to her and tell her that I didn't mean it, but my dad told me that she found it in confidence, so I've got a dilemma there.

It's not as bad as it seems now, I'm just dreading bringing it up.

[Mog] Oh dear ... I hope it turns out all right!

Me too. I can't think of anything else to put here.

IIEM- give me an infite improbibility drink, the most infintly improbably drink you can muster.

First things first, IIEM - more tea please!

Nextly: I think it's a related phenomena to only being able to remember six of the seven dwarves/7 of santas reindeer/six of the deadly sins etc, and probably to only being able to think about seven things at one time, and if you think of an eighth, you forget about one of the other seven. Probably.

Why worry ,as long as what you wrote was what you where feeling, rather than how you thought you should be feeling given the "cicumstances" , if it was me i would , wait and see if she brings it up,

Well-

I sent her an email- I know, the chicken's way out, but bear with me- explaining that I had found backup copies I had made of some of my documents before the hard drive went. I told her that I was feeling terrible when I wrote them, they're vents, and they don't describe how I feel most of the time. I explained that I really do love her, and feel proud that she's my mom most of the time.

I felt so much better when she replied and said that it was all right. There's probably still some air that needs clearing, but that can wait until I visit next.

So much better!

[Narrator] And there was much rejoicing.

[Moogles] [waving halfheartedly] Kupo ... Kupo ...

[Subtitle: "Yay ... yay ..."]

Oh Scandrea, I'm so glad things worked out, but Mums know that not matter how upsetting something is at the time, we are still loved and still love our children

I know- but it still makes me feel a lot better for her to know that I wasn't myself when I wrote that!

I once came across something once of my daughters had written and left out in a fairly prominent place in her bedroom.
She had scrawled violently, Norman Bates style, "My Mother is a F****** Fa**y"

My main reaction was one of laughter - at least she'd managed to vent those feelings, and so alliteratively.

We now have an excellent relationhip

My parents were rowing a lot when I was taking my A levels, and I once wrote in big letters on top of my revision timetable 'Remember if you pass you can go to university and never ever come back'.

My Dad told me off for upseting my mum and being a melodramtic teenager.

Ironically enough I haven't been back for longer than three weeks, I spent the first christmas holidays trying to patch their marriage together for the Xth time and then thought 'sod it' I'm only going home if they're not rowing.

Apart from at christmas which is always a bugger because I can't just walk out if they're rowing - which they usually do, and I don't drive and the trains don't run for two days.

Admitly the fact they always row is my fault, because I make such a big deal of 'I'm only coming home if you don't row whilst I'm here' they are on edge in case they have another row!

Still I'm really looking forward to graduateing I'd much rather be working over Christmas doing something useful - and double pay comes in handy as well.

(I shuold say I've not stayed at home for more than three days since Christmas in my first year..)

Would you believe I havn't spoken to my mother in 7 years? I had a foster-mosther growing up - on and off - and she's a lve, I see her now and then (she lives pretty far away but I get there when I can). My biological mother though - worked on that relationship till I was 25 and then had to give up or be pulled apart. . . Its not so much her. . exactly . . . you know how some people just have drama and mayhem following them whereever they go? I just realized that seeing her coming down the road meant that there was a academy-winning drama hot on her heals and if I didn't get out the way - I was going to be the tradgic star of her personal drama forever.
I always looked an my friends and their relationships with their mothers and wished I could relate! You cant imagine how much difference it would have made in my life if I'd had a supportive female figure arround . . . dont take those relationships for granted guys . . day comes when they'll be so very important . . .

[Mog] Wow. My parents merely being divorced seems relatively tame.

Hello Koshana.

I was lucky enough to have parents who where together until my wonderful mum died. They never really rowed, or at least, not when we were there to hear it. I was lucky enough to have a stable childhood, inspite of moving every three years and being sent to boarding school whenI was 10, as Dad was in HM's Forces.

IIEM, any veggie juice?

Hi Koshana!

I saw on your PS that you had African roots- What country? I've got a bunch of friends from Ethiopia and Nigeria.

Personally, I'm Russian, Scotch-Irish, English, French, German, Austrian, Hungarian, and possibly Polish, depending on how the boundaries were redrawn after WWII. I'm a European Mutt!

Wow, a self confessed mongrel!

Mark Twain once said that while he did not attend the funeral of a politician, he had sent a letter saying he approved of it.