h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

*steadfastly refuses to wrap her tongue round anything*

Not even a popsicle?



-Pete

*cough*

yeah, so a virginity (or lack thereof) thread? well here's my little tale:

To set the scene, I was a good Southern Baptist girl, and I was living in the Scholar's Dorm at the Universitu of Idaho. It was my freshman year, and it was a co-ed dorm. A few months earlier I had my first kiss, and the world was beginning to come into focus for me (sexually, anyway). Living with a bunch of male nerds, I was never lacking in someone willing to confess his undying love (lust) for me. Soooo I became involved with the 'bad boy' of the hall (a laughable title). I didn't happen to have roommates at the time, but the room was right next to the girls sleeping porch. I froze in that damned room (all windows open in the idaho winter for fear of asphyxiation), so I slept in my 'study' room. That made it convenient for boy in question to come upstairs with me to 'cuddle and watch movies.' I spent half my time having a religious crisis, and the other half having my virgin body explored. He had thus 'explored' me enough that in fact when actual penetration occurred, it felt sublime (I HAD been harboring all that pent up sexual depravity, after all). The 'morning after' I was kind of freaked out by the tremendous sin I had committed, so I wandered across town rather aimlessly and settled at an all-night cafe to write about it (still have the letter somewhere). Of course, that didn't stop us from continuing to get it on at all hours that year; I had the grades to prove it. And since we were always in danger of getting caught, I did learn the useful skill of the voiceless yelp!

The point surely is that you should lose your virginity when you're ready, if eris isn't ready and can say no I say good on her...

I don't intend to love mine to any Tom, Dick (eh hem) or Harry.

You don't get it back after all, why rush?

I already lost mine, I know exactly where it is though, I'm still with the man in question, and we just found out we're going to be parents

Anyway, I agree though. I went through a lot of stick at school becaue I was a virgin, some peope even claiming that I must be a lesbian because I wasn't interested in sex... So what? I was 14, i was more interested in getting my homework done and not being ranted at by the science teacher

Sex is something personal, if you wantt o be a virgin on your wedding night I respect that completely, the same as I respect the decision tolose it earlier... As long as you're not pressured and you're happy, anything goes

Auntie Kaz will now leave the building

that's true, what you say.

I don't wish so much that I had lost mine earlier or later, but that I had not been pressured into a religion that ultimately ended up to be contrary to my view on things - then perhaps I could have made decisions based on a more honest assessment of myself.

I was lucky that I only had pressure from one direction, namely vastly immature classmates who thought it was to be pregnant at 14 My parents and true friends were always aware of my views and never tried to get me to change my ideas...

Congrats Eris

Immature doesn't cover what the guys in my school are, considering they go round judging who's got the biggest boobs.

*peers down blouse* hmm

maybe we should start a thread in which boys honestly state their breast size preference. then maybe us girls might be pleasantly surprised and not feel so bad about ourselves. of course that also runs the risk of blowing up in our faces.

it also occurred to me that the foundation of our self-esteem is created just at that time when boys are adolescent chickens**t tit chasers. does this make any sense at all? it's not like we're given any real opportunity to point and laugh at their endowment (or lack thereof)

I recon that it doesn't matter what size

as long as they're there blokes won't care.

I don't think so much it's the size that annoys blokes, it's the fact that whatever size they are, 99% of the time they ain't in with a chance of getting to them, so they start to take the proverbial to make themselves feel better... The moral? Your boobs are great as they are, ignore men (and women) who say otherwise

Ever noticed how when women are on the defensive the push out their chests...is it just to tease blokes?

It can mean other things too.

*at school shower room memories*

I was the last one of my year to grow breasts and the last one to start my periods.
I can distinctly remember one boy in my class asking out loud why I never missed swimming, "Doesn't she have periods???"

Oh the embarrasement when the rest of the class burst out laughing and my teacher didn't know where to look.



I don't miss my schooldays AT all.

Congrats Eris!

ahh, I was in the other, more terrifying group of those to develop first, scary as hell as I remember.

Standing around in changing rooms with all these little flat chested girlies...god the embarrassment!

With development you really want to be somewhere in the middle don't you. Otherwise, either way you think you're abnormal, which you certainly aren't.

I *won't* miss my school at all, the joy of next year not being in the contest for breast size, not being constantly asked by my friend James how big and what colour my bra is and not having to listen to Don and the guys contemplate whether the girls in the groups collars and cuffs match.

The shame!

You were critized for being a virgin at 14? Damn, that's early.

I wasn't critized at 14, at 17 am I but that's more because I haven't had a boyfriend...

but frankly with the immature gits in my school I'm better off without a boyfriend

I didn't have a boyfriend till I was 18, and more to the point didn't want one, school was complicated enough without having to add the 'bonus' of the male element. All the boys at school had a mental age of about three anyway, really makes for interesting conversation

I don't tend to push my chest out, my boobs go on fact finding missions of their own, usually concluding that it's damn cold and can they have more clothes please

As for being a virgin at 14, it was considered odd by a lot of the people in my year at school. Social status in my area seemed to be set by where you were on the scale as follows...

Not interested
No Boyfriend
No boyfriend but looking
Boyfriend but no sex
Boyfriend and sex
Sex with anyone
Pregnancy

I was in the top category, to be anywhere but after having a boyfriend was to be a sad reject, and if you weren't interested you were obviously gay. The epitome was of course to have a sex life and then a baby.

Maybe I'm being a wee bit y but that's what it seemed like

Okay, rant over

I'm happy that teen pregnancies are fairly unheard of in my country.

Be thankful for that, the UK has the highest rate of teen pregnancies in Europe as far as I am aware and that in itself is quite scary

I'm pregnant, by accident I'll admit, but my partner and myself (21 & 28 respectively) are in a position to look after the child when he or she arrives and do what we can. Unfortunately many can't offer the same, and it's a shame to see people waste what little bit of childhood they have left caring for an infant There needs to be more education on matters of sexual health in the UK, but as usual the conservative (little 'c' before anyone chunters) elements of society get awfully shocked at the idea of their precious little darlings knowing exactly what their genitals are for and what can happen if they use them without protection.

Sorry. I have no gripe about young parents, just the system that means there are so many when there could be a lot fewer