h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

67, quirkytogether apparantly.

Although these "quirkywhatever" words are making me cringe. Does it smell of "just like everyone else, I try to be different," to anyone else?

Erm, I guess I've been single most of my life so far, just had my first girlfriend dump me a couple of weeks ago. I've never personally noticed any stigma about being single. I'd still prefer to be with someone than not.

i think we should bare in mind that this is America we are talking about where this stigma is. perhaps Britain and other European countries are not as 'shallow' as that?
i use 'shallow' lightly as it is the only word that pops into my head to describe it.

89, very quirkyalone, whatever that means.

Any road, as to the original question I am not single ATM, but have a feeling that I am going to be quite soon

i got that feeling once...turned out i was right

Yes, but it's me who is thinking of doing the dumping, not me as the dumpee.

Well, I only used the article as a bit of a springboard to get this conversation going. I also think that using sweeping general terms like 'quirky' is, well, stupid really.

But I think the article made some good points, especially with the people interviewed, in that being single doesn't necessarily mean you are actively trying not to be single and that there isn't anything wrong with that.

az

well, goodluck with that then

hi Grey Desk,

In all my vasty experience of relationships and marriages I have only been the 'dumpee' once and it was hell.

az

I got a score of 80.. Though as always I place very little credibility on such tests... though they are fun I've been alone as long as I care to remember... To I like being 'single'/'alone'... Its all I know, I useually find others rarely meet the high standards I set myself... though I rarely seem to meet them myself of late... Would I prefer to be in a relationship... I think so; you can only have so much fun on your own, and sharing it around would be nice, but then life sucks and we all die rot and decompose, such is the way of things...

A very large round of applause for 2leg's very 'optimistic' viewpoint on life and relationships!

Okay 2legs, I will admit that some of what you say makes sense and has merit. Life may suck at times and, well yes, we will all rot and decompose if we aren't cremated.

Anyhoodle, I also mostly like being single/alone. It feels like a choice. I mean before I always had tons of boyfriends and husbands - men were almost crawling out of the woodwork and wanting to be in a relationship with me! But no longer. I think largely because I stopped being what other people wanted me to be (well, as much as that is possible and maintain a social existence).

az

oh 87 points, what ever Quirkyalone means, sounds like an Ally Mcbeal-ism.

I'm not single by choice, but because every girl i know has a boyfriend or "just wants to be friends."
But i'm not too phased about it, compared to some people i know who seem to be in constant panic about it.

the only time i get loneliness bad is when i'm wondering around and i see something cool or wierd and i want to say to someone how cool or wierd it is.

Ged,

I sometimes feel like that on Sunday afternoons, when the streets are mostly full of COUPLES out there doing coupley stuff. And you're right, sometimes you want to share something you have just seen or done . . . and there is no one there.

Well, it could also be (as I have experienced) that you turn to your partner to share something you think is very special . . . and they aren't really there either.

az

90

The meaning doesn't seem to apply to me though! I guess I'm quite happy being single, it has it's advantages, but it would be nice to have the choice whether to be or not and I don't feel I have.

I finally got around to doing the quiz. Score: 105. Blimey.

Ivan.

hi Serephina,

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Well, if you're gonna be *fussy*! That is really the limiting factor, isn't it? People who remain single even though they feel they would like to be in a relationship are probably just more definite about what they want in their lives.

az

This is an interesting little thread. I haven't been single for a long time so I don't really know how I would feel about it. As I don't have any single friends, it would be a bit scary to be on my own - who on earth would I socialise with? I have been with the same partner for 10 years, but we have only lived together for the last 18 months. I have to say, whilst I am not unhappy, I did prefer it when we didn't live together.

I scored 59, which makes me a 'quirkytogether' apparently. Someone posted earlier on and said they couldn't read all the explanation box. I had the same problem.

Liz
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<<...more definite about what they want in there lives.>>

Or at least clearer about the tradeoffs involved, which can of course change with time and circumstances. I've been both unwillingly single and comfortably so in my time.

Noggin

Im not 'that' fussy Azahar
Just having a drought of interest..for the last 27 years

hi Noggin,

Well, not just about trade-offs, but really also about knowing what sort of person suits them better. I mean, when you are 21 so much is still up-in-the-air and there is almost everything still to learn about yourself. And so at that age it is much easier - and probably quite necessary - to experiment more with relationships.

They say that people get 'set in their ways' when they get older and this is often meant as something negative. And it can be negative if it means a person is 'stuck' in their ways. But it can also mean that someone simply knows themself better, including personal needs and desires, but not necessarily that they are inflexible. Still, once you have a clearer idea of what you want and need then other options simply fail to be interesting.

az

87. The problem is that it is geared up for females.
However, I have my singleton 'Dear John' anniversary on 14/02/04, and after 10 years of being a singleton I doubt if I could facilitate a 'Pairing' relationship. She would have to be a very special person and prepared to accept my eccentricities, and I would have to seriously change my lifestyle. I have become comfortable being a singleton, although the main problem I experience is that other people develop the impression that being single and approaching my mid-forties that there is something wrong or I have a preference for same-sex partners.
If the right person came along I wouldn't necessarily run, however I would be wary and wouldn't dive headlong into a hot-bloodied relationship.There would certainly not be a spare set of keys cut until we were both happy.
May even toy with a dating agency?