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Hi folks
I'm L.J and I would love some feedback on this qustion, that being, what do you find works for you or others when their flirting with you? all to put it a different way How does flirting work for you and the people you spend time with. Well that my question join in take part have fun, and feel good.

Hi LJ
*bats eyelashes and blows a *

The flirting style that works on me is pure confidence. I tend to be attracted to witty, intelligent smartasses who are fearless and bold.

I don't see myself as much of a flirt, though my friends disagree with that. Mostly, if I'm in the right mood and find a worthy victim I play with words and ideas a lot, make observations backed up by streams of bizarre logic. Some guys seem to like that and the weak of heart just escape! escape! escape!

Thanks for you reply swet pea, so how would you like to just for a moment just think, of one good question, that would allow you to feel so good for taking part in this projet I am starting up, that being, how can you tell when some one likes you, in a way other than just a friend? and what do you think stops most guys asking girls out? by the way feel good now and for the rest of your life.

How I can tell that someone 'likes' me? Well, like I said, I'm attracted to bold and fearless men. They tend to be pretty direct about it.

I can be pretty intimidating IRL (believe it or not )and I've had several guys tell me that they'd never have dared to ask me out had I not let them know that I was interested in spending a little time with them. I often end up dating guys who I think might make interesting friends, but who didn't initially start me squirming.

So being direct Is something you find attrative in men, so I should be a little more dirct in my writing style, and this would make you feel so good yes, keep responding cos I am learning all the time, so how would you assist a guy in becoming more confident, and don't think I'm talking about me cos, I'm I've got more confidence and I out number the whole plant billions of times, in the filed of "watch me I'm so cool" the idea behind the qusetion is to build a Matrix of thought-ideas so I can persevere and create more flexibility in my approach at being a smartass, yet with the skill and addid, quilties that all others to feel just so god dam good about them selves, cos if guys don't do that then what the point of making the effort, in the fist place, don't worry about my wriing style theres a good reason for this which is to create a spicifc responce, and that will for some reason make you feel just wonderful, it's just happens just by thinking about questions.

So being direct Is something you find attrative in men, so I should be a little more dirct in my writing style, and this would make you feel so good yes, keep responding cos I am learning all the time, so how would you assist a guy in becoming more confident, and don't think I'm talking about me cos, I'm I've got more confidence and I out number the whole plant billions of times, in the filed of "watch me I'm so cool" the idea behind the qusetion is to build a Matrix of thought-ideas so I can persevere and create more flexibility in my approach at being a smartass, yet with the skill and addid, quilties that all others to feel just so god dam good about them selves, cos if guys don't do that then whats the point of making the effort, in the fist place, don't worry about my wriing style theres a good reason for this which is to create a spicifc responce, and that will for some reason make you feel just wonderful, it's just happens just by thinking about questions.

Oy vey.

Here....have a and settle down.

Did that make any sense at all that's just flying right over my head?

OOps sorry I have this skill and go on and on yet you can still feel good and thanks for your reply.

Using proper punctuation might minimize that problem.

Yeah, let's have some flirting tips.

I've heard many people talk about how self-esteem is what's important. There are some places where hypnotists try and give you that, has anyone any idea wether it works? I've never really liked the idea of someone screwing around with my mind in that way, but maybe it's what I need.

I have a feeling that self esteem isn't something someone else can 'give' you. How about doing some self hypnosis through focused meditation and see what happens? It works when you do it properly.

Hi
Having researched hypnosis indeth, for over ten years now, I can say that It does and can help, yet there is a much better skill base out there called NLP and again I have been using, "NLP" Neuro-Linguistic programming for many years, with high outcome results, and you can us NLP with out the so called transe state. and there also neuro-semantics, which is a extention of NLP and works really well, try this site www.neurosemantics.com and have a read of some of the articls.

*not a flirt at all* *grins broadly, though slightly unconvincingly*

Meh..I don't seem to be able to do it well. Maybe that's why s are generally involved in first dates . I'm thankful that my brain ever makes 'contact' at all. I don't know, perhaps us types should appreciate that, I mean maybe that will mean we have to sort through less chaff . On the other hand, we end up alone! Nevertheless, in the last couple years I've decided to settle for nothing less than kindred, for better or worse..

Speaking of which,

Well, being 15 years old and not popular enough, I am left mostly to speculate, but I am actually that kind that falls for the shy, silent guys that don't make too much of a fuzz about themselves... Problem is that I'm that kind as well, so moving it from just smiling friendly is still a basic goal

But I think one of the old, worn ones is the best - I imagine myself accepting if a young Irishman (this works solely alone, since most females of my family has this weird attraction to Irishmen ) came up to me, asking "Do you have any Irish in you?" Me answering truthfully no, and he finally, "Would you like some?"

It's soooo clichè, but I think that also makes it charming

Got any mongrel French/Spanish-Basque/Dutch-American in you?


For me anyway, confidence is like a a high, of the same kind you get from various chemical substances. I work my self into a state of confidence, in which I don't care about rejection or pain or anything and nothing can touch me. During these self-esteem trips I am a powerhouse of sanguine expansiveness: chatting, flirting, laughing.

Then I come down.

Sounds like the symptoms of manic depression.

No. It's just me.

I find I flirt best if I'm in a good mood and not specifically trying to impress but just being friendly. Smiling more than usual helps too.

I'm usually more confident when I'm not trying to pick up on someone. As soon as the thought enters my mind that a woman is potential date material, I freeze up mentally and become the shy, passive person that never gets anywhere in the dating world. It's really annoying.

Drinking doesn't usually help; I usually end up being drunk and shy.

Even if you've already been talking to them for a while?