h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Dunno about you guys but in the past 9 months I've properly developed an ego to give the confidence... But then, I have done about 3 years worth of changing in the best 9 months.

Are you regarding my 'long post' young lady?
Well, helloooo (best Terry thomas voice)



I agree with what you are saying Queeglesproggit, but agreeing and understand are the easy parts. Must work on my self belief.

Whether you find you self fanciable has nothing to do with other people fancying you. Having the confidence to engage with people is what you seem be lacking.

Your honesty is a good trait but if you express your self criticism so bluntly to tohers they may think your
a; a bit barmy and slf obsessed

or

b; that you will subject them to the same level of stringent criticism which would scare me a bit to be honest and Ive got an ego the size of an airfeild.

Dont get too hung up about the different sides of your character nearly everyone behaves different in different situations, its called adaptation and is generally a good thing. If someone makes you angry then as long as they are your true feelings then theres nothing wrong with that even if the next person you meet makes you feel happy it does not invalidate your previous feelings.

You sound as If you know yourself very well but do not understand human beings. You talk about sides of your self in the same way Ancient greeks spoke about faces and masks, this is slightly wrong.

Go to a mirror and frown then smile. In both cases it is still your face. The two things cannot be seperated. There is only you, what you do with your self your actions, words and interactons with the world are all a product of yourself. You have no control of what people see in you only what you do and say they will have their own judgements about you all you can do is listen to others and weigh their thoughts against your own. There is no mirror for looking at your personality unfortunately. You may think you are one thing others may see you as something else all you can do is trust in you and the people who you see as honest to judge yourself.

Terry Thomas is too camp (and too silly a name), now a Leslie Phillips "helloooooo"... <- that's a swoon

Bob, you definitely seem to have evolved a "RAAARRRRRR!" attitude to pulling


Maybe we (me, Ictoan, Xan to start with) should look in the mirror in the mornings and go "You're a tiger! RARRRRRR!"

Whether you find you self fanciable has nothing to do with other people fancying you. Having the confidence to engage with people is what you seem be lacking.

Your honesty is a good trait but if you express your self criticism so bluntly to tohers they may think your
a; a bit barmy and slf obsessed

or

b; that you will subject them to the same level of stringent criticism which would scare me a bit to be honest and Ive got an ego the size of an airfeild.

Dont get too hung up about the different "sides" of your character nearly everyone behaves different in different situations, its called adaptability and is generally a good thing. If someone makes you angry then as long as they are your true feelings then theres nothing wrong with that even if the next person you meet makes you feel happy it does not invalidate your previous feelings.

You sound as If you know yourself very well but do not understand human beings as well as you might like. You talk about sides of your self in the same way Ancient greeks spoke about faces and masks, this is slightly wrong.

Go to a mirror and look at your face frown then smile. In both cases it is still your face. The two things cannot be seperated. There is only you, what you do with your self your actions, words and interactons with the world are all a product of yourself. You have no control of what people see in you only what you do and say they will have their own judgements about you all you can do is listen to others and weigh their thoughts against your own. There is no mirror for looking at your personality unfortunately. We all may think we are one thing others may see us as something else all we can do is trust in our selves and the people who we see as honest to judge our selves.

Queegle, all I need now is a 'I've got a boyfriend' detector. Wasted far too much time at the weekend on those...

posted then read that blicky had said to look in a mirror too! should we frown, then smile, then go "RAAARRRR!"?

blicky, I don't know if your post is directed at me or Ictoan or both, but you are very wise

I personally don't express my self-criticism, for precisely the reasons you've stated. So don't know if this is 'normal'

"You sound as If you know yourself very well but do not understand human beings. You talk about sides of your self in the same way Ancient greeks spoke about faces and masks, this is slightly wrong."
Could you explain further? That sounds an interesting point.

"You have no control of what people see in you" - that made me stop and think. Some people are going to make odd opinions of you no matter what you do.

I try to judge myself by my friends - they're good people, so I figure I must be okay, cuz they want to be friends with me.

Not always like this, today I am because I'm bashing myself because I'm sitting on hootoo instead of working, so I shall remedy this by working, and thus feel I'm fantastic!

There are toads that secret from their skin? </>

"You sound as If you know yourself very well but do not understand human beings"
How very, very true

Hmm, you do get some odd looks if you pull faces in the toilet and go 'Raaar!'.

Blicky, you do speak sense. And I know I deliberately tolerate some negatives in my friends because I think their positive outweighs it. After all, no one is perfect.

The faces / masks thing. How so not quite right? In my observation most people appear to have certain masks they slip on in certain situations. Be they placatory, aggresive, laddish, girly whatever.
It's something I see myself doing. Perhaps maybe not a deliberate mask but certain situations bring forth a certain persona I find.


Ooooh, helloooo - which is what I meant but I don;t find his name as rememberable (is that a word?) as TT's )

Whether you're too fat or too thin, have your nose constantly in a book or never read at all, listen to classical music or Garage(?), spend all your time in pubs or are teetotal... lots of people are going to think you're but so what - they're pretty weird themselves.

It's the ones that think " a kindred spirit" or " what an intriguing person" (or "He's so thin, I must cook him a nice meal") that matter. But unless you talk to the toads and s you won't find them. You'll just have to resign yourself to it.

I know the font of all my self doubt - it's that I'll be 30 in a couple of years and have no path/career. But realistically, that's changeable.

I wouldn't say go "RAAAAAR!" in public toilets - that's just daft

I've been thinking too much recently of what other people think, dammit! I shall go back to being a weirdo and be proud of it flibble

If you're trying to fit in to what you think will make people think good of you, you are effectively putting on a mask.

Through all the years when I tried to be attractive I only attracted toads. When I stopped caring and decided to be my self my prince suddenly noticed me.
(Did get some odd looks from "normal" folks though )

The thing is, if you attract someone by wearing a mask do you want to have to wear that mask for the rest of your life? Or wonder whether they would really want to be with the real you?

Exactly, I figured that out a while ago - they're gonna figure out what you're like in the long run anyway. Rather they avoid you now!

Be nice if they didn't run quite so fast though.

oooh it's dangerous thinking like a weirdo again..

Will do work now, and go flibble later

We all doomed! Doomed I tell you!

Well, on Thursday I'm going to a party with actual girls , and the hostess wants to set me up with someone

Hmmm, all good stuff but I can;t really counter any without being more revealing. Suffice to say that I don;t know who or what I am. Consequently I guess I tend to think of myself as a bit of a grey person, some good qulities but I've always known that I am what the ladies classify as a 'yes, but' type of bloke. And i don;t know how to get round the 'but'. (avoids making obvious joke )
When happy, i can beleive i can be a funny entertaining foolish person. But then I get worried that people will just see me as a foolish person. *argh* stop thinking!

That's exactly it. Stop thinking.

Self discovery is an interesting thing, and makes you a better person, but then you could also be called self-obsessed




Stop thinking. Just be.

Aye, being single, 'self-discovery' is all that's left