h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

>acting and dressing her age,<

Could you define what that is Xantic? Not what it's not...but what it *is*.

"I never said sexual attractiveness wasn't something women would want."

That's as may be. To me when someone uses the term 'sex object' with reference to being found attractive they are making an assumption that the person being found attractive dislikes the attention. Being a 'sex object' is not a positive thing unless asked for in a strictly controlled environment.

Yes it was a bit provocative...but frankly the truth.

The tone and style of Ed's post came across like that.

Beating men off with sticks is not my idea of fun...

Sorry Mr. D it just gets very very tiresome. It's so annoying when you are younger and want to make friends with men...and sex is the last thing on your mind...but you have to be thinking about that all the time...because they make assumptions. It's a relief in some ways when you don't have to worry about that so much any more.

But then I was very very fussy about the men and women I wanted to go down the sexual route with. I won't say I missed out

No I can't necessarily define that. That is just what I would say Ed was getting at. Not that all women fear old age solely because they will be less attractive.

"It's so annoying when you are younger and want to make friends with men...and sex is the last thing on your mind...but you have to be thinking about that all the time...because they make assumptions."

This here is irony in action.

Yes. But there is a serious side. I've had a few unpleasent experiences...because

' *I* must have known the score...surely'...some turn nasty when they realise 'you just wanted to be friends, and it hadn't ocurred to you that they didn't want a sexual relationship'

Not that anything was said. I'm supposed to be a mind reader. Nothing wrong with fancying someone like that...but what right do some men then have to turn nasty because you didn't realise?

So you have to be aware of that all the time.

Not that it turned very nasty often. But one particularly bad experience of that led to me ending up in hospital he turned so nasty..

I just don't get that attitude from some men. I wouldn't dream of asuming someone fancied me just because I fancied them...or I had read the signs wrong.

But I'm straying a bit offtopic...

*they wanted a sexual relationship*

Frs:

>>Glad to hear your friend is happy with being elegant so that lots of men still find her desirable as a sex object though. You've obviously spoken to her about it.

You know what? Yes I have.

Variety is the spice of life.

I'm only really bothered these days about the women still ocassionally taking a second glance...

(Perfume arrived today at last. Made in France still, but no longer sold there, sent to the States, (Perfume Emporium), for them to bottle...that was a shock..the bottle they've designed for it looks like something you might buy in a pound shop.. ).

I'm guessing a pound shop is like a dollar store.


~jwf~

It is LIKE one, but either about 30% more expensive or you get 30% less.

I think that's the way it works.

Yesterday I felt like a child because I was having to act like an adult.

My mother has bought a new mobile phone. All she wanted to know was the difference between, 'on silent' and 'off'. It took me about ten minutes to explain before she looked at me and said, 'I still don't think I see the difference'.

As an adult I wasn't 'allowed' to have a tantrum. But the child in me wanted one more than anything.

PP.

Could it have been that you hadn't explained it very well?

How about a nice analogy between muting the TV sound and switching it off? Anyway my mother also has these moments; what seems to everyone else to be the simplest of concepts, is utterly incomprehensible to her.

That another problem with getting older, it's more difficult to learn new tricks.

Nonsense, age just gives rise to the delusion that one is too old to learn.

Myself, my mother and my brother once spent an agonising 10 minutes repeating the word 'defence' to my late grandmother. She just could not comprehend what the word meant or that she had ever heard it before. She didn't even have dementia as an excuse .

The movie Interview With The Vampire has a line at the beginning, where Louis talks about his time right before he became a vampire. "I was only 22 years old but times were different then, I was already a man." That line is a bit depressing to me, the way that these days guys seem to not become grown up untill they are 30 or so.

On the other hand, perhaps it's a luxury people can now get away with because we live in a less brutal age...a sign of progress, if you like.

"age just gives rise to the delusion that one is too old to learn"

In my experience it's more about laziness and the impression that it's not worth the bother.

My stepfather, in his fifties, wanted nothing to do with computers. He avoided using them at work, and avoided even *looking* at them outside work. He vehemently argued against any concept that he'd ever have any use for one. I felt like I was banging my head against a wall when I trieed to tell him how tech could benefit him.

After he retired, in his mid-sixties, he taught me how to use eBay.

As a lifelong educator I KNOW you can learn something new everyday..Whatever ever age you are provided you are compos mentis.

In fact there are very many youngsters who fail to learn a new fact everyday.