h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Ok, I'm gonna skip out all the complications and get straight to the point. There's a guy I know, well I've met him twice, in a work situation. His names Chris, and he's really quite nice, he's a fireman . The thing is I'm not sure if he's gay/bi or not. Normally I have an inclination, I even got in trouble once for talking to a guy like he was gay as he'd only 'come out' earlier that day and he thought someone had told me. What do I do, I don't feel right just asking him, especially as whenever I've seen him my mom was around.

I used to work with a girl that was gay. I had very strong suspicions but didn't know for sure. So we talked about places to hang out pubs etc - and I mentioned one. I knew if she was not straight she would know it was a gay pub. Nothing more was said at work but we met up out of work for a few drinks and she confirmed she was.

Perhaps you could do the same/similar thing?

Did you say a fireman?! I have a thing about uniforms

that's an idea. Now I have to find that h2g2 page on the birmingham scene, as I only know the one 'gay' club, it istnt really, but it's almost exclusively gay people who go there, and last time I went there it was a complete sh*t hole.

Put it this way - I had a good result, if you know what I mean!

I've only lived here all my life, so you can't expect me to know the place that well

Just been lurking and I found this link you might find useful: http://www.bbc.co.uk/birmingham/gay_village/index.shtml I'll send the gaydar repair man around in the morning

Could I buy a new gaydar? I think the warranty on mine has gone out of date (i.e. apart from the obvious, it doesn't work)!

You've met a Fireman twice in a work situation? Been playing with matches? (I do not advocate starting fires to attract men in uniform).

My Gaydar has never worked.

He also works as an assessor for St John Ambulance for FAW* exams, and I work as a casualty.






*First Aid at Work

Going off topic: You work as a casualty? As in you pretend to be dying and they demonstrate how they would save you? Or have I grabbed the wrong end of the stick?

yeah that's right. I get paid something obcene like £22.55 for 1-3hrs work.

I have the worlds most inaccurate gaydar myself, I'm almost always wrong when I try to guess.

You've just given me an idea... I'll start hitting on men I think look straight... Reverse gaydar. You never know, it's worth a shot.

I suppose you could ask him if he's ever been married, and if not why not. (I stress, do not use those exact words!) Or something similar. What I'm getting at is try and ask questions that are related to, but not directly concerning his sexuality.

On the other hand, I have no idea. It's a tricky situation. Luckily I was born without inhibitions, so I usually ask straight off, or if I'm feeling subtle, reel off a stream of eupahmistic phrases. (It's too easy sometimes - yesterday night I was talking to a guy who asked what flavour lolly I'd like "Apple, Cherry, or cola" and I responded "I'll take your cherry if you don't mind". Oh, how I laughed.)

I often ignore my inhibitions, forinstance, one of the complications is I was going to ask a friend, female, who also does assessing if she wanted to have sex any time soon, although I didn't get a chance as she was in a hurry. another prime exammple is my peforming and recieving oral sex in Birmingham city centre in the middle of the day. However I may have to work with him again, and I don't want to make that difficult.

i find it difficult as I am an ex goth but still love the make-up and crimping my hair etc. So that narrows the interest down, not to mention the fact that I don't look butch as I have long hair!

ok, now I'm confuzzled

I mean, nobody ever chats me up!

Nobody ever chats me up either.

And my gaydar hasn't worked for years. Or maybe I'm just not paying enough attention these days, 'cos it cuts into my reading time.

I'd chat you up but I dunno if it'd be apreciated, despite my wearing a 'skirt' on Nov 30th and I don't wear make-up* as much now as when I was doin my A-levels I don't smoke as much of my special tobacco either, maybe the two were related.






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