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Well said teri, all very good points(especially about leavung Ben thewith the parents. It would be a strain readjusting & especially to life in an apartment!)

Slight adjustment to beta blockers & asthma meds advice: as far as i have been told; it's not the asthma itself that's the problem BUT if you use a ventolin (salbutamol type) puffer, they are pretty incompatible; i do & get absolutely b***ocked to hell & back about it; but as i pointed out to my "If i can't actually breathe at all, having a nice steady heartbeat despite the stress of suffocating isn't gonna get me very far is it?"


zdt

To each and everyone individually... followed by a giant group

Now I'm going to try to respond to everyone because I'm crazy... I've actually opened the conversation in a new window!

Terri: The practical suff sounds about right to me. I have had various people suggest that it might be anxiety, and my cousin's girlfriend(who I would be moving in with) has anxiety attacks and has had to go to the hospital a few times (all in the past year) because of them.
The only thing that puzzles me is that I do try the dropping my shoulders and various deep breathing and "grounding" type activities but it often makes no difference. It some times happens when I'm simply relaxing and I've woken up from it once or twice. Have you been able to find any specific source for your anxiety? I've considered that I may be thinking of the same things when it happens really badly but when it happens that badly I can't remember what I was thinking about.
I don't have asthma (as far as I know). The inhalers were perscribed to help with the chest infection. (At least that's what the told me.)
I will definately look into the beta blockers.
And I will still have internet access. Good ol' laptop I was actually at my cousin's when I joined hootoo.
I am confident that the bunny will adapt, and she will be getting fixed before hand. The only reason I'm concerned is that the cat is already fairly terretorial and not at all used to other animals. When they first got her she used to attack people for getting to close to her. She is much better now but does have the occasional minor violent outburst.
The dog thing is my biggest problem really. I don't know where exactly it's coming from but I *really* feel like I would be abandoning him. He's used to me dissappearing for a few days at a time but he won't understand me only coming home for the occasional weekend.
for Terri. I wrote a whole lot more than I intended to in response. I promise I'll be shorter with everyone else!

PC what can I say?
I'll have to speak with a and see whether beta-blockers would be harmful for me. I've had a couple people in RL suggest I do a 24 hour heart monitor. I'll have to find a doctor that agrees!
I know I need to find a better doctor. If I move I'm going to find one in that area. (My current doctors office is over an hour away from where I live, but near where I used to work.)
The move might just be a transition to moving near or to a university. It could take me a while to figure out where/what for. But I don't feel like that is an urgent thing for me right now anyways.
for PC!

Prof: That's what my mom wants me to do, only she wants me to come back for sure after the 3-6 months are over! I have told my cousin all my concerns and what not and he suggested trying it for a while and going home if it's really unbareable. Of course, he assured me that I would be much happier.
for Animal!

Ducky: What a beautiful story. You have a way with cheering people up!
Don't worry, this situation is quite different. If my parents were retiring I definately wouldn't be following them and I definately don't have a child! ... or at least I don't think I do...
To quote you..."Stress is terrible, being a teenager, who happens to have some brains and sometimes get picked on, makes me stressed but probably not the on level you are so i'll be quiet now..."
Don't worry. If you're stressed just let it out. I don't play the "my stress can beat up your stress" game. Whatever is important to you in your life is just as valid as the things that are important to others in their lives. Here's a tip about the getting picked on... if you truly and genuinly don't care about their opinions they won't bother trying to make you feel bad. It can take a very long time to get to that point, but you'll have a much happier experience if you realize that they *really* don't matter in the grand scheme of things. Trust me, I've been there... I could go on... but I promised to be brief and I'm failing miserably!
for Ducky!

Teri_whoo: My bunny is very outgoing. She once taunted a visiting dog that very oviously wanted to kill her! He was trying to get into her cage and was getting yelled at so she went and lay down right in front of the bars that he had just been pulled away from. She flopped down with her fur sticking out between the bars and did a little wiggle. I know she'll be fine with the cat, I just hope it's mutual!
It would be stressful for Ben to move. I definately wouldn't go if he would have to move as well. I guess I'm just worried about how stressful it will be for him if I go. I know it sounds but I'm going to be worried no matter how silly I think it is!
I love having this place to escape to!
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Jaz'd: Doin' it the easy way eh? Wait for everyone else to give their advice and then agree with it (For anyone who might not guess, I'm just kidding. I think I've already talked to jaz'd about this on another thread in the past.)
for jaz'd!

I think that's everyone! Sorry for the novel folks

Another group

Thanks FF.

Lots of s for you!!

if I get a hug every time, want any more advice

FF, I don't know what to advise, really, cause I don't know the circumstances and haven't known you for long. You should change you GP and get a threapy for your health problems, that's really important.
As for the rest, i just wish you lots of with whatever you decide

I think you will be absolutely fine in the long run with whatever YOU decide; you and i are very alike in many respects; both basically very strong people *but* if we feel we are not in control of our own everday lives THAT is the main cause of the stress stuff.

I often wake up in the morning, heart pounding, simply 'cos i immediately start thinking of all the problems that today is gonna throw at me; two ways to deal with this: hide & snivel & shiver under the covers & hope the problems can be avoided....usually leads to nasty nightmares & no, the problems don't go away; if anything they multiply! Or dragging yourself out of bed, feeding the (or in your cse)who should not be an innocent hungry victim of *your* unhappiness! People often underestimate the value of pets in these circumstances: it gives you a reason to carry on & the unconditional affection can save you when you are at your lowest.

Then, i do something so banal as to seem ridiculous; i read it in a book about "practical zen"; it damn well works!! "If you have a problem, if you can't decide what to do, wash the dishes, clean the house, tidy up; in the process you are actually meditating & having an ordered environment cleans the spirit...if you have achieved nothing else this day, you have cleared a small but important part of the universe"

Plus i usually play LOUD & cheery whilst doing this, punk works very well ( PC!!!)

I really can sympathise with your dilemma about moving stuff; i am going through similar stuff myself (see EYE EYE thread) & it is never easy disturbing the status quo, but sometimes maybe, it's actually necessary to stand back & think "Hey, what is actually at the root of all this anxiety? what am i truly unhappy about/afraid of?" & maybe moving *might* remove some of this....it might make it worse of course, but if you don't try, you will never find out. But very sensible to leave a get out clause; if the people involved know & love you, they will understand why you need this for your own security.



zdt

>if we feel we are not in control of our own everday lives THAT is the main cause of the stress stuff<

Quite. I think that's everyone, to some degree. I know that what stresses me out the most is when there's nothing I can do to change/sort out/fix/improve a given situation. Well, that, and being a little bit afraid to actually *change* stuff, even if the cahnge would be for the better. There's almost always a "yeah, but what IF?"

I could second-guess and "what if?" myself into oblivion, Terri knows this... she's had to give me the kick in the pants I've needed to make some decisions. And looking back, there's nothing to regret.

What I guess I'm trying to say is what Terri said- a change of venue may alleviate your stress, it might introduce new ones at the same time. Or, it may just be six of one or half a dozen of another. Who knows? You won't, unless you try.

Absolutely leave yourself an escape clause. But I have found, in my personal experience, that it's better to have gone with my gut, and had things not work out quite the way I intended, than to stick with the staus quo and regret it later.

And with a little faith, and a good deal of common sense, somehow things always seem to work out over time!

"Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end." (Closing Time, can't remember the author)

a journey of a thousand mile, begins with a single step-Confucus

animal says, ok you might trip up now and again, but keep taking that next step, otherwise you never get there

I think I probably will go for it. I just have to discuss a few more things with my cousin, and I won't be going until after Christmas for sure. I've made up my mind about that much at least!

I've had a crumby day and reading all of your caring responses has cheered me up immensely!

Speaking of listening to punk... I'm sitting on my bed listening to Social Distortion *very* loudly!

Story of my life...

erg! punkheavy rock

Did I hear heavy rock mentioned? I love heavy rock!

"Those who do not leave do not arrive" - Buddhist proverb.

I like all sorts of music. I put on Social Distortion because I haven't heard them in ages! They're more a country-punk kind of band. Right now I'm hearing their cover of Burnin' Ring of Fire

Cool. My favourite band is Nickelback.

believe it or not, its not often I listen to music anymore, mainly co's I haven't got a stereo set up(down to wallet being thin)apart from sky tv radio stations, but I don't bother with them

I don't know who my favourate band is. There are just too many

The last few things I have listened to are: Social Distortion, Roxy Music, David Bowie, The Clash, Sparks and the Cowboy Junkies (who are not a country band despite their name). That doesn't even begin to cover all the stuff I like though.

I haven't really listened to much music lately. I've mostly just heard stuff in the car, and then the SD I put on today.

Cool.

Cowboy Junkies!!!! i found them on the internet; loved the Tshirt "Music is the drug" & was totally unmoved by the CD, despite the rave reviews.

The bleedin ex disappeared with the T shirt; i hope it strangles him.

zdt

Which cd was it?