h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Neither require or want response, really. Both are "head-clearing" exercises, with the option of friends understanding the real "Me" a bit more. Thank you, dear Lady.

It's a very interesting read.

And if I am very lucky, I'll not have very many more entries for this year. Very soon, a new grand-child will deserve her own story. And in the autumn, a very long one to summarize our anniversary travels to the UK. Visiting a few very good hootoo friends.

Psssst .... There's a new grand-daughter to "oooooh" and "aaaaah" over. Depicted in my Fotki page, from my PS.

I do hope the visit of your gent has been a delightful one.

Yes, it has. Of course. Now it's time to once again get sort-of used to being apart... *sigh* for the time being.

And the new granddaughter is very cute.

Isn't she an absolute sweety? Not that I am in any way biased.

She's very sweet. Babies are funny - they're so tiny and wrinkled and weird-looking at first, but despite that, they're incredibly cute.
And judging by her siblings (and parents...), I'm sure she'll be a gorgeous little girl when she grows up a bit.

They do seem to have really gotten lucky with the "cute-factor", haven't they?

But yeah, babies are bundles of paradoxes, from the range of scents to the expressions they make, and emotions they elicit. In brief, ya gotta love 'em.

A personal query for you ... Sometime, somewhen, have you a desire for a large or small number of them of your own? If nature would have allowed, milady and I had hoped for atleast 3, perhaps 4.

*shrug*
Someday, sure.

But it'll be quite a while before the subject can even come up. Hell, it'll be a couple of years before Dan and I could get married, and even then we probably won't be able to support a child right away.

Just one more of the "someday" things, eh? I wish you so much good fortune in all those ways, m'dear.

Well, these things go in stages, y'know...

Right now, we have the next 'someday' when we will meet again - and there'll be a bunch of those getting-together-and-then-parting before we get to the more distant 'someday' when we don't have to part, anymore.
After that, at some point will be all the domestic stuff, but we're not gonna concentrate on those at this stage. No point, really, is there?

Thanks for your well-wishes, anyway.

-girl.

Ah, s'what I do...

I mean, we don't really have a choice, do we?
So we get by, for now, knowing that eventually it'll be better.

I think that you DO have a chance. But a very difficult one to manage. Perhaps more for Dan than yourself, as I see it. He has family where he is, but is more the foot-loose sort that could build a life where he chooses. You have much more "roots", in family, community/nationality, more far-reaching stuff. (Yeah, ain't I so eloquent?) In briefest, for the right world to happen for you both, I think some very tough choices will need to be made.

Not trying to nudge or anything, just expressing thoughts as I see them, and as you have probably done in your own ways.

I never said anything about no chance! I'd never say that. Of course we have a chance. I said no CHOICE. Because as hard as it is, to constantly be waiting for the next time we're together, the alternative is not to be together, and that's worse.
So we get by.

Of course, not forever. Yes, it is something we have been discussing, in length. And yes, as I'm sure you've seen elsewhere before, it does seem to be the best solution to have him move over here. Both because I really am more 'rooted', like you said, and because my family is still not happy with the concept, and it'll be much harder to get them to accept it - to accept Dan - if I am far away.
It'll definitely be very very hard on my mother, if I lived far away. It's already hard for her to have her own mother living in Brasil, and especially since her sister died it's been a big concern for her. I wouldn't want to be in that kind of situation.
Besides, it'll just be hard for me to live elsewhere. For a short while, for doctorate or post-doc studies, that might be nice, but not forever.
Dan is willing to do this, to go through all it'll take for him to move here. For which I can't help but feel very grateful and humble. He's a wonderful guy.

Sorry, ... If you've discussed the options and ideas elsewhere, I've probably missed it. I do tend to unsubscribe from many journals after the intial topic is met, and hootoo-drift sets in.

Sometimes, (rarely) I wonder if I should feel a bit of pride or sadness that I easily left all I knew and joined our military. I've lived and worked in perhaps a dozen different parts and regions of Canada, and simply consider home to be where-ever I currently hang my hat. My entire family (6 kids in all) has never been particularly huggy-close, and yet would fight to the death for each other. Quite an odd clan, we are.

I don't think it's been discussed much in any journals, but I'm pretty sure Dan and I have mentioned it before... *shrug* Ah well.

I think we've also talked about the 'home'-feeling, before, no? I think it's personality as much as circumstances. Some people have it, others don't.

Ah. I've not been to your PS or any of your conversations in a very, very long time. Not willing to risk mortal offence once more, ya know?

Oddly enough, this place that we are now at "feels" like home. There is no family for either of us here, but we have been in this town for nearly 12 years, and this house is ours now for over 7. Maybe that's what it took for me, ... familiarity and a place that I could call my own. NOT someone else's.

No, I meant in conversations with you...
*shrug* Never mind.

Anyway, yeah, that does sound like a home to me.

Ah, this thread has been idle more than not, and much has happened elsewhere. So with my aging memory, anything is possible.

BTW, your term of "bachelorette" isn't unique. There was a run or 3 of a "reality TV" thing ... http://abc.go.com/primetime/bachelorette/