h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

I'm really glad you're going to the London Meet Kat And a little jealous. Mind you, I shall feel very pleased to be able to put all that dosh into the Red Cross box for Tsunami relief on Monday

I want a full and frank report of what goes on on Saturday down there in the smoke please

Yes dear you'll get all the details...including what you missed at the gallery. I'm meeting Rich for lunch beforehand. You can have the details of that too
I'm not panicking or scared of going at all...*shivers and downs glasses of whisky*...it's all great!


In the end to crunch my guilt I pooled with mam and dad and we came up with £250 for the disaster operation. Which of course means that my bank account is feeling very light, but I feel better and apparently 20 families will have food and shelter for a month!

*joining Kat for a *

Positive things done today:

made a list for things to take to London
Found paper for my Kat sign
Had bread for lunch
emptied and filled the dishwasher

Negatives

No piano...actually I'll go alter that right now
Failed to defrost the beef and so now have nothing to make for dinner
Have only been out of my room twice
Haven't renewed my library books
Still haven't worked out what to do about the MMR
Haven't changed my clothes, showered, or cleaned my teeth
Haven't been outside
Shouted at the dog by accident
Haven't put away my clean clothes, they're now on the floor
Feel generally awful
Don't want to go to London

Oh dear...that's not very balanced!

I dunno- 230 pounds to the Red Cross sounds pretty positive to me, especially when you're feeding 20 families!

And I'd really reconsider about the MMR booster- if you ever want to go to school, they'll make you get one, and measles, mumps, and rubella are devastating at any age.

Well originally I had them as separate injections. Hang on let's see what the letter says

"The Dept of Health are advising all young people age 17-21 years of age to have a booster MMR vaccine.

This is because there have been a number of reported mumps outbreaks at some schools, colleges and universities."

Yeah, and it's actually a good idea you get one...

I think it's better not to get one. I can understand that Kat doesn't want it.

Oh dear...we've got a new dilemma to tackle! Whoo hoo!

Dad just came home from having lunch with mam and apparently it all just ended in tears. Mam said she hated everything as it was...so in the end it came down to this:

She hates her job
She hates where we live and wants to move back to where her friends are
She hates the fact she worries all day she's going to come home to find me dead.
She hates the fact she works all day and then has to come home and do everything.
She hates...was that it? Oh well she also hates the fact that dad always makes her feel angry, edgy, and inadequate.


So...taking each of these in turn.
Her job. She will NEVER be happy in ANY job. Even if it was exactly what she's good at, nice hours, good pay..she would hate it. She wants to stay at home, see friends, and 'look after' me. Now NO! I will NOT have that! I don't need looking after, I don't want looking after, and if she was at home, as we have proved before, she stays in her room. I stay in mine.

Where we live. We're too far from her friends (2 hours), she hasn't made any new friends here. She hates the house because she says it's too big. Neither dad or I want to move.

Me. Well...she's never come home to find me dead, or half dead or even one hundredth dead! And I could just as easily kill myself when she's in the house anyway! I have this perverse wish to do it now just to prove what a twit she's being. However...anyway. Also let me just get this straight...she worries to death about me, but she wants to move me away from my psychologist. Oh that makes perfect sense!

Doing everything. Well I make dinner, dad walks the dog, I wash up. If she asks I generally vacuum. What else is there we are supposed to be doing? I even write the flipping food shopping list each week!

Dad. Well yes this has been a long on-going problem. They have never been good together. That doesn't mean they don't love each other...just that they should never have married. Dad always mutters about divorce after these things, but once mam said "fine we'll divorce, you do this, I'll do that" and he went "oh no no I didn't mean it uhhh..." So...well serves them right really.

Soooo....she's depressed generally? Or are these real proper things and not just what she's decided to project her feelings on?
You know if she divorced dad then she could move south, have a new job, be with her friends, not be angry and edgy, have a smaller house...

Just a thought

Why?

Sorry... simulpost- that was directed at the vaccine question.

Re vaccine: If you get all the injections they recommend your blood ends up as a chemical cocktail. It weakens the natural immune system. On the other hand… if you plan to have children maybe you should go for the injection, I think MMR can make you sterile.

katkodl- there's no more chemicals in the vaccine than there are in a can of peaches! The MMR vaccine is a coctail of a "dead" strain of measles, mumps, and rubella. This cannot make you sick, because it is dead, but your body learns to recognize the protiens in them as bad. If you are exposed to the disease after the vaccine, you will not get sick because your body has already mounted defenses against the bad guys!

I repeat: no chemicals in vaccines, other than maybe a mild preservative which has been tested for years with no adverse affects.

Guys does it really matter if I don't have it? Isn't the fact that I appear to have a faulty family slightly more important than the very very small chance I'll get German Measles?

I had similar stuff going on about your age too, families can be awful at times. All three of us ended up with depression of varying degrees, and my parents did end up divorcing. I'm about to knock off work but thought you might like a quick . Hope it gets better....

Different chemistry in peaches than in vaccine – that’s not a contest! (And I wouldn’t get a peach injection either – there’s a difference whether something gets into your body by eating or injecting.) Everything is chemical after all… The point is that vaccine doesn’t naturally belong into your body and can weaken it. Your body gives up defending itself, it becomes lazy. In the end you end up dying of a cold cause your body can’t be bothered to fight anymore.
Please note, I’m not talking about one injection, I’m talking about the “teamwork” of many different substances.

I repeat: chemistry is everywhere.



Back to Katkat’s family then… have they calmed down? Are they now practicing being silent?

Well mam's at work until 6, dad's sulking, the dog's hiding under my bed, and I'm really pissed off. So basically...erm...everything is normal? I don't know.
Maybe I should get divorce papers for them and sort of....leave them somewhere *looks evil*

It's kind of a bit close to what I went through, but it seems to me that four of the five problems you mention are all about your mum's relationship with your dad and really things only they can sort out.

I'm no expert and don't want to stick my neck out on a situation I know little about.... maybe harsh to say but maybe you should let them sort out their differences and you take care of yourself, cos you've got enough to worry about without taking care of their lives too. Without being sanctimonious, I know I drove myself nigh on insane trying to take care of my family when it was my head that needed sorting out

I'm not saying you shouldn't care or speak up when you feel it's necessary, but if they have problems they are the only ones who can resolve them. I hope you get this sorted out and I know I'm probably not being much help; if you do want to chat you have my email or we can have a natter on Saturday.

You're very right. I'm hoping that going away for the weekend will give them the opportunity to sort things out a bit...although I doubt they will ever sort anything out really. They aren't very decisive people at all.

I just managed to argue with mam as soon as she got in
She came in to the kitchen, poked the mince with a knife and noticed that it was still rather frozen. She then turned away with a sort of...huff and a really hacked off look. I tried to explain that it wasn't my fault, admittedly I had forgotten to get it out earlier, but she had said that if I forgot it was okay because we could have fish and chips. Dad dented that by saying that we couldn't because they had it for lunch. I said okay well I'll make something else. He said no he'd get the mince...and got it regardless of what I said.


But then mam just came in and "talked" with me. Maybe EVENTUALLY they will get their acts together and actually talk to each other