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Post 1

Tinkerbell *tumbleweed*

Hi...
I thought I'd explain as I sounded fairly rude and I well...just did...

The reason why I'm having such a bad week which is making me so stressed and is why I'm not at the meet-up...
*starts again as that makes very little sense*
One of the people I care about more than anything else in the world has had cancer for the past three years and over the past 2 weeks has got a lot worse and is geting weaker and weaker. So at the minute I'm really upset about this and want to stay close to home and her hence me not coming to the meet-up.


As well as this my two best friends are having a hard time at the minute. Both are about 7 hours away in opposite directions at uni and each keep ringing me up crying and needing support which doesn't help calm when I care so much about them both. So I'm attempting to get from place to place to look after them and be a cheery person when really it's not what I feel like doing. Again this is why I'm not there this weekend as my best mate rang me up crying in a crisis and so I'm now at her house which is why I'm ringing home every hour waiting for news and again why I'm not there.

I hope this explains slightly and sorry if I did sound rude in the other thread...


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Post 2

Peregrin

Aw.... smiley - hug

and another smiley - hug

Course you didn't sound rude... it sounds like you're being a great friend to your mates and that's great smiley - biggrin - I wouldn't want you to try and fit in the meetup as well!


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Post 3

Tinkerbell *tumbleweed*

she died this morning, I just got a phone call and my trains not til 2.30 tomorrow so if you know any fun stories now would be agooodtime to tell me them as my friends in a lecture somewhere for another hour yet and my phone has no money on it....


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Post 4

MaW

I'm afraid I'm not so great on the funny stories thing. Sorry about your friend. It's not much help I know but I recommend bawling as much as you feel like. It helps, at first, I think.


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Post 5

Tinkerbell *tumbleweed*

Thanks. I've been crying pretty much constantly for the past week so I think I've fulfilled that now...I'm currently sat in a very cold university room waiting for my mate to return from formal hall which goes on for hours and for my parents to ring again as I'd quite like to be at home at the minute rather than in another 20 hours. it's just hard to get your head round the idea that the person who has been around me for the past 18 years and looked after me since I was born I'm not going to see as she was my second mother.
sorry, I'm sounding too depressed, I said I shouldn't have put this in the other forum.


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Post 6

MaW

Of course you're depressed! Stop sounding so apologetic about it. You are going to feel very lost and lonely without her. That's not very reassuring either I suppose, but I don't think you need to be apologising for sounding depressed. It's a perfectly natural way to feel - and probably quite healthy as well. After all, we all feel like that when someone dies.


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Post 7

Bagpuss

I don't really know what to say, other than I'm sorry it happened too. smiley - hug


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Post 8

Peregrin

Mmm, I'm not very good at the consoling thing either, but I hope you're feeling a little better now. & what MaW said smiley - winkeye


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Post 9

Tinkerbell *tumbleweed*

*restrains herself from apologising for apologising*
Thanks guys I appreciated you just being nice as I was in someone elses university where I knew one person who wasn't there at that time so thank you smiley - smiley .


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Post 10

The Fish



...and some,



smiley - biggrin
smiley - smiley
smiley - fish


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Post 11

MaW

* big hug *


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Post 12

Bagpuss

* huge group hug *


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Post 13

Peregrin

*wonders how armless people hug*


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Post 14

Tinkerbell *tumbleweed*

*hugs back and considers that carefully*
This is just like the Teletubbies...

And I'm feeling a lot calmer today as I spent several hours on the phone to my other best mate (not one of the ones having a crisis) last night and he's now been honourarily elected as the strongest link so I'm almost smiley again now.

Oh and I've decided to do something useful so I'm going to raise money for the hospice that looked after her and us all over the last week as that way I can try and support anyone else going through this. So does anyone have any interesting fund raising ideas? I have so far decided upon a sponsored parachute jump, a sponsored abseil off a large building in the centre of Sheffield and a sponsored walking of the Clevage Way but then I ran out of ideas...


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Post 15

Peregrin

Cool smiley - biggrin Sounds very positive... how about a... um... sponsored h2g2 conversation? smiley - bigeyes *wonders if he should see if there's anything to life apart from h2g2 sometime*


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Post 16

Tinkerbell *tumbleweed*

Well I've been fundraising for ICRF since I was about 4 when I started with a 5 mile fun run so it has to be something I've not done before which leaves it limited to more foolish stuff like leaping out of planes and things...so I guess a h2g2 conversation would work but I can't see anyone sponsoring itsmiley - smiley


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Post 17

Peregrin

You ran five miles when you were four years old???!

Hmm... how about a sponsored sleep? I could do that smiley - biggrin


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Post 18

Tinkerbell *tumbleweed*

I'm a fairy of many talents smiley - winkeye
*looks shifty*
Ok so my dad carried me for the last half mile but still...
*displays her medal thingy for finishing within 7 weeks*
My mum still has the photo of me stood with blond ringlets and my ICRF T.Shirt on grinning proudly with my medal.

I've been doing sponsored boat races too and thats brilliant as it raises heaps of money but generally there's only one a year of them...

I don't think anyone would notice the difference between my sponsored time and my normal sleep...


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Post 19

Peregrin

Impressive smiley - biggrin

I haven't done much sponsorship stuff for a while... oh wait a minute, last Christmas I did a sponsored mince pie making / selling thingy in our halls of residence smiley - biggrin

That was cool, especially as it involved mince pies.

How about something Christmas orientated?


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Post 20

Tinkerbell *tumbleweed*

mmmm mince pies smiley - bigeyes
*goes to fetch the box of Bens Cookies and offers Peregrin one*

Umm...Like what? Some people suggest some form of making something but I can't sew at all, I can cook but then only complex things and they wouldn't last to sell and I can do woodwork and stuff but that's not particularly effective to sponsor either, I guess I could just volunteer to help at Christmas...

*smiles*
I've seen your eyebrow, I think you should be the next James Bond as it's very Sean Connery-esque...maybe you could be a sponsored james Bond?


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