h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Hello AGB. I'm extremely sorry to hear about this. It's a tragedy. I offer you my sympathy and support.

My own belief is that the soul of any person cannot ever be completely lost, in other words Laura is 'somewhere' right now ... but still she and you and your son have lost all that could have been in this world. There is injustice in that ... there is a heck of a lot too much injustice in the world ... and what can we do against that kind of injustice? I think we could only do something by sticking together and supporting each other in our joys as well as our griefs, and also, to try and do what we can to try and prevent similar losses in the future.

Can I ask what it is that caused the cerebral haemhorrhage?

GB I'm so sorry, it must be a terrible shock for you all.

Thanks everyone.

Your support means a great deal.

Laura complained of a headache on Monday last. She went to work, they sent her home as everyone thought it was a migraine.
She went back to work on Tuesday.
On Wednesday she went into work, had a "blinding headache" and left at lunchtime.
At teatime, Laura was sitting on the couch at home when her sister came in with a jumper to try on, as it was a Christmas gift Samantha had bought her and she wanted to make sure it fitted her before she wrapped it.
Laura stood up to try the jumper on and then collapsed.
Laura's Mum called an ambulance and a neighbour came in, who managed to revive Laura but she collapsed again.
The ambulance person also managed to revive her on the way to hospital, but when they arrived, she was unresponsive and pronounced dead by the duty doctor.

I don't know why she died.

I wish I did.

I wish it had been me, instead.
She had everything to live for, her whole life ahead of her.
I can't look at it that she had a full life, because she didn't.
Cut down before her prime, I want to at the injustice of it all.

I can't even imagine how her mother and siblings are feeling. My son called last night and asked me to help him choose some music for the funeral on Wednesday. We managed "Angels" by Robbie Williams and "If Tomorrow Never Comes" by Ronan Keating.

Laura worked at Etam in Grimsby and Allan said the store is closing on Wednesday as a mark of respect and so any of the staff can attend the funeral.

Thank you, Etam.

Thanks everyone for your continuing support...
I love you guys.

~AGB~

My heartfelt condolences AGB.

They'd never close a whole business for a day if someone died in the States, oh no!!!!

It is so hard to say the right thing - apparently even for those who have had similar experiences. Remembering how devastated I was, and still am, when my son's girlfriend finished with him, this must be a hundred times worse.

I am sorry.



Also I am moved that Barton should post here and in such a way. His words are always well thought out and universally true.

We're all out here thinking of you AGB, each in his own way.

It's time to celebrate the life that was.

It's time to mourn the life that is no longer.

It's time to ask questions that have no answer, like "Why?"

Love, grief, anger and a hundred other feelings tripping over each other.

You're in my thoughts.

David

GB... I have aboslutely no words that I feel I can say without getting myself into a knot.

You, your son, and your family are in my prayers.

Thank you so much everyone.

Your support means a great deal to me.

Please, if you are praying, pray for Pauline - Laura's mother, send her some strength, her pain must be unbearable.

You're in my prayers AGB...


The brighter the light, the shorter it burns...

Even though your Heart is weeping, may you find Love.
Despite the Sorrowing hours, may your Spirit find Strength.
Honour the Loss of Parting, but rejoice at the Soul's return Home.
Blessed Be.



A852310 may be of help in the times to come.

You don't know me AGB, but when it comes to getting through the funeral, just remember this:

The funeral is for being said that someone is gone.
The wake is for being happy that they were here in the first place.

So when it comes to the wake, sing, dance and be joyfull that she passed away when she was 19, and you got the oppertunity to know her, and she didn't die when she was 10, and you never knew her at all...

Please give my love to Allan, I am thinking of him, and his girlfriend's family at this dreadful time.

Remember that my offer still stands, if you need me, I will come.

Will definitely be praying - for all who are hurting because of Laura's death.

Thanks everyone



KerrAvon, I've known Laura since she was born.
I went to school with her Dad, and she was born on the same day as my sister's eldest.



I've just come back from ordering the wreath, the florist has already been inundated with orders for Laura.

But of course.

*hugs*

Oh Galaxy Babe

How awful.

I hadn't looked at your diary over the weekend and what a shock.

Sorry the only I can give is this type.

speak louder than words at times like this.



Let worry about the funeral go if you can. You have friends here who *know* you'll deal with it.

What's the worst thing you could do? Collapse in floods of tears? It's allowed you know. Stand back a moment if you can. What would you think of anyone who criticised someone in this situation who flooded with tears? - Exactly.

Mix you tears with your son's that day. She's worth them. (How do I know? Well I know you a bit and if any son of yours reconed her as special then she must have been.)

Thank you Tom, very well put.
I think I'm all cried out now anyway.

I just wish I had the luxury of getting p****ed up at the Wake, but I have to get back home for Andrew.

Thanks for the s everyone, they're very welcome, I'll make sure I pass them on tomorrow.

I do hope you will get through tomorrow ok.