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I suspect I have beem more than once and even if youre not you worry you may be..it creates probs anyway!I still think if you had any feeling for someone you were with at all youd give them and yourself the time to get over it before seeing anyione else..if you dontt youre just a thoughtless prat !

Amen to that.

Isn't that why the blonde girl from Abba refused to join the 30th anniversary celebrations last year - she never forgave Benny? Bjorn? for marrying someone else so soon after they split up.

It smacks of a lack of respect for the previous partner, but I know that even if you're with someone new, it doesn't mean the old feelings for the old partner are dead.

There's someone I can never think of as an ex-, and another where it's "always on the table" - I think I'm better off staying single, I don't feel guilty then

Hmmmm...don't know that I agree with you on this one.

I mean, say you meet someone soon after a break up, are you going to say to them "Look, I really like you but could you hang on for another few weeks so that there's a respectable distance between my relationships?"

Plus there's really no point sitting at home moping.

Ahh but if you had any real feeling for the person..even if it was your choice to end it..you wouldn't be interested in much with anyone else for a good while! Yeah you'll meet people..I ed someone last friday night and hes called since.. I may agree to a date I may not..but thats all it would be cos I owe myself as well as anyone I was to start seeing more time healing than ive given myself so far..

It all depends upon being aware of your own demons and dragons. Hearts are meant to be broken, sadly. You can't stop that by behaving "properly".

Why do people insist on making other people happy?

Because its an important thing to do! itd be a better place if more people cared about others rather than less!happiness is meant to be shared after all..

I suppose some people just get over their exes quicker than others?

Ok. Yes, 'phina.... We all need to be kind to one another. I agree. But there's sometimes a profound difference between being a good friend/support to others and being true/a good friend to yourself.

I've just been in situations where I stuck things out, though I KNEW it wasn't right. And I didn't listen to myself. And then I was scared to hurt whoever I had my relationship with...

What I want to say is, we shouldn't feel guilty for doing what we truly want and know is our best option.

And I dunno, fords, about some people getting over their exes quicker than others. I am sure that's the case, because EVERYONE'S an individual.

I think it all depends on how deep the love was in the first place.

"They say" (I'm beginning to hate that saying, though I use it myself) you should allow a month's recovery per year the relationship lasted (before making a serious commitment again)

In that case, James is alright

I'm with Dragonfly on the not-wanting-to-hurt the person you're involved with, and it can get a vicious cycle.

I've known people act so obnoxiously towards their partner just so their other half would dump them - so they wouldn't have to do the dumping.

These days all you have to do is not return the last text message.

Life has gotten very simple.

Galaxy, Babe, I think your ex is a serial monogamist. I did not coin that, but ot was few years back on Oprah. I can not remember exact meaning, but some one does not want to be alone for alone time and marries next man / girl. most famous serial monogamist is Elisebeth Taylor (8 times married).

"...men do have a more hyperactive sex drive."

first off: what the does sex have to do with wanting to get married?

secondly: men peak at 18, women at 30 (generally speaking) so i'm not sure how long you statement - er - stands...

third: i don't think you can make standard rules about how long you should be single after breaking up. however it seems suspicious if you jump from one right into the arms of someone else

fourth: oops, er, seems i just ran out of

at least we know you can count to 4, Pierce!

I guess it depends on why you ended the relationship to..i mean if it was cos you werent ready for one, needed to spend some time alone or whatever...going straight to someone else makes you a lieing as@hole! however if it was cos the other person was abusive or something..you might ggo to someone else for comfort,etc its a complicated issue..but in general if you really love someone youre as broken hearted to have to end it as they are and will be off other people for a while! After all if you dont solve the issues you had with your last relationship theyre likely to keep coming up in subsequent ones till you do!

I think id be really hurt if someone dumped me by text or just not returning a call..you should have the decency to tell someone you want to end it and why..to their face if humanly possible.

Of course you should always return a text or a call. Someone in my past tried that and my first reaction was that something had happened - why wasn't he replying? So I got all worried that he was okay, when he just could not tell me he wanted to split up. As hard as it is to tell someone you want to split up, being upfront and honest is always the best policy.

Meh. And then long distance relationships are truly a whole other animal.

The key is--- don't bloody have no stinkin' secrets. You should always be able to tell the other person just what you're going through.... unfortunately, there was a time when I couldn't do that. And I'm avoiding that trap tooth and claw!!! TOOTH AND CLAW, baby!!!!

..... And I know someone who's sexual peak came about 6 years late. Surely all my fault.

oh, but of course it is

you know the old saying: there is no such thing as impotence - only stupid women













please don't believe that. and please don't believe *i* believe that. it's just plain male chauvinist rubbish

Heh heh.

... I wonder what that saying implies about gay men....

You fight it D! Communications the most important thing in 'any' relationship ..

I agree with D there, don't have any secrets. Doesn't do the stress levels any good at all.
I know what you mean about serial monogamist, pheloxi. "Must have a partner by all means" - I must have seen the same show.

Pierce, I'll forgive you - I know *you* would never say anything like that

I *have* been dumped by text! But it took some prodding to get the words out - they just had not returned my texts in the first place. Then the words were "I'm really confused right now..." "I don't want to hurt you..." "Can we still be friends..."

Oh and that age thing.
What a load of old tosh.
By those standards, Pierce & I are well past our sell-by date.
Which I can assure you, isn't the case.

Is it, Pierce?

not in likely!