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I dunno that "let's just be friends" is tosh... it isn't from this girl's perspective, anyway...

Maybe "let's not be enemies" is more accurate!!!

"Oh and that age thing.
What a load of old tosh"

I never said remaining friends was tosh

How about dumping a long term partner by e-mail? How does that figure in the grand scheme of things?!!

very badly id say!

How about dumping someone via e-mail and then refusing to discuss the reasons by telephone afterwards?

Somebody (no names mentioned, but you all know her) did that to me...

B

Well, I don't know her, but I imagine it could have been pretty upsetting.

It was. Not helped by the fact that she was very attractive.

B

Shocking behaviour!

I'm sure she had a reason...

The email thing sounds a bit harsh, but I *can* understand someone finding it difficult to say things face-to face, and worrying about messing up what they wanted to say. I suppose it's better than via telephone.

With *my* handwriting, letters wouldn't really be an option. Having someone call me up or call round and ask me to explain what I'd written would possibly be the worst way.

Even face-to-face, I can imagine it's hard to choose when to say things. Someone might mean to explain in person, but then continually fail to be able to do so for any number of reasons, and fall back on some other method in relative desperation.

I guess it depends hugely on how things had been progressing. If both people thought that things had rather run out of steam, it's quite different to someone who thought things were good (or at least not too bad) getting a message out of the blue.
Saying "We need to talk" when someone is likely to guess the reason is different from saying the same thing when the other person may be more likely to expect a proposal than an ending.

Ian, what did you expect from someone who hardly knew herself?

Glad to see you around, actually. I feel sorry for you, apparently still holding a grudge, and thinking it's worthwhile to come here to vent.

The reason it happened over email was because I thought time would fix things... and it kept NOT fixing things, issues kept not changing... It's not like I could just drive over to your house!!!

(I'm in Colorado, landlocked western U.S.... he's in England)

My conscious got to an utter breaking point, and you probably saw it coming; I mean, I only cried time and time again in front of you over things you could never do for me. I should've left earlier than I did, should've listened to the living and non-living telling me I didn't have to keep on.

Or maybe since YOU are the logical, wiser one, YOU should've let ME go, let ME explore life and make mistakes....

I could've given you more respect, but I didn't and it's been almost a year and right now, right here, we're both only making things uglier. I hope you enjoy your revenge.

LIFE is about learning from your mistakes. I know better now. I know to communicate everything now.

Can we let it be!?? Please!???

::sigh:: Sorry. I think I got a bit carried away....

about you are allowed too!

We've all done things to people we shouldnt have.. its being able to forgive yourself (and them if needs be) learn from it and set it right with them that seperates the decent people from the wastes of air

which blessing is the greatest, then: the ability to forgive others or the ability to forgive yourself?

everybody who's ever been hurt.

A year is nothing, D.

I still have issues about how my marriage ended 20 years ago.

I know, because I keep talking about it.

It's alright for other people to say "get over it, move on" but how do you get it out of your head?



"Saying "We need to talk" when someone is likely to guess the reason is different from saying the same thing when the other person may be more likely to expect a proposal than an ending"
Those are wise words.
One should not feign affection, when none is felt. Even to keep your options open. It's cruel.

That was not aimed at anyone in particular, it's just a personal comment.

Ah!!! GB

I think forgiving yourself is the greater gift... isn't it true that you can't get hurt by anyone unless you allow them to hurt you!!??

to an extent thats true..yes.. more precisely most our pain is caused by our own fears and insecurities..it helps to forgive yourself for those.