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any ideas?

Therapy, or 45 mintutes a day puching a sack of potatoes.

Give us some clues.. what are you (or whoever) jealous of? Have you a wonderful boyfriend and get worried anytime he flirts with someone else?

Are you afaid that your boyfriend's going to cheat on you or does your Ex have antoher girlfriend? Or is it material jelalousy?I'm going to look it up. Hang on.

The guide says that jelasouy is a waste of time. If you are jelause about a relationship it's goint to happen. If you aren't jealous the it won't happen. Simple. You coluld always just follow my first advise too

Jealousy is a nasty business, generally nothing good comes out of it...

Whose jealousy are you trying to manage? Yours or someone else's?

mine..cant really go into details on here though,though it is about a particular thing rather than random n unchecked..

I'd say that acknowledging your jealousy is the first step towards managing it, and eventually getting over it. Well done, getting this far. Now, try reminding yourself every so often that jealousy is just a waste of energy and mental resources...

i think it would be easier if my feelings were completely groundless,but theyre not....itd just be nice not to feel physically sick at the thought of a particular situation!

its a nasty monster that can eat away at you, and yoru happyness I think you should try not to let it rear its ugly head too much

You don't get this problem when you have no sig.o.

But life is *so* boringat the moment I wish there was someone in my life I had feelings enough for to be jealous over.

I'd hate it though.

Sometimes it's irrational, though.

I last felt a pang of jealousy when my ex-husband told me he was moving in with his new girlfriend.

This, despite the fact that we have been apart for 10 years, are good friends, very supportive of each others' careers and emotional well-being....but now he's just not totally mine any more.

There is no magic cure. Take a deep breath and accept reality.

Emotions, eh? No reasoning with 'em sometimes.

yeh *puts on Marvin teh paranoid android voice*

Tell me about it... here I am..... being alone sucks

It never ends, when you've loved someone. If you're jealous because your current has contact with his ex, then you'll just have to live with it...or find someone with no baggage. Remember though, the ex is probably jealous of you.

jealousy is a horrible feeling,i can only just remember.
I believe we cant change what life has in store for us,better to accept it and move on,probably to better things.I do hope so.

Don't do anything life-changing while you feel like this - like get pregnant 'cos your ex- is having a baby with his new partner.

The feeling will pass, but you'll be left with the mess.

id pity the poor cow who ended up with my ex not be jealous

If there's a real basis for your jealousy, rather than it being a result of *your own* fears and insecurities and projections it's probably time to talk about it. I'm assuming it's a relationship matter, rather than jealously over what someone else has that you want.

In my opinion, the management aspect is going to revolve around you changing yourself, though. If there's a true threat to the integrity of your relationship and your partner insists on indulging in unreasonable behavior, you might have to rethink your assumptions about the relationship. If your partner is not behaving unreasonably, but you're still feeling threatened, perhaps you need to address the causes of your feelings and try to seperate them from the situation.

deep breathing is the best thing I can recommend and trying to think of something nice and happy, hard i know! But the best advice I can give.

ES