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Its awful when you fall in love, not only with someone whom you feel cares, but also someone that is a very close friend, well thats my problem, and im not making no moves towards her on how i feel, any ideas on what i should do?

No ideas..
But good luck!

thanks for your reply, however i feel that its not worth risking a friendship, because i love her, whats your views on this?

possibly, although you can still be frineds after a failed or no started relationship as long as you can both be adults about things any way

Oh, man. Is this the reason for the blues?

If you're "interested", then I'd suggest you see if she feels the same way. It's surprisingly easy to tell. If she doesn't and she *is* a good friend then accept the situation and don't try and push it and you'll eventually come to accept it and not lose a good mate in the process. And you do *not* want to lose a friend. I lost one recently in somewhat different circumstances but it's not pleasant.

if she is that good a friend you should be able to tell her that you like her,find out what she thinks, and not ruin a friendship. ou just gotta do it in a nice way, and not at the wrong moment.

Having been in (and if I'm honest still in) the same position my advice is do something soon, the longer things go on without you mentioning how you feel or at least testing the water the harder it gets.

It depends on if you can be happy as just friends or not. Personally I'd say take a chance, it could be the greatest thing you ever do. And if you really are good friends your friendship should be strong enough to withstand the outcome, whatever it is.

Good luck!

Only thing I can add is don't let yourself be sucked into the "friends with benefits" route. If she doesn't want a meaningful relationship but is willing to get intimate occasionally, it can completely mess up your emotions when you want a real relationship. And it will utterly destroy the friendship.

That is such good advice, I've been down that path and it's horrible.

was gonna give the girl i like, since she quite a good friend, a nice letter on the 14th saying thanks for her friendship etc.
but geuss what someone else in there niceness told me they are interested in her ...
though i get the feeling he is the type of guy who could get somewhere but couldn't make it last

meh, just when i had something to keep me going through my exams ....

*rolls over and gives up*

"was gonna give the girl i like, since she quite a good friend, a nice letter on the 14th saying thanks for her friendship etc.
but geuss what someone else in there niceness told me they are interested in her ...
though i get the feeling he is the type of guy who could get somewhere but couldn't make it last"

Awwww never mind, dude. There's a chance nothing will happen anyway. I'd be wary about the letter, if I were you. Females have a habit of reading too much into things (unless that's what you want ).

i like the girl, however i think she only sees me as a friend, so a letter saying a appreciate her friendship and saying i like her slightly more than that well, would be better than what the sittuation was prior to him tell me his intentions ..


yeah i know chance of nuthong happening but ... well ...

Well, "his" intenetions dont change how she might feel about you....

Why a letter rather than a well-chosen Valentine's Card?

valintines cards are all about saying WOW I LOVE YOU. letter would be saying thank you for your friendsship, i like you more than that, but im nor obsessed ...

I was in the same situation about a year ago. I told her how I felt. She was totally surprised, though I thought there was a spark somewhere. We had a good conversation about it later. We're still good friends now.
So I guess my advice would also be to try tot find out how she feels, and if you think the feeling is mutual, be open about it. And don't put yourself in 2nd place behind that other guy.

yes, but i am not going to attempt to compete in any form, that would only result in a failure.

It doesn't have to be competition on any level, you could just mention to her how you're feeling and don't mention the other guy and let her make any decisions from there.

Am feeling much better today, he hasn't told her that he likes her, though i havn't actulyl told her either ... i think she knows anyway, have liked her for a while and varias people know i do, blah de blah. Still i need to do somethign to actully tel ehr myself.

Why is it when ever i am feeling down that she reminds me of why i had her as a friend to begin with ...