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OMG, I've done my normal thing and fallen for a completely inaccesible bloke, who already has a girlfriend and is practically married. Why do I do this to myself? And why, when I like someone, do I want to bore others endlessly by talking about them?

Am I on an unconscious mission to rid myself of all my friends, and end up all alone, I ask myself?

You're not alone, Ala - with one exception (now my husband), everyone I have ever liked has been someone I would have no chance with, for one reason or the other - either they're with someone else already, or they live 200 miles away, or they are after another girl...

And as for talking about them, I don't know how my housemates used to cope with me - OT, they called it, meaning 'one track', because I only seemed capable of talking about the latest person I fancied!

P.S. you can OT at me, if that will help. How do you know this person, how old are they?

thanks purple but you might regret saying that!

He's two years older than me - mid 20-s. I know him thru work, which is another thing that makes it worse. what if we worked together and then split up? not that it makes any diffrence anyway, hes already attached.

Leave well alone would be my advice.
If he is practically married - why would you want to ruin another woman's life ? At the moment the unobtainable is exciting and a challenge but do you really want to spend your time with someone who, if capable of cheating on his fiancee, could just as easily cheat on you if someone else fancies going after him ?
Not worth it.

Is there anyone else you are interested in besides him????
What is it that you like about him???

I know youre right citizen. I would never try to split them up, I don't know her but I do know they're happy together and I wouldn't change that.

So there - it's all futile anyway. But that doesn't stop me liking him.

Someone asked what i like about him - he's kind, caring and I know he looks after his girlfriend. maybe I just wish i had someone who would treat me like that.

So leave it that you admire him. If he started anything with you he would lose part of his appeal because he wouldn't be being caring or considerate to his girlfriend.
Focus on that and just think of him as a really nice bloke - the 'kind' you would really like to find for yourself one day. He's not the only one out there.

Who of us hasn't experienced that particularly excruciating pain of unrequited love? Not many I'm sure.

From personal experience I would say get out there and meet some new friends, nothing like building up a bigger circle of people around you to finally bump into the one for you.

*hands up*

Yeah, I'm guilty too. But I can accept it quickly for what it is, and know that "it aint gonna happen!"

hope that you find someone soon