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I soon think it will be

I had a load of things to say and write down, but can I hell as remember what it was that I was going to say!!!!


OK...I will try, but it may be in the wrong order, and may not make much sense, but please bare with me.

Nan.

She's was a great woman. So why am I talking in the past tense? Because it is easier to deal with. She's like a best friend, not a Nan. You can tell her anything and she would advise truthfully and honestly with her emotions put to one side.

So...how do I feel about the fact that she is dying? Scared. Not scared for her, or for me, but for Granddad. Don't get me wrong, I love all of my family, but me and Granddad have a very special bond. (Long story - very long....incredibly long in fact).

When Nan dies, it will crucify Granddad. I fear he will pine away and follow her very quickly. Don't get me wrong, Granddad is a very strong person, but he is nothing without Nan.

I panic for him. I fear for him. I am scared and frightened of the "next installment" (if that makes sense?)


Mum.

I fear for her too. She is so fragile at the moment. She's trying to be strong for the family. For me and VC. I know what it will do to her when Nan dies. She will withdraw and confine herself to herself. She will refuse to go out. She will sleep a lot at funny times of the day and night. She will be very difficult to keep above water, but I will try my best.


Nan is the first of my close family to be so ill that her life hangs in the balance. I have lost great uncles....a Grandma (not that close to her) and my estranged father. I broke down at my fathers funeral, so how will I be at my Nan's? Heaven's forbid is all I can say.

Morbid aren't I

Traveller in Time running life's monocycle
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*s VV* Losing a close relative is hard, but you and the rest of your family will be able to get through it, just make sure you support each other when support is needed.

remember you are "formed" by people around you. since your family is close by they have biggest influence on you (and you on them). you will always carry a bits of them in your memory (and genes).

Vicki, you are a passionate person with good sense of friendship. I see in your mother too.

Oh T.. mum has my number if you need an ear..

I think the same goes for all of us...

The love we leave behind is the measure of the good we did in life - someone once said - and remember as long as you remember and love her, she is still alive for you. Already in many ways the nan you love has changed, she's got older, frailer, and changed from a grown-up to a fellow adult.

remember we are nothing,except in the memory of others, so remember!

and live a long life so you have a lot of time to remember.

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Little sis Nan would not want us
to be morbid and expect us or to pretend
to be strong. We all have our own ways
of dealing with things that we don't
want to face, just be there for each other,
that is where we gain strength.

When someone who loves you goes away on holiday, their love and support doesn't stop - you just can't hear them reply when you talk to them. When they cross over from this world, the same thing applies - they just probably hear you better than when they went away on holiday. Their love is still there for you...remember it well!

vv

Losing a grandparent can be the hardest thing. I lost my nanna suddenly in november and its difficult. we only knew for one day that she was going to dye and we thought my grandad would follow soon after. but he didnt. people are stronger than you think at times like these. you all need to be there for each other but at the same time have somewhere you can go to reflect and remember by yourself.

im not going to lie to you. it will be difficult. but you will get through it in time.


if you want to talk you can find me on here and if you want im on msn messenger. my addy is on my ps.

im here if you need to talk.

Hi VV, I am sorry that life is dealing you another blow. It never stops.

I do not cope well with death, I find I dwell on it and dwell on what is happening and reach a panic stage, where I think I am about to lose my mind completely. However then all suddenly goes calm and its okay again. Your brain will protect you from it getting too much. If we really dwelled on the way life is, we would all go mad I believe, except that our brains usually don't let us.

I find after a close family death everything hurts so much for 6 months and then it starts to hurt a little less. I know we are all different but I have seen that in many people. So thats 6 months of not being hard on yourself and not feeling bad for crying everywhere and anywhere. Or it could be 6 months before you do cry. It will help you to be strong for your granddad, thats what I did for my gran. I refused to let my mind dwell on it, and just thought about her, it kept me going for my mum as well.

I hope this isn't too horrible to read, I know its difficult to get practical advice at times like these and you may not want to read stuff like this. We may not know what to say, but we all care and want to help, even if we don't know how to.