A Conversation for Talking Point: End of the Affair
Is there ever reason to hope?
minerva Started conversation Jul 31, 2000
The greatest guy ever to walk into my life broke up with me almost four months ago. We parted on extremely amicable terms, realizing that we both needed some time to focus on ourselves and set our lives back in order. I see him regularly and we still have a great time together.
My question is this: Does anyone know of a case where two people who were absolutely perfect for each other broke up and wound up happily together again sometime down the road? Or is the never-get-back-together-with-someone-you-broke-up-with-no-matter-how-you-feel-about-them rule *ALWAYS* apply?
Any feedback, positive or negative, is greatly appreciated!
Is there ever reason to hope?
Kady Posted Jul 31, 2000
Rules are made to be broken and this seems like one of them. If you broke up nicely and not because you hated each others guts, then by all means get back together.
My grandparents got married at a tender age, got divorced in their thirties, spent a decade finding their heads and then re-married. Everybody was happy and they appreciated each other much more for the time apart.
People change and it is entirely possible to meet the right person at the wrong time and rectify the situation down the road.
Is there ever reason to hope?
Jazz Posted Jul 31, 2000
Don't give up hope - I found my love again after 30 years of us both being married to someone else.
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minerva Posted Jul 31, 2000
Thanks, you two! I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels a bit better after reading that. Your grandparents, Kady, and you, Jazz, are very lucky people.
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Jazz Posted Aug 1, 2000
And don't I know it - I keep telling "her" how lucky I am. And she feels the same way too!
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Sumogirl Posted Aug 1, 2000
I think the answer is probably no. I have not seen it and a counselor I went to because the most perfect man in the world for me did not want to be in a relationship with me because he needed to fix some things about himself told me that she has never seen it either. Basically, if someone is messed up, then they tend to stay that way. If the way you both are has problems, then you probably always will.
Not to be pessimistic or anything, but this same guy who didn't want to be in a relationship with me has been stalking me for the past few years. Go figure, must break some sort of rule (ie: the person doing the breaking up is not allowed to stalk - that should be reserved for the broken hearted)
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Cathy Posted Aug 3, 2000
And the person who does the breaking up isn't allowed to be broken hearted?
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Sumogirl Posted Aug 3, 2000
oh, absolutely, both have their hearts broken, my point is that if you do the leaving, you should not be doing the stalking, that should be left to the dumpee.
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