h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Don't do it by letter - unless you're far away and not coming back in the forseeable future.
Have the guts to face your partner who is someone you once cared for, right?
Letters are cowardly. It's difficult to get the right tone. Sounding brutal or flippant is all too easy.And letters are very bad manners in these circumstances.

ahhh, but they can be very exhilarating if you are the dumpee responding to a dump.

I disagree, not even a break-up box (was this to the person who became your stalker?)
If you are the dumped
1) delete his number from your phone's memory
2) delete his address from you address book
3) have a bonfire of anything tatty he gave you, including letters
4)take anything good he gave you to a thrift shop- even the stupid teddy bear
Etiquette says you're supposed to return jewellery, but if he doesn't want it sell it and buy something else.
You don't want this person in your life - especially if he sent you a Dear John

Yes, I am the same person who did the break up box and no - he is not the one who is stalking me. I am friends now with this particular person. He broke up with me in person and is quite sane and has a good sense of humor. And, well... the break up box thing felt great and there are no hard feelings at this point. As I said, we are friends now. We didn't talk for about 2 yrs, but... that worked just fine for both of us and we are friends again.

The guy who is stalking was a whole different person and story. He broke up with me, then kept wanting to see and when I told him no - he would accuse me of breaking up with him. Wierd. I never sent him a break up box, just a court order to stay away. Didn't work, but then those things rarely do. While it took me a while to realize I was being stalked, I did know that things were very very wrong. He was told (after 6 months of the above let me see you conversations) that he was never to contact me ever again. 6 months after that, I got a restraining order.

The guy who got the break up box never tried to contact me and I didn't try to contact him with the exception of sending him the break up box.

I broke up with a John once, but it was face to face.