h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

No worries Sol, my comment was deserving of flippancy.

To be honest both mine and my mother's central failing probably comes down to a really quite startling degree of absent mindedness. I can't be relied on to remember to feed myself and the dog, never mind a child. Any child who had the misfortune to have me as their primary carer would end up as that poor bugger still standing at the gates long after all the other kids had gone, while I would be sat dicking about on the computer wondering vaguely why it seemed quieter than normal, and wasn't there something I was supposed to do earlier on?

Which, on reflection could be seen as an improvement on my mother's attitude, which could be summed up as I knew perfectly well where the school was so I was quite capable of getting there and back myself. On the plus side that did mean I had a degree of freedom that was the envy of my peers, so, swings and roundabouts.

On the subject of love I shall have to plead the Prince Charlie approach and go with "whatever love is". I'm afraid I must be Hell to live with - while I do at times enjoy socialising immensely, I can turn into a very bad tempered ogre indeed if I'm interrupted when I'm doing something else.

[BB]

Now in Salford


Ti

My fan at home does that, normally when it's warm and the wind is in the wrong direction.

Oh yes favorite kitchen implement...

Wallet and head out for the evening

Romantic relationships, like all other relationships, are built upon expectations. If those expectations are met, we feel loved and vindicated. If they aren't we feel rejected. Some people create expectations that are for all practical purposes impossible to achieve. That's a recipe for constant disappointment and unhappiness.

We shouldn't expect perfect relationships. Nor should we put up with overly difficult ones. Marriage is for better or worse, not for impossible. I was lucky. I had a secure marriage to a decent man who genuinely loved me. But is sure wasn't perfect.

Don't ever settle for a situation that makes you uncomfortable or unhappy. We can all find someone. However, “someone” isn't necessarily better than “no one”, even though many women my age were raised to believe so.

Don't obsess over trivial things. Save it for what is really important. For example, there are lots worse things than bermuda shorts.

My husband's death was the most liberating thing that ever happened to me. I was 55 when he died with much more of my life behind me than ahead of me. But I didn't realize until that moment that I am perfectly capable of taking care of myself, that being alone isn't the same thing as being lonely, that the rest of my life is mine to do with as I please, and that I really am going to be just fine. The freedom is absolutely fabulous.

When I say I don't think I could live with someone again, I mean it. Been there, done that. But that doesn't mean I don't enjoy my relationship with Syn. I probably enjoy him more knowing that he doesn't want to live with me any more than I want to live with him. There isn't that pressure of wondering where the relationship is going. It doesn't need to go anyplace. It's fine just like it is. I can just relax and enjoy it. I have a baseball buddy, a sometimes traveling companion, someone to drag to events so I don't have to go by myself, a dinner or movie companion, and even a bit of naughty if we're both in the mood. (We're , not dead.) But, I still have my independence.

I suppose what that was all about is that a satisfying relationship can be achieved without making a life long commitment to one another. It annoys me when people ask me when Syn and I are going to get married or move in together. Try never. And that's not just ok, it's great.

My favourite bit of kitchen kit is my hand held mixer. I use it for cakes and pastry and sauces and wouldn't be without it.

And I'm finally getting the hang of the crock pot.

Mol

Sorry, that was for BB, not Hyp.

Mol

>> And I'm finally getting the hang of the crock pot.

I read that as "finally getting the hang of the crack-pot".

I'm going to find it hard sharing living space again. Fortunately I have at least a year to brace myself for it.

Thanks for the advice, all. It's always so wonderful to have ones own hopes, fears, and concerns validated by a group of intelligent, experienced people.

Who?

Where?

... But when that's not an option there's always the Atelier.

Just popped in for a quick-one!!






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Ow ... now I hurt from laughing, KA!

Oh heck look at the time, I was totally exhausted and going to bed two hours ago

Mol

evening all

Hi Taff!!!





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::walks in wearing a t-shirt printed with "Barren Spinster" on it::

What? What's going on in here?

FG, i shall join you on the sofa over there --->

M was the longest and only serious relationship I have ever had and that wasnt even a real relationship, we only knew each other for about four months.

I have lots of time ahead of me, so i am sure somebody will decide that they like me at some point.

mini

>>I have lots of time ahead of me, so i am sure somebody will decide that they like me at some point.<<

I think that goes a long way towards explaining why I look at the world through a cold eye .

Ith it normal for your earlobe and the little thticky-in cartiledge bit(the bit in front of the canal opening) to be numb/tingly/warm 3 hourth after a novocaine shot for a filling? And the lithping, ath well...

Don't forget the dribbling as well Amy

Just got a mention on the Janice Long show on BBC R2 . she was asking for sugestions for the new speaker of the house . I sugested Samuell L Jackson in pulp fiction mode .