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Post 201

Z

*emerges from behind said object for a quick grope*


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Post 202

Mrs Zen

smiley - evilgrin


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Post 203

Z

Ouch.

Been to gym.

Now can't move about 1/2 my body.


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Post 204

Mrs Zen

*strokes soothingly*


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Post 205

Z

*purrs gentley*

I would grope but that would involve moving my upper arms.


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Post 206

Mrs Zen

Lol!

Did you see Master B take the opportunity to ask me an - ah - rather *personal* question!

smiley - laugh

I gotta go, honey. Text me if you want a phone call.

B


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Post 207

Z

Of course, will text later, smiley - smooch


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Post 208

Z

smiley - tea

smiley - smooch


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Post 209

Mrs Zen

Logon not working this morning. smiley - grr

I am getting a bit irritated with Mina's determination to present me as a two-faced smiley - dog. *waves rather sadly to Mina, aware that she seems even more two faced for saying so*

How are you today?

B


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Post 210

Z

smiley - cuddle Ben Dear.. smiley - tea

I really don't think that you have been. Maybe this is something to dissect offline smiley - kiss. Fancy a gossip tonight?

Me?

Still recovering from the Gym smiley - ta and have brought an industrial size amount of salad after a trip to the Fruit and Veg market in town.

What is irritating is that I actually want to do some excercise. I'm starting to get bored of this time off already. How do you do it?

I think I shall atempt to asmuse my self by cleaning the flat...


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Post 211

Mrs Zen

Well, when I am no working I am... busy.

I...

... sort out my direct debits
... fight battles with people like British Gas, BT, OneTel - in fact name a Utility, and I have an unsolved glitch with it at the moment
... paint bathrooms
... sew curtains
... see my friends
... cook
... diet
... spent time on hootoo
... start again from the top

smiley - laugh

Gossip would be good! Rainbow was much sunnier today. She thinks that the side-effect of some of her medication was making her depressed.

Incidentally, the mare is foaling even as we speak. I am awaiting news of the clatter of tiny hooves and information on whether it is a tiny colt or a little filly. Actually I should probably tell the Atelier that, but I have a 60+ post backlog at the moment.

B


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Post 212

Z

smiley - hug if you need it...

I guess there's things I could be doing! I just don't want to do them. I'm missing a focus at the moment I think. I shouldn't get to like not working because I'll want to do it all the time..

Good news that Rainbow is feeling better!

So

Yes. Gossip! let me know when would be a good time for me to ring you. I can call a landline from six and a mobile from seven.. smiley - smooch



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Post 213

Mrs Zen

Morning, sweetheart.


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Post 214

Z

Morning B!

Just got back from teaching! I think the kids got something out of it, but I think that they could have got more out of it. I was highly impressed with the school though.


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Post 215

Mrs Zen

So there are 60 more people in the world who can put on a condom?

smiley - laugh

B


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Post 216

Z

No sadly not, apparently the school had already covered contraception with the Brook Clinic Outreach, they just wanted us to teach 'Self Esteem and Sex' Which is a topic we really hate teaching.

So sadly I can't acquire a condom demonstrator.


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Post 217

Mrs Zen

Mind you, 'Self-Esteem and Sex' is the start and the end of so many sexual and life problems, doncha think?

How to you teach it?

*genuinely curious*


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Post 218

Mrs Zen

OOh. Just read how you do it in the Atelier.

How come we want our teenagers to say stuff like 'you should only have sex with someone you know well and really like when you have been together a long time' but we don't expect adults to behave like that?

Ok, I *do* behave like that, but I am aware that I am crap at one-night stands.

Maybe a discussion of the pros and cons of one-nighters would be interesting. Or how sex might be different in a one-nighter compared with in a relationship.

Tell me more!


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Post 219

Z

I don't think we teach it very well, but we try..

We divide them up into two groups and they each have to create one character of half a couple (they all chose to do a straight couple but we offer them the chance to do two girls or two boys). They were going to go to a party and hope to meet someone.

We did how they were feeling before they meet, what they were carrying and what they'd be worried about. (All the kids suggested condoms, it was really pulling teeth to get the boys to say that a boy might be nervous).

We also talked about self esteem and what it means... and whether the characters had high or low self esteem.

They we talked about how they meet, what they'd do at the party. When they suggested that the boys got really drunk we pointed out that girls wouldn't be interested in him if he was drunk.. and they all agreed on that one.

They we talked about what would happen when they had pulled, and whether they would have sex that night or take her number and go for a few dates first.

Why might she have sex him on the first meeting? We made a list of reasons, and which reasons was she likely to regret in the morning.

She might be worried that he won't like her if she doesn't have sex with him, he might think that she'll think that she'll tell all his friends he's a virgin if they don't have sex the first time.

Then we talked about trust, and if they were worried that they'd tell everyone about it do you trust someone enough to have sex with them.

They all thought that they'd be less likely to regret having sex if they waited, because they could trust each other.

Then we talked about they should use a condom, (we'd decided that they'd both brought condoms with them) and both our characters knew it was a good idea. But she might think that he thought she was a slag if she brought it up, and he might think that she didn't want sex if he wanted a condom.

Then we talked more about good and bad reasons to want to have sex with someone, and then we ran out of time, which was annoying.


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Post 220

Z

So yes, we talked a bit about how it would be different if it was a relationship as opposed to a one nighter, but I'm aware that we could have done that better.

I really enjoyed it, and am now regreting not being a teacher!


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