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Sod 'em, Em, you've got better

TK

Sorry Cat grammar has never been a strong point.

You're right Tom, a lot better

...must admit, that title scared the heck out of me too...

me too, actually
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this might sound sort of odd and misguided or whatever, but i think that's good news...in a very twisted, harsh way...
um, but yeah, i still can't get it into my head that people can be that cruel...i really do feel sorry for you
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s like I said, sorry for the scare.

It is good, in the long run, or at least that's how I'm taking it (saves on tears and me running to be the first to make peace like every other time) but it means I get a good start at moving on and making new, better friends on my own.

Don't feel sorry for me though hun I know a lot of nice people on here, and trust me, if there are people like you guys out there that I can meet, then getting rid of this load of creeps is the best thing that'll ever happen to me

Hi Em,
Another vote for scariest title of the year!!! I went through a lot of ups and downs with people when I was your age. I was the butt of a lot of jokes, because of undiagnosed Aspberger's Syndrome, but when we all grew up the jokes(nasty ones at least)stopped. A group of people used to call me Marvin!! Some of them are now my closest friends. Bottom line we all do stupid things when we're young and drunk,a lethal combination, or we go along with the crowd. Deep down you already know which of these people you can trust again, but time away is good.
I discovered who I really was by joining a cricket club and getting kudos as a top notch scorer, and going to the US at 21 as an International scouter. If you don't like cricket or scouting you might need to find your own ideas, but the bottom line is an anti-Cheers philosophy. Go to a place where nobody knows your name. Then no-one has preconceived ideas about you and you stand or fall by your own abilities. If you fall, at least you've been given a fair chance, and you can be content to know it's your fault for blowing it.
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That last post sounds a lot like me- about your age, starting a bit younger, I began to have doubts about who my friends were. I was harldy ever invited to parties or to the cinema, and when I was it always felt like I was only there to make up the numbers. I realised that out of all of my 'friends', only 2 or 3 were actually worthy of that title.
I started to get down an miserable all of the time, which drove people away even more.

Over the summer holidays before I went to uni I decided that the old Tom was in need of a refit, so I made up my mind to change- no major changes or else I just wouldn't be me any more, just a few differences within myself. Small differences, but ones that made a big differenc. I decided I was going to force myself to be more confident about myself, and not to let things people did get to me so much (after all, they're only human).
I also decided to keep a brave and happy face on whenever things were going wrong- and it does help: If you make out you're coping with whatever problem you have and keep a positive scope on things, people are more likely to want to help out, or be around you and then it does genuinely get easier. But before, when I was down a lot of the time and took things to heart easily, it pushed people away and quite often I felt worse than I should.

SO, yeah, going to uni was a great time for all these changes because (as with summerbayexile going to the US) it's a place where nobody knows you- completely fresh slate. I had the lucky chance of one of my best freids coming to the same uni as me, and he has told me that I have changed a lot since school, and for the better too.

Now I have less friends than I used to think I did, but I am much happier with them because they're all worth being friends with - REMEMBER: it's quality, not quantity. If you have one very good friend you're much richer than anyone with 10000 passing acquaintences.

TK

Scary title......to read backlog

I have one good friend, I have at least one, I may not see Mo anymore, but she's a better friend to me than most people have been.

Thing is, it was always Ali, Lisa, Coe, Stu and Me at primary school, if Ali decided to be mad at someone, I was the easy target so she'd make all of them not talk to me for no reason then go off taunting me. While this was all going on my bestfriend leaves and I start getting bullied and stuff getting stolen from my bag by this one boy who thought it was entertaining.

We come up to highschool, we're all friends again, me and Lisa got closer because Ali wasn't in the same group, but we#d all hang around together at breaks and lunch etc, she still would do it, push me out, make life hell, I'd spend forever apologising for the none thing I'd done and eventually I'd be allowed to come back tyo the group. I was lucky in this time I made a totally new group of friends, Yvonne, Karen and Angie, Karen and Yvonne who I still keep in touch with a lot and miss a lot. But they all left a year before I did, 6th year was great, the boy who had bullied me up through pimary and highschool was long gone so I wasn't getting any hassel, I was getting on great with my friends, everything was good, I was more confident, happier, and everyone said it was great and that it was a real difference, even if hyper me was interesting to talk to.

It was great up until recently, my start spending all their time down the pub, which I haven't because I've either been working and am too tired or I have no form of ID because the forms are away with my birth certificate. They get drunk alot, start saying things, I hear all this crap that Laura's done to make sure she can get rid of the confidence I've got (another story) and it all get wrapped up in this.

If I'd been at that party I wouldn't have had those comment and I definantely wouldn't have reacted like this, I'd have been hurt, but I would have been able to stand up for myself, like I've taught myself too.

These are not the kind of people I need to be around if I'm going to be happy for good periods of time, I'l probably keep in touch with Lisa and Alice and Yvonne and Bod as he's dating Alice and lives down the road...but the rest, the rest I'm sick of them being nice to me for five minutes and then turning on me, I'm a stupid cow and I shouldn't have let it go on for this long as it is.

GB (congrats by the way)

Scary title...

B

I knowit wasn't meant to sound like that.

Darl, you're worth beter than those
You're going to meet lots of wonderful and interesting people at uni... don't let these guys get to you

I'm not intending to anymore. I've spent too long getting ed about by them, I should have listened to my parents when they said to get out before.

I think that's why I'm not as botehred at the idea of losing that lot, more than the few drunken comments. It was just the last straw I guess, I knew it was gonna hapen, college and uni I was intending to distance myself from them anyway as I knew I needed to find out who I was...this just makes it easier.

Good on you

plus I have pink paint

I'm just gonna ignore them, too much sh*t and too late to want to go back to it, sod 'em

the title was a tad

I should have noticed it before I posted it, I just meant this part of my life

hope you are ok hun??


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