h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

... about the train-wreck that is my life.

Feel free to unsub, but writing this (knowing someone might see it) helps a lot.

So today, after a weekend of nerves and rushing around like a mad thing, which followed a week which has hardly been surpassed in it's general shittyness (including a disaster regarding 's job and #1 Gruesome getting a 6 in a maths test)

The Gruesomes carping on at each other all weekend, culminated in me totally losing my rag and screaming at them and their dad (who, poor love, had just got home on his break) and...

which takes the cake as far as my more and more frequent attacks of being a screaming-harpy goes...

I stormed out of the house and drove off.

And had a coffee in McD while I calmed down enough to go back and face them.

Sheesh - I really think I've lost it.

I can't stop

Awww, have a

I sometimes wish I had the nerve to lave and drive off, but I never do.

one day I'll get the nerve not to come back...

gawd, what a week/month/year... I wish it would just stop.

btw, do I come accross (in person or here) as more stressed than your average person?

A friend of mine in UK thinks I'm the most stresssed person in the universe, but as bad as it feels I don't quite see it.

It can only get better, don't you think? At least that's what I keep telling myself.

but so far it's only got worse...

I'm thinking of joining a union, which might help if the worst happens with my job. That's quite exciting for me, I've always been vaguely "it's ok, but not something I'd ever do" about it.

Hmm, no idea, but I think the union should help - somehow.

I think you did exactly thre right thing - you recognsided when the situation was at boiling point, and called a voluntary (if unilateral) time out.

You come across as stresed out as any "normal" (and I usually avoid that word ) mother. Hang in there - you're doin' OK

maybe you need to make some time just for you SHo.A bit of time out? i know it's not easy but it might help you relax if you could have a bit of time to do something you really enjoy. No one's life is perfect , we all get stressed and we all wish we could run away from it at times.You are coping the best you can and doing ok.

I agree, I know it's not easy to do and I've wished I could run away from it all

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Hi Sho, well speaking as a mere man, I have to say I have'nt yet seen a job that is more stressful or time consuming than being a mother. From pregnancy to birth, birth to kids leaving the nest and beyond, it's 24/7 work, worry and more work. All mothers should have a 'time out' at some stage and as for those who go to work then go home and start again with house chores etc, well, I can only sit back and watch in awe sometimes. There are certain fields where women are stronger than men and parenting is one.
I don't have kids of my own but then I worked with kids groups years back, taking them hill-walking climbing etc. one thing parents used to love was 1] kids were safe and 2] the break from the kids.
Everyone needs a 'time out' at some stage, either that or face burn out, ill health or worse.

So chin up, take five and relax is what I say, you deserve it.


had this discussion in RL once, got some serious flak from some guys for my view but hey the evidence is there for all to see.</>

May I just say, as a free-radical, anyone who can bring children into this world, and bring them up as sensible, upright citizens (or subjects in my case), hold down a job and maintain the shackles of Matrimony ( what a ghastly put-down expression) deserves the utmost respect.

As a child I was very good with infants. I was actually kept in hospital for an extra week after surgery, to look after infants. when a severe attack of flu created a nursing crisis. I had always wanted a team of kids but now I am , and hopefully wiser, ( I doubt it, looking at current situations! ) that is something I know will not happen.

However on the plus side, you have had the pleasure of seeing those infants grow, mature and ultimately become adults. One hopes on the right side of thing and. knowing you, sho, albeit in a fleeting period, I know they will be toeing the line. Like 'How straight is the line, Mum?'

I and you all. Now I would screaming from the room. I couldn't even hold my nephew or neice until they were walking. the living daylights out of me.

I need to get Therapy!



*Due to curent mental paralysis, this is meant as a positive not a negative and not to be mis-construed.!!! *

We all have bad days. Sometimes it's good to have friends around that simply appreciate that. It's not that they can necessarily solve things for you (sometimes better they dont even try), but just help in giving you love and perspective.

Sometimes I think we take solace from the fact that our fiends have problems too (!). Not that we are sadistic, but just recognize that if they are like us, and are able to get over it, then we can and will get over what's troubling us to. I think that's a solidarity thing that friends give us.

If we can learn from the problems, then we can turn even the strongest negatives into positives. If we accept that life is a vale of tears, then our expectations that it going to be all fun and laughs is going to be made more realistic, and then we can take joy in the little things that come along.

If it is really bad, just take a day at a time, and count your blessings - there are always folks worse off than you. That tends to shake me out of 'dark nights' when I get them. There is always a morning after.

well, it doesn't seem so bad today


thanks for all the messages - Sho time would be brilliant. However, being married to a means that we're never at home together and so... I'm always with the Gruesome Twosome.

Although I do get to the gym for about 2 hours a week after work, so that's good.

I don't get the chance to come online very often so haven't kept up with your journals Sho, but you sound stressed. Like any mum who's being honest!


Sho time sounds like the ideal solution.
Time for yourself is soooo hard to come by when you're a mum, as I'm finding out. From my experience so far, the less time I have for me the more I turn into a screaming wraith like creature, and that aint pretty.
So my dear, try and make time for you if you can. I'd suggest a massage or shiatsu as you can then have an hour or so of being touched unconditionally and non-sexually whcih makes such a profound difference to stressed persons. Just having someone listen to you non-judgementally for a whole hour can be precious!

Have you thought about a trip to your GP Sho? He could prescribe you an anti-depressant, just to break your circle of stress and depression. I was in a similar situation emotionally about ten year's ago and I was yelling at my family and couldn't stop crying - alone and in public places! . I only took them for about a year, but the happy pills worked and they didn't have any noticeable side-effects.

*Wanders off to shave the backs of her hands and clip her toenails with a pair of pliers*

Hi LSF! how's it going?

Unfortunately right now I can't afford the time or the money for anything as lovely as a massage, but I've made time to get to the gym this week which helps.

Gwennie - I went to the GP. He metioned anti-depressants but I don't want to try that yet. He recommended St Johns Wort - but I keep forgetting to take them (3 times a day). I'll see how it is after Christmas. I don't usually let that particular festival stress me - mostly because we don't have hard & fast rituals and no family visits

Psst... you missed a bit on the back of your hands!

I leave that bit there to remind me to shave the other areas!