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'Furfilling' eh? *blinks*

Ta Z, and I was feeling so cheerful.

<> (Z)

Ah, but when was life ever easy, eh? Meanwhile, if you worry too much about *what might happen* in the future it might end up becoming a self-fulfilling prophesy, you know?

None of us knows how we are going to feel twenty years down the road, or in my case even tomorrow! If what is *here and now* is lovely and fulfilling (furfilling?) then you might be doing both of you a disservice by thinking of your relationship as a 'temporary' or 'just for now' thing just because of the age difference.

People of the same or similar age can grow apart too. And as someone else here pointed out, there's no guarantee that you won't be left a widow/er just because you are both young. Z, you ought to know more than most that serious illness is not necessarily an age thing. My step-mom died at age 53 from cancer, years before my father (twenty years older than her) ended up dying, also from cancer. In fact, it was her death that we reckon brought about his in the end - he knew he was very sick but didn't go to get checked out until he knew it was too late. He just lost his will to live after she died. So basically, no rules. Right?

Meanwhile, *waves to Ben*, I've also known those 'Maggie May' moments. Still, they were mostly in *my* head. As I'm sure they are in yours.

Of course, I don't have this problem now because Noggin is all bald and *old looking* and I constantly remind him that he is a whole four years older than me! Yes, I'm teasing. He often looks like a (bald-headed) kid at times . . . oops sorry, can't stop teasing him.

And I guess if either of us were truly worried about twenty years down the road we also wouldn't be together. Heck, I'm 49 now and Noggin will be 53 in March. What happens if . . .? Well, why worry if today is good and you are happy together.


az

Z, Im real sorry to hear about your grandad!!

I tried dating people a similar age to me and its just messy and not in a good way. Im going for this totally, and if it all goes to pot and she croaks before me then I'll deal with it as and when.

I think age gaps generally only matter if you either have little in common or when social pressure is telling you its 'wrong' although Ihave to agree with whoever said about the 50yr difference, thats a little odd, but hey, its a matter of taste, right??

Good luck to you all.

& to you B-EG, may your life be filled with laughter & love