h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Not really the place to write a book about the subject, but I'll put forth what I feel are the main points... at least from a man's side. Remember, these are broad generalizations so take it with a grain of salt.

1. Know what women are attracted to. Most men think they know what this is, but have absolutely no clue in reality. Ever see a beautiful woman walking down the street hanging off a guy who looks like Danny DeVito's ugly brother and wonder "What's she doing with him?" Women (while they do still appreciate a handsome man) are attracted to dominate men. Now this is a broad generalization, so don't take it too much to heart, but typically, even if they themselves don't realize it, this is the biggest factor. This is why sports stars, rockstars and politicians, who may not exactly be the best looking out there, have women throwing themselves at their feet. If you want to improve your chances, you don't necessarily need to be higher in the pecking order of male society, but you need to present the appearance of a higher standing (which will often lead to an actual higher standing oddly enough).

2. Eye contact. You have to learn to never shy away from eye contact, no matter what. To play the game, you have to realize that women are the primary choosers and you have to learn to look for the subtle hints they give us that they are interested. A good basic strategy for this is if a woman makes eye contact with you across the room, hold it for about 3 or 4 seconds. If you normally look away when someone makes eye contact with you, break that habit. Hold it for 3-4 seconds, then look away, count 1, 2... and look back at her again and toss a timid little smile her way as well.

Here it is again, 4 seconds of eye contact, look away (to the side preferably), look back, if she's looking your way, smile. Simple as that. The ice is broken, and you've just been invited to come talk to her.

3. Talking to her. Use her name at least twice in the conversation. Use it once as soon as you can after she tells it to you and again at the end of the conversation. This serves two purposes, it lets her know you're paying attention and are interested in her and it helps you remember her name. Also, remember to ask questions. Nothing too personal or real deep, just simple stuff that's possibly related to whatever is going on around you. If she tells you any personal information about herself, pay attention, she's probably interested in you. If she yields up nothing, move on, she's probably not interested.

4. Pacing. Always be mindful of the pace at which things are moving. In the category of physical contact, it's important to establish a little bit of tension and get things moving. Something simple, subtle and innocent is good for first contact, like touching a hand, shoulder or the like. As things progress, don't be bashful about putting your arm around her. Every person is different, so there's no perfect guide as to what is appropriate and how fast it should happen, but don't languish in the 'nice guy' zone, being too 'respectful' to do anything. Take a risk, you're likely to get rewarded.

Those are a couple of simple rules, guildelines and ideas I've learned and try to use in my life that have helped me quite a bit. I'm not spending this Valentines Day alone

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