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Hey all,

I am Hindu male, who has fallen in love with a white english woman. We have been together for about a one and half years, and our relationship is very healthy. Recently, well about 7 months ago I told my parents about our relationship and since then things have never been the same at home.

My parents dont want to make any time to meet her and think that i am making the wrong choice of life as my culture and religion will be forgotten by my next generation. I completely understand that, because of my choices in life i will be given up some parts of my religion, although my partner has given up parts of her life by learning about the culture, religion and the language in most of her spare time.

After long conversation with my partner about her not been able to meet and them, my partner has asked me to make a choice between her or my family.

If i choose her i will lose my parents and family, and if i choose them then i will lose the person i love.

All i need is some advise of anyone who has been there and experienced issues like these, and whether if there is a way of re-solving this type of issue without everyone involved getting hurt.

Hope to hear from someone soon.

Hi there & Namaste;

I felt an immediate need to respond to your thread my friend...
I am an english (White) woman who 6 months ago married my husband (British Indian/Hindu) in two ceremonies to reflect the coming together of our beautiful cultures, so was saddned to see that you are experiecing such turmoil!

I understand your parents fearing that you and your future children will loose parts of the culture & religion or it will be diluted and meaningless..not to be disrespectful to you as i would never do to my hubby..but the more religion and culture is forced upon someone, the chances are that wither they will in turn reject said culture/religion or become so obsessed with it, it becomes dangerous.

your parents need to be shown that your girlfriend isnt a monster that wants to take you away from being indian or hindu...because thats impossible and quite silly.

As i have embraced Hinduism myself i understand that you both need to sacrifice to make it work, but you can do this through prayer/communication & love.
Hindu principles lie in the Santana Dharma which teaches all religions are a pathway to god,therefore making everyone on gods earth 'Hindu' until such time as they find their path to god, be that staying in Hindu path or following others such as Islam or Judaism.


i pray that you dont give up on your relationship, if you want to talk to others like me then join our forum..

www.mixedmarriage.net (its not all married couples. ones in the same situation to you, dating but in love) hope i helped a little

Om Namah Shivaya..

Hi Hindu,
I understand what you are going through. And I understand that you really do love this girl and want everything to work out fine with her and your parents. But you have to realize that your parents have been there for you when no one else has and will always be. I'm not telling you to chose your parents over your love...sit your parents down and tell them how you feel about the situation. To me I think it depends on what age you are to choose who you want to be with....If you are under 18 then you should listen to your parents because by doing mixed relationships you would have to face a lot of obstacles along the path. But if you are older do what pleases you. Another question would be....How does her parents feel about you and her?

hit me back up and let me know!!!!!
and my name is Whitney

hi, i have just read about the problem you are having with your relationship.

i have been in the same position although i am an english girl and my partner was pakistani, although my mother accepted that he was a good friend to me and also a good person when i told her that he was now my boyfriend he was no longer welcome at our house, she thinks that ethnic groups should stick with only ther own kind when it comes to love but i disagree and like you i had to make the choice, stay with my partner or leave him for my mother, she is a single parent and has brought me up on hber own since i was a baby, so i chose her, and although you love your girl i advise you also to choose your family as one day although your love is strong you may break up and it is then when you will need your family to support you, if i was you i would continue to see your partner but hide it from your family and ask your girlfriend to try and understand that you need them both and this is the only way you can have them, if she cant accept those terms i am sorry but the best thing would e for her to find someone whose parents will acept her and you do the same