A Conversation for Death Of A Husband (UG)

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Post 1

Galigan

this is an immensely powerful piece of writing. if it's true then my heart goes out to you and your family. if it's not true then i praise you for your amazing creativity and ability to put so much emotion into such a simple style. an excellent work. beautiful and devestating at the same time. a wonderful read which did all but bring tears.


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Post 2

helga danielsen

Hi Galigan, thank you for your kind words. Yes, it was true, a long time ago, but it poured out of me like this only recently. Still can make me cry too! F.


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Kat - From H2G2

You're right Galigan, it is wonderful writing isn't it? We've all been incrediably grateful to Farawaylady for having shared it with us because it really is special and has brought a lot to many readers. in the UG offices we all sat around talking about how moving it was and what good writing, and it's not that often we do that.

Thank you again Farawaylady.

Kat


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Post 4

Galigan

maybe it suddenly poured out of you recently because you've finally been able to accept it. whatever the reason it's a wonderful piece of writing.


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Post 5

Pdmatthew - Probably In a corner somewhere with a guitar

Yea it was certainly a pleasure to have worked closely on this one smiley - smiley


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Post 6

helga danielsen

Oh Kate, this is the kind of remark that warms my heart and sporns me on. Thank you!


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Post 7

helga danielsen

Accept its the word, yes.


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Post 8

Knowledge is power! (I'm feeling quite powerless!)

Deepest sympathy!


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Post 9

kelli - ran 2 miles a day for 2012, aiming for the same for 2013

Farawaylady, this is a beautiful piece of writing. Thank you so much for sharing it with us smiley - smiley


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Post 10

Blue-Eyed BiPedal BookWorm from Betelgeuse (aka B4[insertpunhere])

smiley - brave
Farawaylady, my heart was broken by your emotive words, your clear remebrance, your full candor, your disjointed recollection. I have lived through the experience with you and have felt the pang of loss. You have opened your heart and poured it out onto a page, and I can only hope there is still much more within to sustain you. I can but believe that your children found their mother again, that you found them to be a shared treasure between you and your husband--beautiful, priceless, and worth protecting. I can only imagine that their eyes and smiles and mannerisms helped remind you of the man that helped you fashion such lovely people into flesh-and-blood, that they have grown to be fine, strong, loving men and women, and that they have nurtured their own families with the same abounding love they saw engendered between you and your man. If you find a moment, tell me how it has been since then.
smiley - brave
B4itakestock2realizehowdearmywife&childrenare2me


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Post 11

helga danielsen

Hello there! I am glad you liked what I wrote. I only don't understand why you called it disjointed. Could you explain, please?
Well, what happened since then? Long story. I just posted what happend only two weeks ago which is still relevant, very relevant, to my husband's death. You can find it on my page, if you are interested and is called "The last rose".
What happend before that is that I got panic attacks, all the kids and I were simply thrown out of balance and took a long time to get back to more or less normal. The eldest, male, left university into which he had just been admitted, now lives in another town, married and has four (1) beautiful girls that look like Germans. The second, female, finished university, started working, achieved positions I am terribly proud of and currently works for the government in this country, living in the capital Brasilia, which they call Phantasy Island because live there is completely different from any other town here. It is good there! The third, male, lives on a property, grows fruits, married, has a lovely little boy. The fourth, female, became a widow only a few month after the married, has one boy and both live with me. God has found me and gave me feith, which saved me and I have found another man, who considers himself father to my grandson and we all try to be happy. I have tried to build another happy marriage, but that was not possible. All men are different and this one cannot surrender himself, he has to be in command and so real intimacy, complicity does not exist. Since 'the last rose' happend to me, I still walk on clouds. Much of what happened to me is in my stories, they are all autobiographical. Now it is your turn, Why are you interested in what happened after? Will you tell me? Love, F


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Post 12

helga danielsen

Hi there again Bookworm! I wrote what I wrote, but later on I thought that that might not be what you wanted to know, it was pretty superficial and, by the way, I forgot that my second daughter has two beautiful girls too, which make it eight grandchildren. I looked in on your page and was amazed by all the details you give, but you do not say if you ever loved..... Greetings, F


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