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Hey All, i just thought id post this.

I realised i was gay 4 weeks ago, and have been living the life of a closet queer. I accepted it instantly, and have adapted pretty well. Theres some catches:

- I cant be proud about it, as i live with my family and some very prejudice friends.

- I'm the worse liar in excistence.

- I am in a league of my own when it comes to intelligence, so nobody can truelly understand my plea in real life.

- I'm 14. Nuff said.

Any advice for surviving, finding love, and having a good time being Young and Queer? Thanks.

- CS

Hiya CS, I'm just going to put my responses to your specific points.
>>I cant be proud about it, as i live with my family and some very prejudice friends<<
Is it pride you're wanting or openness? I'm no more proud of my sexuality than I am of my blue eyes or brown hair. If it is openness you want then you've come to the right place, you can be as open or proud as you want on here.
As for your parents and friends, they might surprise you, mine certainly did. In mhy experience prejudice is something that tends to fade when a person is exposed to that thing, especially when a loved one is involved. That said, waiting might be a good idea as coming out can unleash a horde of nasties and it can take strength to deal with it. Problem is no-one can tell you if you're strong enough, it's up to you to decide.

>>I'm the worse liar in excistence<<
In which case they might already have some idea, my lot did and I'm a pretty convincing liar

>>I am in a league of my own when it comes to intelligence, so nobody can truelly understand my plea in real life<<
I'd advise you come down from your high horse (in the nicest possible way) Intelligence has nothing to do with empathy, if you tell them people will find a way to understand. In terms of raw intelligence I might be smarter than most of my family and a good portion of my mates, it doesn't mean they can't understand me, indeed I have a couple of friends who understand me better than I do

>>I'm 14. Nuff said<<
Might be a little patronising here but bear with me. Early and mid-teens are a hectic time even for the luckiest of us (I've only just escaped the tyranny of being a teenager) and everything seems like the biggest deal ever. It will settle down and sort itself out.

General advice? Find places where you can be yourself, youth groups etc are great places to hang out and be yourself with people like you
Finally if you figure out the secret to love, let the rest of us know
Good luck, Iago

Im gonna reply to your replies to my points, heh.

>>I cant be proud about it, as i live with my family and some very prejudice friends<<

pride? I guess its openess i mean. Im just used to hearing the term gay pride, its my general term for being openess and such.

>>I'm the worse liar in excistence<<

Im too young for them to tell, and too shy and camp as it is for them to pin it on me. My way of talking is pretty flamboyant, so theyd never notice.

>>I am in a league of my own when it comes to intelligence, so nobody can truelly understand my plea in real life<<

its probably angst, you know? I want to make a scene. The dramatic, misunderstood, downtrodden teenager who nobody really gets but is the most important person around...

>>I'm 14. Nuff said<<

I have it pretty easy considering. Not much depression, no acne, and i fit in fine.

my own plans? I might start taking to wearing something that states im gay, but not too obvious. There arent any armbands with "pride" on them, are there? Or pink triangle bracelets?

Regardless, thanks for the advice.

>>its probably angst, you know? I want to make a scene. The dramatic, misunderstood, downtrodden teenager who nobody really gets but is the most important person around<<
Man do I know this feeling. It isn't something that goes away either, at least it hasn't with me but I just enjoy it these days.

I think you can get armbands that support AIDs and these are a pretty big signal but to be honest I've never understood codes and never really use them, I just be myself.

You seem pretty intelligent and self-aware so my guess is you'll be fine, better prepared for it than I was.
Iago

thanks for the help Iago. When i get the secret of love sorted, youll be the first to know ^.^