h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Awwwww! We don't care if you're a Demon or a Biro - we love you all the same

Well done to you. I was impressed myself.

I've got multiple alter egos. The most recent is basically "Venus in Red", though she isn't named Venus (I figgured that joke was dead).

~Irving

No problemo amigo.

I shall doubtless have to have a big cape-removal soonish, but there are various factors, to do with people on this site, that complicate things a little...

Ah RL friends and the like or something?

Not exactly...

Not going to say much, because I really don't know what to do about it. It's all really awkward... Hmm...

I shall have a think!

So how many distinct researchers are there and how many are alter egos of established members?

Doesn't it say something about the place if so many people have to set up new accounts to say something they believe in?

Well, half of h2g2 is of course Abi...

As to saying something about the place - I'm going to write a journal entry about this...

I'm not sure I understand... are you saying *you're* someone else as well, Tony? My alter egos are just for fun, every once in a while, and I usually quickly discard them.

~Irving

Look the clues were all there, it was a well thought out start that Tony had, the links were all there. I think he must be someone else, but I'm not going to pressure him into disclosing who he is. The anonimity of it all was a great help to me, so I think in this case the mystery worked.

It's a bizarre thing. Half the reason I don't want to say who I 'really' am is that I don't want people to think of me differently. Now the 'big' thing to do would of course be to say 'People shouldn't think of me differently because of that' and just tell them, but as it is it's simpler just to separate things right now.

So yes, I'm someone else too. I'm not really this one sided!

Yeah I can understand the separating things completely but the problem comes when you meet someone you'd like to integrate into the rest of your life but then you face the:
do I carry on the deceipt and fill in over time and hope that it goes okay
OR
do a hugely contrived - some things you should know - type conversation before anything happens?

Which is my current problem - any suggestions?

Huh. I'm afraid I just don't know.

So I take it this deceipt directly affects the other person?

If so you need to clear it up.

If it's just an id you use on-line with no bearing on them, but they know you are on-line, I don't see too much problem, unless, that has affected them.

It's not an online thing and it's not even something that directly affects the person concerned. It's more a case of trying to keep life simple by keeping most of my life separate from the people I see at school and just being a much less complicated person. I would like to let this person see the other sides to me but I don't know whether softly softly or all at once is better.

I guess you kind of have to tailor it to your audience. Sorry, theatre people think of everything in terms of audiences. Or at least I do. But you do have to think about the person you're wanting to have this relationship with, and whether she's going to be more comfortable taking things slowly or getting them all at once. You don't want to hide things, but you don't want to scare her away, either. At least, that's how I would approach it...

No relationship is ever straight forward there are always new hidden depths to be uncovered. Now I have a bit of a fuller picture it's simply a case of letting what is revelvant for the now come out, there will be occasions when the two of you will feel comfortable about discussing the past then the depth will start to be filled in.

However remember te golden rule. What is behind you is part of you now, just be who you are now, how you got there isn't so important as how you've learnt to become you along the way.

"However remember te golden rule. What is behind you is part of you now, just be who you are now, how you got there isn't so important as how you've learnt to become you along the way."

That is a great piece of advice. 'She' is actually a 'he' but the problem was that I wanted to be honest about who I see myself as and what I've done before without being too scary.

I'm pleased to report that it's all now going swimmingly
Thanks for the advice both of you.

No problem Cathy. I've been through enough heartbreak to learn a thing or two along the way. Glad to be of assistance.

Objection, your honour!!!

Surely you've been through enough heartache *and* enough good experiences to learn a few things. None of this exclusively negative stuff here, please, young man!