h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Perhaps I'm just not a very good judge of character.

Judging character is a learned skill. You already have the ability to observe and judge what you see, but the key to judging character is projecting the character trait years down the line. A trait that seems desirable, after being with it for a while can turn into an annoyance.

So how do you judge me?

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I'm not sure. You write longer posts than most people I talk to. You're offering lots of healthy imnformation which makes me think that you care about other people. You know my friend, Lizza pretty well so I think that you do actually bother to get to know people. Further than that, I can't see. What about me?

I see you as a pretty and petite girl who likes to have the "hard edged" image. I can tell by your postings that you are very intelligent, but young, life has not taught you some of the hard lessons yet. I think you can do whatever you want to but your not sure exactly what you want to do.

Wee, how close am I?

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Oh by the way, you forgot the say that I'm a notorious flirt.

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That is impressive. Yeah, I'm petite, I'm only 5 ft and very slim. You've just about summed up my image, black nail varnish and spikes. Unfortunately I don't get much pocket money so most of the time I can't affored my rather expensive "hard edge" image. I'm generally reckoned to be intelligent, if not very clever. I feel intelligent, which is some consolation. I can't help but be a little naive at 13 years old, I haven't had much experience at life yet.
We can all do anything, if we put out minds to it. I always think I know what I want, but I never do anything to make it real. For example, what I want most of all right now is to talk to Connor (a certain #1 Crush) but I'm way too shy.

Give up being shy, it is only a hindrance (I KNOW). If you want to talk to Connor (Connor is also the name of my son) then walk up to him, (when he is by himself, not when he has a bunch of friends around him) smile and say, "Hello, my name is Jo." This will open the door for him to say something back and then (trumpet fanfare) you're talking to him.

Yes I know that it's hard, but if you want it then go for it.

If you're shy and don't talk to people, people will see you as stuck-up and to good to speak to them. Give up being shy.


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You see, the thing is, he's quite quiet too and he listens to headphones lots which makes it hard to start a conversation but it should be relatively easy to cacth him on his own.

ww, cute, how old's your son?

You see, the thing is, he's quite quiet too and he listens to headphones lots which makes it hard to start a conversation but it should be relatively easy to cacth him on his own.

Aww, cute, how old's your son?

Sorry, I just had to correct that typo.

My Connor is 4 years old.

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Aww, cute.

He's very cute, he takes after me.

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He can't be very modest then.

Being modest or boastful is self-deception. True knowledge of yourself and expressing that is neither modest nor boastful, just a statement of fact or opinion. So I'll ask you, are you pretty?

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I've got to go. I'll try to check in over the weekend or I'll talk to you monday.

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OK, but meanwhile, I'll answer your question.
No, I'm not pretty at all.
That is not self-deception or anything like that, I'm just not pretty. I try to tell myself that it doesn't really matter, as long as I'm a nice person to be around nobody cares what I look like. But it's strangers or people who don't bother to get to know me who I hate. Cos they just walk up to me and call me ugly to my face. It's just wordlessly horrible and I feel like saying to them "Are you in any position to place judgement on me because of what I look like?"
Grr.

Hi Jo,

In my mind's eye I see you as pretty.

I find it inconceivable / unimaginable that people "just walk up to me and call me ugly to my face.". If someone did that to me or any of my family I would punch them in the face. But you must stand up to these people, if you do not it only validates (to them) that what they are doing is right, and that is wrong. They will never learn to do better if they are not taught that what they are doing is unacceptable.

But you can change. What is it about you that you see as not pretty? Is it something that getting older (the next few years) will take care of? Then you will have to take a wait and see what develops approach. Maybe a new hairstyle or colour, new nail polish colour. Be honest, what are your good points and bad points? Accent the good points and change (if you can) or minimize the bad points.

And remember there is at least one man who sees you as pretty.

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Hmm. My reasoning was always that by ignoring them as they deserve to be ignored then I'm not incriminating myself. If I start yelling abuse at them then I'm no better than they are.

You're could be right. I just the type of person that must confront wrongs when I see them. I must have been a knight in a previous life.

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