h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

see I dont' think I've ever really been other than me and honest online, I'm fairly open about stuff

I'm not really 17 etc...

I'm pretty much me online. I'd say I'm more me online than I am in real life... I have more confidence when speaking to people online. I spose that's because I tend to be accepted more by people who can't see me...

But I don't make things up, I'm not fake online, I'm just a more open version of the 'real world' me.

TK

me too, I'm more like me online, I agree that your confidence builds and it's easier to be accepted...I've gotten more confident over the past year or so because of some of the people I've met on here. Being able to be open about things and talk about things that are going on it means that I'm not bottling things up.

I'm a bit giggly and hyper normally but I always used to feel like I had to hide that from people. I don't really anymore

I'm still a bit shy and worried about people thinking the worst of me but I've definetly come out of my shell over the past year

My friend who's at uni with me and went to the same school has said that I changed tremendously over the summer holidays between school and uni... became more outgoing and less depressive.

I spose it's been exagerrated even more over the internet as I'm even more outgoing.

TK

most of my friends have known me since I was 6...they commented recently that they couldn't believe how much mor4e confident and happy I'd become over the summer and even the past few months

Yeah, some of my friends have said that, but most of them didn't know me before- I don't keep in touch with most of my 'friends' from school.

Basically had a clearout of the people that weren't worth it and found there weren't many from school left. I'm much happier now without them- my new friends are better friends and don't make me feel like I'm in the way.

Still not exactly a lady magnet though, That's an altogether different problem :-S

TK

well I have a small group of friends I wouldn't get rid of for the world, they may not be perfect but they're fun and they've always been there for me.

And don't worry, I haven't even had a boyfriend yet!

My small group of friends is better than any big group of friends, and I wouldn't change them for the world.

I find that suprising. I've had one girlfriend, that was 3 years ago. She dumped me for my best mate's little brother, and wasn't incredibly sympathetic about it. I guess part of my inability to attract women is probably linked to me reluctance to trust any of them. Or maybe I'm just ugly.

TK

there are about three to about five people in my main group of friends I would be reluctant to leave behind, most of which I've known since I moved here.

why are you surprised?

it's hard to trust people when something like that happens, but trust me, not all girls are like that and there'll be someone out there for you

I dunno... you just seem to be pretty confident, and fairly likeable. Most girls I meet that I actually like have a boyfriend, so it's just suprising to come across someone who's single.

And don't say that... I can't believe how many people say that... it's just patronising and a cliche.....

TK

I don't know why I said it actually, I agree with you, hate it when my friends say "oh don't worry it'll happen"

Well in RL I@m not as confident as on here...well I mean I'm better now than I was but anyway being likeable isn't always a good thing, sometimes if you're a nice person people think you're only there to get things out of.

I thought I was on the brink of something at the start of the year...but he ended up being a dick and dating someone I considered a friend until I realised that she's not as nice a person as I thought (this isn't just because she was dating the guy but because she just isn't) kinda knocked my confidence a bit recently.

ach it's the kinda thing that you know it'll happen eventually but up until it does that's the last thing you wanna hear from anyone else...least of all anyone who's coupled up.

Glad you agree with me :D

All my friends are all either paired up or heavily christian (i.e 'married to god'), and it gets depressing, being the only single one. I often end up being the only person in the house at weekends because the others are all off visiting their boyfriends.
I've had my confidence repeatedly knocked by similar experiences and now have none whatsoever in the realm of male-female relations.

There's nothing more annoying than a couple being maliciously happy at me...

TK

yeah, my closest friends are all coupled up together so I always end up playing goosebury, I hate it and it does bring you down but I always feel stupid bringing up my concerns to them because they just do the "it'll happen" thing.

Took me until last week to tell my friend Ali (who's coupled with my friend Grant) about all the s**t that happened at New Year with the guy, she now knows why I've been like I have recently and completely understands.

Still doesn't stop her and her boyfriend having snogging sessions mid way through conversations with me.

Hmm. My housemate Jenny has her boyfriend up every so often, and when he's here they literally spend all weekend out in her room. Even when I'm the only other person here, the only time I see them is when they come in for dinner or breakfast, and even then I feel like I'm in the way.

Bex has Ryan over, but they're not too bad- at least he'll sit and have a beer and a chat with me, but I do have added problems.... Bex' room being the one above mine...

It seems like everyone goes off to visit their respectives at the same time, so it's all the more depressing when no- one's here, or even worse when Jenny+ boyf ARE here and being antisocial.

Gah! Depressing! Let's talk about something else!

TK

oh last note on that subject before we get away from it...

I always feel like i'm in the way when I'm with my friends seeing they all seem to be coupled up, even though they want me to be there, I mean Ali and Grant aren't that bad, apart from the kissing mid sentence thing, that's just making, but I can sit with them and girly fight with Grant or have a laugh with Ali...Coe and Lisa it's easy and hard, they're only a recent development and although they're not at the really gooey phase you can see it's just round the corner and that they have all these private jokes and do things at the weekend and go out places...so I always feel left out of the joke.

I love going out with them all but I always feel awkward going places with them because I feel really lonely with them.

nevermind next topic

You sound in pretty much the same situation as me At least I know there's someone else out there in the same place now!

Anyway, yeah, next subject? What will it be?

TK

I dunno...seen any good films recently?

Er.... saw Narc on friday. That was pretty good, even with a £5.50 ticket price (and that's after student discount!)

cool bit expensive though, god for double that I could get myself a years entry to my local cinema (one payment you just go when you want)

It was in Leicester square (London). Not the big famous one where all the premiers are, but a small dusty one round the corner.

There's another one nearby where you can buy a year's pass for £5, and lifetime membership for £15!

TK