h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Couldn't be happier!

I rec'd a telephone call this afternoon. "Your services are not required tomorrow as we're all out for the day."

Jesus loves me and wants me for a sunbeam! I get an extra day's holiday!!!

I don't have to put on my battle wear on Friday!

I can take 'er-in-doors' out for dinner tomorrow!

I'm so stoked! No more 'courtsey' car.

Got my bus back this week! Bliss! She's a big thirsty animal but, oh so quiet, so fast, such effortless driving. I do a lot of miles!

My arthy back is cushioned in thick, soft but supportive leather seats. Aircon! Oh, I love me old tank soo much!

JOY!

THe world is GOOD! And, Ace Feisor, person, so are you!

Your exuberance and joy is contagious.

Thank you.

And thank you for the compliment


Have a wonderful day!!

Try this..Pickled Walnut and Steak pie with...whatever takes your fancy!

Gorgeous! No calories in that one!

No calories? Okay - I'll believe anything

Hi.....Feisor!

Last time we spoke I was the happiest creature in God's universe.

Since then, everything that could go wrong, has! That's not strictly true....I don't have a terminal illness.

I've been suspended from one of my teaching venues! I have had an allegation made against me. This is very, very serious!

I have been accused of doing 'something' to one of my students!

Now, I know that you don't know me from Adam and I could very well be a bunny boiling Dr Evil as far as you know.

I'm soiling myself here. I have no idea what I have been accused of and I don't know when the authorities will come 'a visiting' to TEST me!

My only source of solice is that, the Area Manager in charge of that home said she wasn't firing me!
I've been having panic attacks, palpitations, nausea and sleepless nights. I can feel my own pulse in my head. I'm going mad with fear and worry!

Oh! I really feel for you ...

You're right, I don't know you from Adam, but my impression is that you are a good person and a dedicated teacher.

Are you getting support from somewhere? Your union or professional association?

Can you see your GP and get some help for the panic attacks etc?

I am sure that there are lots of people who know the sort of person you are, can you get some character references from them?

I don't know what to say, except hang in there, take any help that you can get - I am sure that the Truth will see you through.

If you are willing to talk about it in public, there may be people here who can help - perhaps they have been through similar experiences .... If you feel that you want to try that avenue, post your question at <./>AskH2G2</.> where you will reach a good cross section of the community - remember to indicate your question in the subject box, but remember that this is a very public forum - there are NO private conversations

Stay in touch ....

Hello Feisor,

Thanks for the hints and tips, I appreciate it.

I summoned up the courage to telephone the APT (Adult Protection Team) today.

Guess what, no one in. I'll have to wait until friday now to find out what is going on. At least I know when they are going to make contact though, even if they aren't very helpful then.

This is not doing me any favours 'health wise' at all.

I feel that I'm in more control now though, I've done something positive. My dear old Dad used to say "Always take the fight to the enemy..get into the net first"

I'm not a very brave person though. I hate confrontation. I have difficulty putting my students 'straight' because I don't want them to get upset.

It's so esay to be brave for other people. A different ball game entirely when you are the person in trouble.

Watch this space.

I wonder if they'd allow me internet access from the Iron Bar Hilton?

Take much care
Benson

I sense a good bit of "fight" in that last post - Good On You!!

A friend of mine once gave me some good advice when I was in a rather difficult situation. It was not like your situation (I think) but the advice might help.

Sit down and calmly imagine that it's not you in the situation - imagine that it's someone that you know going through it. Imagine yourself as someone on the outside looking in and think about what you would advise that person to do.

This allows you to (hopefully) consider all options dispassionately. It worked for me at the time and helped me feel a little more in control.

And please let those people around you support you as they can - it's at times like these that you need to talk to the people who care about you.

I'll be watching this space and thinking of you

Hello Feisor.

Thank you ever so much for the advice in your bon mot.

I told one of my Care Home Managers my situation and he said he believed me and is coming to the police station to give me support!

He said he'd throw a sicky as I looked ill!

He's been an absolute tower of strength!

Monday 11:45 I stand before the grim face of the LAW! To be "INTERVIEWED UNDER CAUTION!" EeeeeKKK!

I've been told by my solicitor that it's probably nothing to get stewed up about as if it was, the Feds would have been much quicker out of the blocks. YEAH, right!

I'm not so sure, I've never had any contact with the Police before, well, not to 'help them with their enquiries' anyway. I haven't even had a speeding ticket.......Which is quite surprising really.

I'll let you know what happened to me as soon as I either, know.....or get out of prison!! nervously

I'll tell you this Feisor, if and when this fiasco is over. I'd love to meet the basket whose made this allegation. NO! Revenge only embitters the soul. Sooo tempting though. If only they realised the stress and anguish they've caused me!

Anyway, here's hoping it all comes out in the wash
Thanks again, you're an excellent person!

It sounds like you have the right kind of support and the right attitude

Don't forget to let me know how you get on

And remember "Living well is the best revenge." Whoever it was will be spitting chips when you come out of this smelling of roses and proving to be stronger for the experience.

Hello Feisor!

Well, what can I say? The entire exercise was a farce!

The good Dectective Constable and my Solicitor were laughing at me! ON TAPE!!! My Solicitor asked me to tell the Police woman about a piece I'd written regarding 'barriers to learning' I'd submitted as part of my degree. I didn't want to as it was very very hard on care staff quality. He said it would strengthen my case so I did and they both dissolved in fits. I was quite upset, I explained that I was glad they thought it so funny but I didn't....I was fighting for my career and my livlihood. If found guilty I'd be 'struck off'.

They stopped laughing and apologised. They then explained that I had only vocalized what they had both experienced. They aren't supposed to express views like that in an interview under caution!!! Neither of them were taking the case very seriously

The case against me was very very weak, fortunately.

I was accused of assault and battery. My accuser saw me assaulted, according to him anyway, and did nothing, he then apparently saw me, hold my student in a SWAN restraint! I've never been trained in restraint! So apparently I have gifts and talents I didn't know I had! How cool is that? Anyway, he did nothing about that either.

The whole thing was ridiculous from start to finish

THe Police woman said, off tape, that I'd know that day whether or not they would proceed with a prosecution. She then said, that a prosecution was about as likely as the sun going out.

She actually apoligised for the stress and for the 'pickle' I found myself in and said it happens all the time.

I asked my solicitor to send me his bill and he said "No, this one's on me, I haven't had such a laugh in months! I'll claim legal aid on your behalf."

I called the POVA team, absolutely useless! They told me to ring the manager of the home and when I did, she said I was absolutely blameless and asked if would come back. I said I wasn't sure that I could.

She said she understood that but get this, she said 'Benson, please come back, the students love you and so do we.' So I said I would. I put the phone down and burst into tears.

Thanks ever so much for your help. It's going to cost me a fortune in scotch though as a token of my thanks to those that helped me.

So my reign of terror can begin again!

I'm not looking forward to seeing my accusor though. I might well be guilty of assault then!!! Seriously though, that's going to be awkward.

THanks again

Great News!!

And at least you know that they appreciate you at the home.

Don't worry about the accuser - he'll be feeling a lot more uncomfortable than you will. Maybe you should be super magnanimous - that would intensify his guilt

Take the positives out of the whole situation and try to ignore the negatives.

Congratulations again

Dark, very dark....I don't like the emotions I am feeling at the moment towards someone who would attempt to destroy my career, my name and the relationships I have fought hard to establish.

Very, very ugly thoughts at the moment, it will take time to 'find' myself again..A lot of damage has been done.

Ignoring a wickedness is very hard to do and I am not sure I have that kind of strength.

I said to the homes's manager, I am not sure I can return. She persauded me that I could.......I've said I will but.......I'm sure you understand my anger

I'm glad I've been cleared but.....I have a lot of healing to do, for myself. I have been wounded...badly. The sleepless nights persist, hence the time of my response 01:40 ish.

Take care...much care

Understanding the feelings you are having is a good start

It's absolutely normal to feel betrayed - I know that it's easy for others to say "Get over it" but it's almost like grieving for yourself and you will get over it but in your own time and in your own way.

Take your time - pamper yourself a little ...

I just had an idea

Why not write a letter to the person concerned to verbalise your feelings (DO NOT SEND IT!!! ) It may help the process ...

Hello Feisor,

your idea is inspired! Thank you! I have done this before and very theraputic it is too! I did it years ago and fully intended to send it! The vitriol, the venom, the bile and spleen! Pure unadulterated malice, syphoned up from hell's very own pit of hatred.

Fortunately, my wife sent in the interceptor squadron and shot it down before I got the stamps out!!

I went back today and was pampered rotten! Even my most damamged students hugged me inappropriately!

I went home early as I felt quite emotional. I explained to the Manager my feelings and she said. "If you feel worried or anxious or angry, ring us. We are here to support you. We want you and need you. You don't see the difference you make but we do!"

A lovely thing to say..........but....I'm still incandecsant with unburned fury.

Time will tell.

So, now you know what a difference you make to those around you. How lucky you are ... some people never find out (until the eulogy )

There's another positive

It's weird. I'm very happy that I've been welcomed back but.........somehow I feel 'holed below the waterline' I've unresolved issues.

This 'show' may run and run.

I'm an egotistical so and so with lots of flaws. I need to be loved and if that's been questioned, I feel it.

It's situations like this that reflect things about yourself that maybe aren't very pretty! Lots of nasty soul searching going on.

Perhaps I have a trait which isn't very healthy, both for me and my students.

THanks once more for your support!

"Perhaps I have a trait which isn't very healthy, both for me and my students."

Stop being so negative - you ARE loved and needed! Accept it and appreciate it. We all have traits that we are not proud of, that's the drawback of being "self aware" Recognising them, accepting them and overcoming them is all part of growth.

I'm sorry if I sound a bit strident but really, when it comes down to tin tacks, is there really something else that you would rather do? It sounded to me that, although you had doubts about whether you were doing the right thing, you enjoyed your job.

You're absolutely right Ace Feisor!

I do love my job, even if the suspension was a bit gruesome!

Goes with the territory, so I'm told....Hmm, I'll have been playing the game for ten tears (freudian slip) years in february and apparently I've had a very good run.

It's the training I guess, introspection is part of the act. Like a religion, self evaluation is vital. Trouble is, get on the 'wrong' side of yourself and all the negatives start to come out!

Had a blinding day today...'Good to see you back Mr Benson' (college)
That's good I said....because I now have a really bad attitude and feel like crushing some student teachers!

I think some of them actually believed me ....bless. Rebecca! Poor kid, she's half my age and has done really well...She's one of the wobblers. You know that 'look' some people give you when they are not entirely sure you're joking....She was very twitchy and I had to spell it out that I was joking and that she had nothing to worry about. Apparently I can do a very good impression of being 'cross'

I'm slowly getting my gyro's recalibrated. It's only a week since I was 'acquitted' and so everything is still a bit raw!

It's only me though! Everyone else is stoked I'm back in business!


Fools Fools !!! My empire of EVIL will only grow as a result!

Today was truly excellent! Benson's back

Thank you Ace Feisor...It's good to talk to someone you don't know sometimes!

Take care and you'll never really know what an important source of support you've been! Which is shame really, because you should

Sounds like things are getting better

Just remember that I'm here for the occasional kick up the ar$e when it's needed.

I would dearly love to be appreciated as much as you seem to be - especially when you are doing such a worthwhile job